It's always interesting how when two people start dating, they usually lose touch with some of their friends. Sometimes they will go out as other couples and sometimes a few good friends understand why they don't get to see their friend now that they are in a relationship.
You can tell who a true friend is, because regardless of what you do or how dumb your actions may seem sometimes, they still love you. Granted they'll tell you that you're an idiot, but still will support you if it's what makes you happy.
These are the people who are usually there when there is a breakup. Even though they may remember the times you didn't want to go out because you were with your significant other and they didn't get to see you as often, they're still there because they know you need them. Regardless if its just a phone call or text messasge or they take you out to try to have a good time and get your mind off of things. They'll listen to you cry or bitch and even though they don't know the right words to say, they're still there to listen. I think that's what a true friend is.
The other people who used to call themselves your "friends", on the other hand, get annoyed with your decisions. Are mad at you if you don't spend at much time with them as you used to. They try to get you to date other people, even while you are still with someone. But then they either get frustrated with you doing the same stuff over and over or they get tired of seeing you hurt and they walk away. I'm not sure if these people are not "real" friends or if they're right and just get annoyed with seeing someone being hurt and used.
In a healthy relationship, your significant other should be your best friend. It's supposed to be 50/50 and they are always supposed to be there for each other regardless. Make you feel loved and good about yourself and just work with you through shit.
Other times people get stuck in a relationship where one person is abusive, either verbally or physically, or one is just withthe other because of what they can get out of the relationship (meaning one is just using them).
And even though it seems like it's pretty cut and dry between the two, when it's you in that relationship and there's the good and the bad what do you do? Even though your friends and family think your dumb for going back, you know how the relationship truely was, both the good and the bad. Then you try to weigh the two and see which outweighs what.
It's funny though because when you have them and you're with them you see all of the bad things crystal clear and it makes you want to leave.
But then when you do break up all you can think of is the things you should've said or done differently and maybe that last argument wouldn't have turned out the way it did. Then you start noticing the little things you overlooked before or didn't mean so much until it was gone.
Everyone always says that there are more "fish in the sea" and you'll find someone who has all of the things that you want. Which is kind of a lie. Ask any couple who has been married for many many years and they'll tell you that you have to stop and look at the persons flaws and decide whether or not you can live with it. Like if someone snores, could the other partner live with that? Or if one has kids, does the other one accept the children and treat them properly or will the two constantly get into arguments over it.
I don't know, I'm basically rambling, so I doubt if I'm making much sense.
