From Oprah to Dr. Phil, from all your "girly" magazines, from all the stories you've heard from your girlfriends, a lot of women have these "conventional wisdoms" about guys that they swear are just gospel. Sad thing is, there are enough asshole guys, and enough bullshit that can be twisted around to make assumptions seem as factual. But it just isn't always the case. So many things are said about men that too many women, and too many of us men accept as true.
1. All men are DOGS!.....If that was the case, we wouldn't socialize by taking you out to eat and to the movies. We'd just sniff your ass, hike up your skirt, and fuck you sideways until someone grabs the garden hose and sprays us off of you. Most men, by nature, are visual creatures. So yes, we base a lot off of physical features. But when maturity and experience actually sets in, we know better than to just fall for a pretty face or a slim waist. And if your personal experiences have you screaming that all men are dogs, what you mean to say is that all the men YOU FUCK WITH are dogs. At some point, you have to figure out what is it about you that keeps attracting canines.
2. Guys aren't sensitive enough.....There are plenty of sensitive guys in the world. The problem most women have with a guy's sensitivity, is the timing of it. If you've had a bad day, or some horrible event has just occurred, a lot of you don't give a guy enough information to understand why you're so upset or why the situation is so bad or bleak. And if you give a guy the who, what, where, when, and why of a situation, we can usually wrap our heads around it. But most of us guys are creatures of LOGIC. 1 + 2 has to equal 3 in our heads. So if it doesn't add up right away, we might not truly "understand" the situation until we get all the facts and factors straight. But most guys will listen and be there for a woman, if you give us something to work with.
3. No man can ever have a platonic relationship with a woman........That's bullshit! Of course you can. You can have any type of relationship with anyone, IF YOU DEFINE THE FUCKING RELATIONSHIP! And yes, most men have women as "friends" that they wanna beastfuck at any given moment, but most men are respectful enough to stay within the guidelines, if there are actual guidelines to begin with. Not many people want drama, and will try to avoid it if they see it coming. However, a lot of women look at "platonic" male friends as a safety net. When you're feeling not-so pretty, you call your "friend" for him to stroke your ego. When you don't wanna feel like a loser going to the club alone, you call "Mr. Dependable". And all those free movies and dinners you got with no strings attatched? You can thank platonics for that. And if you have that "itch" and you need it scratched, that's when you blur the lines of the relationship and look at some platonic friend as a Dick in a Glass Case. "In case of an emergency, break open glass".
4. All the good guys out there are either taken or gay.......Again, that's bullshit! There are plenty of good guys out there. The problem most women have with "finding" a good guy, is basically what they're looking for. When you're young, you set your standards WAY TOO HIGH!!! Then, you meet that one guy, who becomes the guy you definitely shouldn't be with, but the guy you can't get over. Maybe it's the way things ended badly and you want to make it all good again, maybe it's the fact that he's got all these other desirable qualities when it comes to financial and domestic security, but he's just not a "people person". But most of the times, he gave you the best dick-down of your life, and every other guy you try to build a relationship with just doesn't compare to him in the sack. Either way, the reasons a lot of women come up with on why this guy or that guy isn't "good enough" is just ludicrous. If you actually got to know a man past his looks or wallet, or the fact he might not have the "career" you associate with a "good man", maybe you would find the most loyal, sensitive, funny, and incredible person you bond with. Maybe I'm asking for too much LOL.
5. A man can never be faithful.....Fidelity has very little to do with gender, even less to do with cultural background. But what fidelity has a LOT TO DO with, is your OPTIONS!!! Any man or woman with a lot of options to go one way or the other, has a greater chance to "exercise" those options. So if you have a man, and belittle him, don't show him some affection, ration out the pussy like it's on strike or some U.N.-imposed sanction, and basically take him for granted, don't be surprised if for a random moment in time, you weren't his number one option. Any man or woman has the ability to be doggedly loyal in a relationship. But at the same time, ANY man or woman can be a cheater. And if you actually practiced the golden rule once in a while, you might get a lot of that in return. You know how good sex feels. You know your man likes a blow job every now and again. You know how good it feels to hear a compliment every once in a while. So why wouldn't you return the favor? And if you refuse to, why would you be surprised your man went astray for a great blow job? Nobody goes out to a restaurant if the "home cookin'" is better.
There are so many more "misconceptions" about men out there, that it's pathetic. I just think these 5 are said way too often without merit. But honestly, any man can make them "true", but it's not something you can generalize for all men. Bottom line, communication is the key. And realize that even if it seems that all of us have something in common with each other, WE ARE NOT ALL THE SAME! So if some guy in your past fucked you over, don't take it out on the male population. Anybody should be able to start out a relationship with a clean slate. Which means a man should be able to have a chance to fuck you over in his own unique way LOL.
But hey, it's just my opinion......my word ain't law......
