Some people like to say it is better to have loved and lost rather than to have never loved at all. I would like to start off by saying that love is a very powerful thing. Love can transform the smartest person in the world into a blithering idiot. Love is a blissful state of mind that is almost like being on some relaxing drug which makes everything seem alright in the world. I can go on listing what I know love to be for myself but I think I am starting to stray from the point I was about to make. The thing is this; I don't think it is better to have love and lost than to have never loved at all. The reason being is as follows: You would never take a bum off the streets, put him in a 7 star hotel in Dubai, completely cater to his or her every whim and desire, and then toss him or her back out on the streets. The reason is this, if you get used to a certain standard of living or reality, it is really hard to transition and or be forced into another reality of an inferior quality. To give that bum the best week of his or her life would be equivalent to the worst possible torture you could possibly put him or her through. For the remainder of the bums days he or she will know exactly what they are missing out on. To have loved is much the same way, if you never have loved you don't really understand what you are missing. You want it because you see everyone who is in that state and they seem to be so happy and complete but you really don't understand the depths of it until you actually experience it. The experience of love I think would amount to that first time you do heroin. I have never done it myself but from what I understand it is quite addicting. The bottom line is this, you are hooked and you want to do everything you can to keep it. The thing is once it's lost you never wain off of the withdrawal. As time goes on the absence of love in your life strengthens your longing for that element back in your life. If you have never experienced love this magnitude of thirst for love isn't as apparent. A person who has not experienced love might be upset at the fact but not to the degree of a person who has loved and no longer has it in their life and never will again for that matter. It is those people who have to face this reality that are in the sorriest state of affairs. It is those who have loved and lost that have the most sorrow to endure. Not the ones who have never loved at all..
