This is likely going to shed some light on what I can be. There are fundamental flaws in this, but he DOES say that it came mostly from her.
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Subject: Setting the Record Straight.
Body: You're at a loss for words? Shame. I have plenty of my own.
Let's start at the beginning. The day after we scoped out that house, I sought counsel from a few of my friends and coworkers regarding whether or not living with you and Erica would be a good decision. I got the quick and ugly version of what kind of person you really are, and I decided not to move in. Nobody had anything positive to say on your behalf. I was warned you borrowed money you never paid back, you couldn't keep a job to save your life, lied about everything and you couldn't remotely take care of yourself. I gave you the benefit of the doubt anyways, and still kept talking to you. You had a good sense of humour and you just seemed like a guy down on his luck. I liked you and wanted to see you succeed. I just dodged a potential bullet in this instance, and it wasn't anything personal. At the time I wanted to warn Erica, but decided it wasn't really my place - and you had yet to prove to me what your quality as a person truly is.
Fast foward a brief bit. Erica had to get a credit card just to move into the place you got on Stark, and that's STILL causing her financial grief. Why? Because you didn't have any money, and none of the money I loaned you ever made it to her. You kept getting fired because you copped an attitude anytime someone didn't "respect you" - even tho you were always the new guy who hadn't proved anything to anybody. So, you were broke, insisting on driving Erica's car without a license, and she ended up footing the bill for a lot of things. I've also been told you took her grocery money on at least one occaision and later spent it on beer. You had a roomate a while - he'd give you the rent money and it never actually went towards rent. During this time, you kept coming up to me at Hive complaining to me of what a suffocating person she is, and how when you got off work, all you wanted to do was watch tv or play video games, while she just wanted to spend time with you. I gave you solid advice more than once on the matter: appreciate what you have, be good to her, realize what a great woman she is. You agreed with my point of view, and continued to treat her like she was some stupid bitch who was just getting in the way of your life. She loved you and cared about you, and you were oblivious or indifferent towards it.
Then, you get in trouble with the law again, how many times total I don't even want to know. Why this time? Because you can't even get yourself to show up in court, and yet again you let a bad situation balloon out of proportion. What do you do? As usual, you don't accept responsiblity for your situation and actions, or lack thereof, and you pass the buck to the system.
And then, after everything you put Erica through, while she stood by you, you break up with her. Next thing you're bringing home other girls to fuck in the house the two of you still share. You also tell her some bullshit story about your mother and brother dying - you claim to go the funeral or something, and somehow end up in Seattle that weekend at one of the clubs. Tell me - what kind of person does something like this? Why would anybody lie about such a thing? What reason could there possibly be to justify such a stupid and insensitive statement? To say that blew my mind would be an understatement. To say it was the most disappointing thing I've ever been told about you would be more accurate.
When you came home after being in jail and found Erica gone? That was the smartest thing that woman could have done, and you're damn lucky she didn't do it a whole lot sooner. She left because she felt endangered by you and knew when it was time to jump a sinking ship. Erica more than did her part to make things work out, both in your relationship and in your financial obligations. Time and time again she had to mop up after your endless series of issues. It's your fault you keep getting in trouble with the law, it's your fault your life is continually a mess, and it's your fault that I know the truth about what kind of person you are. You can blame Erica for telling me the truth about you, but the point is, the truth about you is a novel you yourself have authored and published for all the world to see. You can't accuse someone of talking "shit" when they speak the truth.
You have done more than show to me you are everything everyone warned me about. You are a wreckless, dangerous person who can't properly look after themself. No, I've not wanted anything to do with you for a very long time. I've tried to be a gentlemen about it and just let things go, just hoping you'd get the hint and leave us the fuck alone. You still frequently message her, and now you're giving me some bullshit apology I have no reason to believe - you've lied so much I discredit anything that comes out of your mouth and soon as it hits my ear. Besides, why apologize to me? You've not done me any harm, you've not wronged me in any way (possibly because I never gave you the opportunity). First and foremost, you should apologize to Erica for what you've put her and her family thru this past year. You're quite fortunate her father hasn't come looking for you by now - I know I would if I were in his position.
And one last thing, so we understand the situation in crystal clear clarity:
While you were screwing up left and right, I knew what a wonderful woman Erica is. Before you went to jail in December, I'd kept tabs on her to make sure she was doing okay. When she was finally freed of the mess that is you, I took her out for dinner in mid January and we hit it off. We've been together ever since, and yes, she is the one who's told me the bulk of this about you. Don't forget I've corroborated most of this with other people as well. Point is - I love Erica, and I know she is sick to death of you, sick of your bullshit, sick of your petty lies, and she wants you to leave her alone, for good. That's what she wants, that is what her family wants, and that's what I want.
With a relationship comes great responsibility. One of those responsibilities is protecting the people you love from harm. I have perfectly good reason to believe you could be a threat to her, and unless you care to make an apology to her and her family - I'm advising you now, to not come near her, not to speak to her, and not to have any contact with her. You've said all you need to say to each other. It's all over with and it needs to stay that way. If you create any kind of situation that involves me having to speak to you again about it, it's going to make this email look like a proclamation of joy and happiness. Just walk away from it - that'll be best for all involved.
Arthur, I don't hate you. I don't think you're an evil person. I think you've made your bed of nails and now you have to lay upon it. I hear you're leaving town - that's probably wise as you've burned your bridges here, and you need a fresh start. If you'd just taken a little of my advice on the issues you approached me about, your life would be a brighter place.
I'll give you a little more now, as it seems no one else has got the heart to be direct with you.
You said to me a few times that at every job you had, the boss didn't respect you, and sooner or later you'd quit or get fired. Do you know why that is? Respect is something we have to earn, thru our actions and our deeds. Bad decisions result in poor deeds and actions which result in little to no respect, and a much worse situation for all involved.
You're what, 24, 25? And you're still spanging on the sidewalk, still getting into trouble, still not getting any respect. You're an adult, and you approach the world, challenges and people like you are a teenage runaway. You never move foward, you just run to stand still. You need to turn your life around, and fast. The way you conduct yourself has gotten you no where - and it's simply time to grow up. Mature. See things for what they really are.
It's good you've accepted responsibility for your drinking - now you need to accept responsibility for the other specific things that have caused you and others grief.
I'm blocking you now, as this conversation is over. I've grown bored of trying to be friends with or help people who can't stand on their own two feet. I don't want to waste any more time or energy on it.
Live your life, be happy, but stay out of mine and Erica's.
