Does your potential partner have to be perfect? What is it that attracts you most? Do you pass by someone who's right for you who may not have all the physical qualities you crave for someone who just looks good standing by your side? Do you choose someone based on what others may think or do you keep it real with yourself and choose someone because they make YOU happy?
I can't lie...looks do mean something. Some people only see what's on the inside...but I tell ya, it's all about the packaging with most. I don't want to be with someone I have to close my eyes to talk to face to face. He doesn't have to be perfect...but he does have to be tolerable. If his teeth are jacked up, I'll never make him smile (on purpose). So I know I won't make him happy. Why waste eachother's time?
On the other hand, if he's fine and acts like an ass, that's a turn-off. I'd have to tune him out and only think about how great we're going to look when we're having sex. Ha.
It's hard to find the total package. Especially since I already have three kids and can't have any more. Not that I'd consider it at this point anyway. My youngest is going to be 10 in July. What would I look like with a newborn? Eeeeh...
**What I hate most of all are the men who have children and don't take care of them, yet have the nerve to call themselves men and keep making babies. Now, I can understand if the mom took off on you and you have no way of tracking her down to see your kids or send them anything (although there are ways to find anyone), but if you intentionally neglect your kids, WHY would you invade a single mother's life and fill her with false hope? If you don't take care of your own kids, you won't pay her kids any mind when her back is turned. That's just wrong. That's why I don't get attached to anyone because it's hard to tell when a man is really sincere when it comes to my boys. Don't play the role to win my heart. My kids have my heart, so there's no contest. Everyone else is replaceable.**
So this is why I'm single. After years and years of making the same mistake over and over and over and over and...
I've finally discovered what's wrong.
Me.
I don't give myself enough credit and I settle. I ended up with men who didn't care what I did with my life. I thought that was great...until I noticed they weren't doing anything at all with their lives, so of course they didn't care.
When you have something going for yourself that you're proud of, you tend to be more protective of who you allow into your world. You have more confidence in yourself and therefor, you attract a whole new crowd.
So before I go and spew about what I want in a man, I need to become a woman with the qualities that particular type of man is looking for. Makes sense. I'm not a bad catch, but I could be better. Looks only get you so far...but you can only stare at a picture so long before you get bored and the picture becomes blurry.
The moral? Never ask for more than what you can give. Never expect more than you can offer. And finally, never set the bar higher than you yourself can jump.
