Robbie D's blog: "The ladder of arrows"

I was a child behavirol specialist for many years. It does not take a lot to get the desired behavior from children. It takes patience, consistency, immediacy, and making sure you use verbal tone that is direct. Let the child know " They are in charge " of their consequences. Turn it around ito a game at thrir level followed up by lots or praises. Take the time to mpodel the disred behavior, and make discipline time apropriate so the child sees a " window" to start again. Minutes in like a time out per age since many young children have no concept of time....ask yourself is y child acting up because for that moment he gets undivided attention?. Kids wants attention 24/7. Sometimes we just think they know when they need modeling of desired behavior. Remember verbal tome is the key , some will play on emotions and guilt to get away with consequences, so no becomes Temporary. I worked with a nationally renowned child behavioral specialist who was nationally sydnicated years later and wrote the book " Laying down the law...patience is the key a they are good at finding the right buttons to push to get their way or lessen the consequences. I'd be in stores all the time to watch the child parent the adult until they gave in not to be embarrassed. Parents have all means of disciplining when a lot it just takes countig and tone of voice for compliance backed up by immediate reinforcement to know you mean business. It is called behavioral shaping. It may not work with all kids but does work on many.