Eric's blog: "The Truth...and rum"

Normally I don't say anything worth hearing.

Brooke would say it is a defense mechanism.  My way of keeping people at bay.  Lots of $10 words, abstract concepts, impossible things.  It keep the "real me" hidden.

"Real me".  That term sickens me.  There is no "real".  A fake you is still you.  There is no hiding.  Not that it matters.

We were talking the other day.  I said something I felt like writing down.  We were talking about "true love" and how everyone looks for it and no one ever finds it.  It occured to me, like the mirror scene in the movie "Labyrinth", we have this all backwards.  This is an inversion of what should be, and what is.

We all say we haven't "found Mr. Right" or "Ms. Right" or whatever.  We think that there is this One Magical Person that will enter our lives and make it all better and everything will be sparkles and sunshine and cheesecake after that.  We are all looking Out There for that One Person.

I think we have it backwards.  Instead of looking for that person to come along to teach us True Love, we should instead BECOME the person that teaches True Love.  It isn't THEM that is missing from our lives; it is us.

We don't find True Love because we aren't True Love ourselves.  Stop trying to find the person and BECOME the person.

You'll never find what you don't already have.

So, I'll raise my glass of Cruzan Single Barrel rum to you, gentle reader and fellow seeker and propose a toast.

"May we all find what we wish we were"

-E.