"Too much agreement kills a chat."
Eldridge Cleaver
Many of us haven't learned there is room for disagreement in a relationship. Some who grew up in disfuntional families saw a lot of pain, anger, and quarreling. Many learned to be always pleasing and agreeable, no matter how they felt. Others took it as a personal insult when someone disagreed with them.
We choke the vitality and excitement in our love relationships if we are too intent on avoiding conflict. Nothing can be resolved if we smooth everything over. Differences between people don't just go away. If we don't bring them out, they fester and create silent tension or boredom. If we willingly express our thoughts and feelings, we can learn how to resolve our disagreements and to appreciate each other for our differences as well as our similarities. If two people in a relationship were exactly alike, one of them would be unnecessary.
I will try to be more open about my differences with people, not as a way of fighting, but as a way of letting them know me better.
