LURCH's blog: "4 biblical ways of life"

Power of forgiveness All too often we drift back into a tit-for-tat struggle that slams the door on unforgiveness. "Why should I make the first move? I was the one wronged. So we make no move, and cracks in the relationship appear, then widen. In time a chasm yawns open that seems impossible to cross. We feel sad, but seldom do we accept the blame. Instead, We justify ourselves and point out the small gestures we made toward reconciliation. We keep a mental accounting of those attemps so as to defend ourself incase were ever blamed for the rift. We flee from the risk of Gods grace to the security of ungrace."The unforgiveness we are holding on to, the hate, the anger is destroying our lives! We continue to let these people have control over us. Were continuing to let ourselves be victimized, over and over again, because were hanging on to the hate and because we are unwilling to forgive.""I think that many times people in this situation think that justice is what is going to heal them... And I was disappointed time after time because justice was NOT forfilling. What we get confused about is the healing effect of justice. Justice IS NOT WHAT HEALS US... There's no such thing as justice here on earth for what man did.... The ONLY justice is going to be when God gives His final judgement.""So in the end *FORGIVENESS* is the only thing that sets us free." I don't know if you fully understand this but the offenders to you are the ones who hold the golden key to get you into heaven, God clearly says" forgive them so that I can forgive your tresspasses. I have learned from reading a book called THE POWER OF FORGIVENESS that alot of us after we forgive someone, we dont really believe we actually forgave them because we still have sour feelings toward that person. But that is *not true* I read that only God can remove those hurt feelings inside you and it's something you just need to ask God to do in prayer." I also learned just because you forgave the person doesn't mean you need to re-kindle that relationship, expecially if it could cause you harm. You also need to keep in mind being forgiving doesn't mean you need to be people's doormats either! Have you ever heard of EGAPE LOVE? No, well let me explain... EGAPE LOVE is how we are to forgive its NOT a brotherly love. AGAPE LOVE is (self-sacrifical love) the same love God uses to forgive us. I HOPE I COULD HELP YOU !!!!!!