So here it is, my first blog. Thought I'd start off with a doozy. A subject that I anticipate will garner the full spectrum when it comes to opinions. C'est la vie....we must take the good with the bad and I welcome all insights. It's a trivial matter really. One that would hardly cross a persons mind in a month, some a year, some maybe never. But it came up in a recent discussion with a friend and we were on opposing sides of this debate. It was something she had never tried and was scared to do. I myself am no stranger to the subject and have long ago embraced it as an ideal, so I felt the need to inject a little truth projected on a wrongly labelled 'taboo' subject. And just what might this subject be? Why anal sex of course.
Still with me? Excellent! Now this subject, while of course being more poignant to the male gender, is actually aimed at you women. I suppose it's obvious just what side of the debate I took in this matter. I'm fully behind this form of pleasure (please forgive the pun) and am inclined to intone its virtues whenever the chance allows. Not to say this is for everyone. Certainly not. I agree, we're not all porn stars, as my friend quickly pointed out to me. But this is one of those wonderful, magical feats of porn that can so easily be reproduced at home, sans camera and crew. All you need is a partner you trust, a full bottle of lube and some patience. And a desire to try something new sure doesn't help.
Now my friends first argument, and this is the typical one, is that that area is specifically used as an exit, not an entrance. Sex is not its purpose. Well sure, thats certainly true. But then again, the mouth, while falling into the category of an entrance, was also not designed for sexual purposes. I wont go any further on that subject, as I'm sure we all understand what I'm saying. Maybe a point of discussion in a future blog.
Argument number two. It hurts! Well, I'm not going to lie, the first time, yeah it's going to be uncomfortable. And if you don't relax, it will indeed hurt. Which is why trusting your partner is so absolutely key. Or being too obliviously blind drunk that pain at the moment is irrelevant. Trust me, not so worthwhile by the time morning rolls around. Just cause you didn't feel it then....well, take a hangover and add hemorroids. So the moral to this story: planning and preparation. No, such is not always doable. Every woman with a few years of sexual history under her belt knows about the 'slip' and boys that is usually where you lose your woman on the subject of anal. When it goes in accidentally, with no anticipation, no warning, no lube! Yes, that hurts. That's not the way to really experience it. Unless your one of those people who actually enjoy ripping the band aid off. You people just scare me.
Argument number three. And this is one I understand. It's dirty. Yep, sure is. And that's on many levels but this one is specifically about the physical. Unfortunately, you can't just forget what the true purpose of your ass is. And your ass will kindly give you a representation of said purpose. Well for this one, all I can say is get over it. More then likely you just shared a whole butt load of bodily fluids. Is this one more really going to hurt you? If your worried about embarrassment, don't. Any smart man goes into the situation armed with the knowledge then when he's done, a shower will probably be required. Which isn't so much a bad thing. A continuation of the festivities, if your so inclined.
Argument number four. How can that be pleasurable? Truly, I don't think the most gilded tongue would ever really be able to portray just how amazing it feels. So I wont really bother trying. I just have one word for all you naysayers out there: trigasm. Fantastic word isn't it. Just rolls off the tongue. This, my friends, is the holy grail of orgasms. Simultaneous clitoral, vaginal and anal orgasms. Easily the hardest to achieve, and of course the most pleasurable, as it always is with these things. But, as my friend so glibly pointed out, if its so unattainable, why bother? Throughout history man has forged ahead to reach for that which he has been told he will never grasp. If we as a species had stopped reaching, stopped trying, stopped imagining what we could do, where in and around the world we could go, just think of what a stagnant, boring race of creatures we would be. A little lofty of an ideal when compared to something such as anal sex, but in my humble opinion, fitting none the less.
So in the end, for the most part, my friend and I agreed to disagree. I just hope that she decided not to close the back door on the subject completely.
