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The information that follows is a synopsis of my thoughts and research gathered. I am certain as you read it you will be able to identify with much of the information presented. Nothing written here is new; I have provided it in an effort to allow you to begin thinking about the importance of training. Training may be appropriate for you and then it may not.
In my experience I have encountered those who say they are submissive but in actuality they have submissive longing. Those longings can be very difficult to manifest once a submissive/slave relationship begins. It would behoove the submissive to make sure this is what she truly desires and search one’s heart before embarking upon a training regime that could be fruitless for both the submissive and the dominant.
Training involves education and re-education, in essence the delving deeply into what the submissive/slave knows and then reformatting and instilling new thoughts, acceptance and understanding of her role. Training also involves learning how to adjust and become acclimated to one’s new surroundings, new role, and expectations from the dominant. It takes time and considerable effort on the part of the submissive and the dominant. The submissive/slave must make sure she understands the goals of her Master. She should then focus her effort to accept the goals and adopt them as her own. Training will only be successful if she accepts her Master’ goals and works diligently to meet them.
The submissive/slave should make sure that she is a match with the dominant. Both the submissive and the dominant should make sure they have developed a connection and relationship that will be comfortable for both and that they are a match for each other.
It is very unfortunate when a submissive or the dominant realizes after considerable time has passed that they are not a match for each other. Not only has there been lost time but losing the deep connection made between the two can be devastating.
Training for the submissive is not passive in any way. The submissive must be engaged and willing all along the process. She must be willing to openly contribute and share her ideas and feelings with her Master. Not only is the journey one that will change the submissive’s thinking about her role, it will also impact her behavior, emotions, self image and thoughts.
There must be a feeling of belonging felt by the submissive/slave the submissive must accept she is owned by her Master. In doing this she must make a conscious decision to give the decision making responsibilities to her Master. The feeling of belongingness and acceptance is key to the success of the training for the submissive/slave and will help develop a long lasting ongoing relationship. Developing trust is key in acceptance. Knowing one’s dominant and the level of trust developed will allow the submissive to more easily accept her control. The submissive/slave must feel comfortable knowing:
Ø The dominant has the knowledge and skills necessary to re-educate and re-socialize her,
Ø Will insure her safety
Ø will keep her safe,
Ø Will accept her gift of submission and accept ownership,
Ø Will develop a plan for training and service in which the submissive/slave will feel useful and valued,
Ø The dominant possess integrity and stability.
The submissive/slave should make sure that any issues are cleared up that may remain unanswered or unclear. She may need to feel confident that her Master will not leave her if times become difficult and find ways to communicate concerns. Each slave/submissive most likely has her own issues on letting go completely and allowing the dominant full control. Communication and working together the dominant and submissive will be able to work through the issues that plague complete submission.
Demonstrating behavior that will allow the submissive to please her Master must be understood and the behavior identified. A submissive/slave’s desire to serve, obey and please her dominant is consuming. It is what he desires most of all, becoming a hunger and need that can only be filled in service. The submissive/slave’s longing to be owned body, mind, and soul is her greatest hope.
During training a well developed plan outlining the dominant’s wishes and desires will aid the submissive in behaving and serving in an acceptable manner. The submissive should always make sure she understands the plan and what is expected.
Owning the mind of the submissive is important, as well as owning her body. The dominant owns everything that has anything to do with the submissive/slave. She should be expecting and ready to accept the following:
Ø Rules, protocol and training. Nothing less than acceptable behavior will be tolerated.
Ø Training that will guide the submissive in becoming an asset
Ø Encouragement when she is successful and punishment when she fails.
Ø Discipline training
The submissive/slave must not only learn through training what is expected but also put it into practice. Learning and becoming what is pleasing to her Master brings joy to the submissive heart. The submissive/slave adapts the behavior that pleases the dominant.
The two develop a social melding in which the dominant and submissive/slave establish the absolute authority figure in the relationship. She accepts her place as property to her Master. The dominants in this case makes decisions for the submissive. It does not imply that the dominant makes all decisions only that he makes the decisions he chooses to make.
The submissive who feels the connection to her dominant and has accepted him as her owner will find it much easier to attach and allow the submissive feelings to guide her during training and throughout the relationship.
I hope the information presented allowed you some insight and opened your thinking around training. Let me know what you think
