There are a lot of things I understand about men (more than most women, I think). I'm very analytical (obviously), and I put a lot of energy into understanding the people around me -- their emotions, their actions, their relationships.
But one thing I do not understand: what I not-so-affectionately refer to as the "Enthuse and Run." And this happens to me over and over again. I don't get hurt by it, or anything, but I want to understand why it's happening.
So, the "Enthuse and Run." This is when I'll talk to a guy online, or in real life. And he'll seem very very happy to be talking to me. He'll seek me out. Seem thrilled to be talking to me. Conversation goes very well, and we both seem to be having a good time. Bonding, clicking, whatever.
Then ... I never hear from him again. Or, I'll hear from him on a really lame basis a few times, but it's obvious that he's not interested in talking with me.
For example, I met this guy on Match.com. And he was almost off-puttingly enthusiastic about me. He seemed thrilled to meet me, to talk with me. Everything I told him about me seemed to enthuse him. I was sick at the time, and he offered to bring me anything I needed, etc. We talked in-depth for a couple days, and seemed to be having a great time. Then... nothing. I haven't heard from him in a month. I sent one email, to say "hello, haven't heard from you in a bit, thought I'd say hello" and heard nothing. It's like he's vanished from the face of the earth.
This happens to me constantly. I'm actually so jaded by this process that I'm at the point where I believe any guy who seems interested in me will disappear anytime now, and I take none of those conversations seriously.
I've analyzed our conversations, and do not think I'm doing anything wrong. I mean, I like myself, and think I'm a great person to talk with. And these conversations never seem controversial, or like I'm saying anything that would be exceptionally off-putting (like, "I want to bear your children. Now." or something. 'cuz, well, I'm not PSYCHO! I actually err on the side of caution!). One day we'll be talking about something unexceptional, and the next he's not talking to me.
Some of them I can attribute to people being flakes, and the transitory nature of the internet, where it's very easy to get attached to one person, then a few days later meet someone else great and move on. But I can't attribute them all. So, please share any insights you have. Seriously.
