Its been a long time since I wrote something with some substance other then Erotica stuff, and Im thinking today I will write something on being "Judgmental" I know many of you have seen the way I am in chat. Im a free spirit who has a passion for making people laugh. I believe in making people feel good about themselves and Im also a consummate flirt. My flirting has a way of making women either feel good or making them take it a little further then I want it to go, In the later of the two, I feel I have unintentionally hurt some people and if this is the case I am sorry. However, I am tired of being categorized as a player, and or something I am not, in other words being judged. The definition of "Judgmental" by the way is something of or relating to, or dependent on judgment.
Another definition would be a person who is inclined to make judgments, especially moral or personal ones. I really there isnt anyone here on Fubar who has a right to judge anyone, it is a chat site where the majority of people are full of themselves and have nothing better then to judge other people. I wont be a part of this, and I will rise above this type of morale inconsistency!
I don't know about you...but it seems to me that "You're being "Judgmental" is just the modern code phrase for "I'm not getting my way". I really feel that this basically states the majority of how all people really are. You see, if a person doesnt get there way, lets say in a romantic setting, then there is a judging process of what is really going on that happens. In other words, I would think I am being played. There is always outside sources who have an opinion of other people and its these so called friends that can actually damage a relationship all through being "Judgmental!"
Furthermore, It occurs to me that when someone says, "You're being judgmental" he/she is guilty of the very same thing. In other words, the person who accuses another of being judgmental is, in fact, being judgmental himself/herself ! He/she is saying: "You are being legalistic or sanctimonious, without compassion and besides, what do you know about the situation? What qualifies you to judge?" Ouch. Accusing someone of being judgmental is a serious charge to make.
On the other hand, perhaps the one accused of being judgmental has truly behaved in a legalistic or sanctimonious manner and is, in fact, not qualified to judge.
The thing is, we are NOT to JUDGE others. Yes, we can judge behavior. But it's a fine line between judging the person and judging the behavior! When another's behavior is clearly sinful, we still should be very hesitant to judge that person and/or his/her behavior because we too, are sinful and in need of mercy and forgiveness.
I guess a person can take their chances and make judgements about others. Maybe they feel somehow qualified to do so. But based on what Jesus said, I think it's a thing to avoid. Im not a Bible thumper or anything but I do refer to scripture when I feel its other peoples opinions and how they judge me, when they contact the person I care for with their in ability to tell the untruths and bull about me to her. I again wont lower myself to such trivial stuff and or situations, and if the person I am or you are with then that person should feel that others opinions really matter, then that is a person you or I shouldnt be with. Im only speaking hypothetically, and in a broad range of emotion.
In the Bible it states a little something about the right for us to judge others, which isnt our right to begin with wouldnt you agree? A little scripture for those who do judge and make up stories about others (back-stabbing) to read and let it sink in their dense minds!
"Do not judge so that you may not be judged. For with the judgement you make you will be judged, and the measure you give will be the measure you get. Why do you see the speck in your neighbor's eye, but do not notice the log in you own eye? Or how can you say to your neighbor, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' while the log is in you own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your neighbor's eye." .........Matthew 7:1-5
In closing I would like to say, I will remain steadfast in my beliefs that all people truly are good. I wont however be partial to those who feel they want to judge me, cause the majority who think they know me do not. I am a private individual who is getting tired of the games, and will be pulling myself back a little in chat and chat room discussion. Ive been on and off Fubar almost 2 years and I have seen a lot of people who are well lets just say, not even close to being real. Unfortunately I feel I have been real a little too much, and I am just now getting some old friends back on my friends list who remember me the way I was before my break up with my ex, and know I am who I say I am! I will be surrounding myself with these people cause Im sure they dont judge me, and as for the flirting and happy go lucky me, well that is fixing to be toned down.
Thank you all for reading this and I hope it has brought some light on the situations that are rampant not only in Fubar, but the internet chat sites many of you may go to. Have a good day! Tre has spoken!
One Love and God Bless!