The art of Oral Sex
Category: Romance and Relationships
Sucking a man's penis is one of the pure pleasures in life. It's sad to think that many women don't appreciate just how much fun it can be. The reason for this is they don't know how to do it correctly and so it doesn't end up being much fun because if you mess up, you don't get your reward. The penis doesn't get hard, the man doesn't have a good time and the woman feels like a failure.
But here's the good news: It's easy to learn how to be a terrific cock sucker. And I'm going to tell you exactly how. It doesn't matter what setting you choose, you can be home in bed or parked on Sunset Boulevard, but seek whatever level of privacy you need to feel relaxed and sexy. For the purpose of this guide, let's say you're on a couch. You're with a man you like and you know he'd love to have a good blow job about now. Slip down on the floor between his legs and open his fly. Reach in and touch his penis. If he's hot for you, it will already be hard. If he's nervous, it may still be bent up inside his shorts. Grab hold of his cock and lean up to his face and kiss him. See if you can feel a response down below. Any movement is a good sign. Now pull it out and see how it stands. If it's straight up, you're doing great, otherwise, here's what to do: Pull his balls out. If the pants are too tight, pull them down. Now hold his balls in your left hand and his cock in your right. Squeeze it gently down toward the bottom of the shaft and get ready to suck. Run your tongue over your lips to get them good and wet and look into your man's face. He wants to watch you suck him off. Men love to watch. Now open your mouth just slightly to tease and excite your man and come very close to his cock. Breathe on him, blow on him with your hot breath. Stick your tongue out again and reach for him, tease him.
Making sure your tongue is dripping wet, begin at the bottom of his shaft and lick upwards, slowly. Turn your head sideways and pretend to take a bite of him, very gently setting your teeth into his flesh. Wet him again with your tongue and use your hand to spread the liquid around if necessary. A wet cock looks and sounds a lot sexier than a dry one. Your left had meanwhile is massaging those balls, perhaps scratching them lightly with your fingernails. You may also want to reach behind and underneath the balls to get to that ever-so-sensitive area just before the anus, or even to run your fingers over his anus very lightly. Since the muscles that cause erection originate back there, this will produce a reaction in his cock.
Cunnilingus Fellatio
After you've licked his shaft lots of times and it's all wet and hard, your man is going to start squirming with frustration if you don't start getting serious. A quick look up at his face will let you know when you're taking things too far. Teasing is great...to a point. A little experience in giving blowjobs will educate you as to just when that point has been reached. On one of your upward swings with your tongue, from the base of his shaft to the rim of his knob, don't stop. Continue your long, wet lick over the top of his cock, lingering at the hole in the center. Stick your tongue into it, if you can, but don't suck the head yet. Now run your tongue around the rim of his knob, all the way around, making frequent passes on the tender skin directly facing you. This is where most men are the most sensitive, but not all men! That's one thing a good cock sucker has to learn to do, as soon as you're comfortable, that is. Ask questions. Each man is unique and so is his penis. Squeeze the shaft and see if some clear liquid pops up. If it does, dip your tongue into it and pull away. It will stretch with you and look fantastically erotic to your partner. Now, make like you love the stuff. Close in on that penis head like it was chocolate icecream and take the whole knob into your hot mouth. Hold it there.
Listen to him moan. Now down quickly and take as much of his cock as you can get into your mouth. Don't worry, you won't choke. If you bend your neck in just the right way, you can take it clear into your throat. Stay there, with the cock down your mouth, for just a moment. Feel it inside of you. This can be almost as luscious as having one in your vagina. It grows on you. At this point you can do several things. This is one of them: Slide back up to the tip of the penis and flick your tongue against it. Your man will be getting antsy now, wanting you to deep-throat him some more. But don't let him bully you. If he had his way, it'd be over in two minutes and what fun is that? Moving as fast as he can handle it (don't let him come yet), slide up and down on his cock as if you're having intercourse. If he gets too close to coming, stop, or at least slow down. If you can't get all the way down to the bottom of his penis, you can cheat a little by using that right hand of yours to complete the sensation of deep throating him. It still looks as if you've got the whole thing in your mouth and still feels like it. You can also slide your fingers, made in an O-shape around the shaft, up and down with the rhythm of your sucking.
That's another thing. Besides just mouthing the penis, you can suck it which is quite different. There are deep-sucks and little ones and both feel great. Your man may have a preference, however, so watch his reactions. Taking just the knob in your mouth, suck it as if it were a nipple or a straw. This feels so good to the man, it makes me hot just thinking about it. The other suck is a long, sweeping one, where you take the whole cock and suck it all the way up like you would a popsicle and then go back and do it again, sucking on the way down as well.
Here is an important thing to know: Any of these moves will feel great the first few times or more, but after a while, it's as if the cock gets immune to feeling. When you sense this, it's time to move onto your next play. You don't want the penis to go to sleep. You want it constantly stimulated, almost, but not quite, to the point of orgasm, which is just about where we are now. You've got a raging hard-on in your right hand and some tight balls in your left. Lean back and take a look at it. It's beautiful, isn't it? Move your right hand all the way to the base of the cock and squeeze it there. This will cause the shaft to fill and thicken, and by now the knob, will be shining and smooth.
Continue to take the penis into your mouth and suck and try out all your various moves until you know the man can't stand anymore and he's going to blast off.
What you do now is between you and your lover. Personally, I like to watch it shoot. It gives me visual images for my wet dreams and besides, it's a thrill to see the spurting cum. It's amazing how much of that stuff comes out and how far it shoots. If you want to watch, you'll feel it coming with your right hand and know when to back off. You can even try to catch some on your tongue if you're fast. You might want to swallow it, some girls do, and lots of guys like to have it swallowed. Be careful to back up a little when it goes off though or you'll gag on it and that's not too romantic. Take it into your mouth and hold it there and then swallow it.
Another solution, and this is a nice one too, unless you're making love where you can't make a mess, is to let the warm, wonderful juices gush into your mouth and then slide around the already wet cock. It make it so slippery and delightful to touch! You'll want to run your hands through it, feeling that hard cock all the way up, smoothing the glistening cum over the knob.
This makes a great sensual image too, for you and for your man. Now you've given your man a blow job that he'll not forget. Believe me, if you follow my instructions, this guy will want to see a lot more of you.
I've heard from men that one woman in fifty knows how to give a good blowjob. The rest act like it's a big favor, which is another point I should make. If you don't like to give blowjobs and you've tried to learn to like it and it still doesn't work, don't give up. Maybe you'll like it more as you grow older. Men say older women are much better at giving head. But I should warn you, there are a lot of us out here who love to give head and we're going to be stiff competition for you shy ones. I know women who can even have orgasms sucking cock.
One final note, this time for the men: Don't push it. There's nothing more deadly than having a man push your head down there. Just wait. If she's into it, she'll get around to it, sometimes not until the second time you make love. And if you give her time, she'll learn to like it. If she doesn't enjoy it, perhaps your next lover will. Now go out and get 'em!
For the Guys
Cunnilingus is the fine art of making love to a vagina/vulva with your mouth and tongue. It is a delicate skill, requiring patience, practice, and dedication to get it right, but any woman you learn to do it right for will appreciate you all the more for it.
What applies to the penis applies to the vulva - every one is different, requiring a different touch to make its owner happy. But few tools can equal the tongue for the amount of pleasure it can deliver to a happy vagina. This article assumes that you know what a vulva looks like and can identify with some precision the mons veneris, labia majora, clitoral hood, clitoris, labia minora, urethra, vagina, and perineum, to name them (approximately) from top to bottom.
This isn't an attack. Don't go after the clitoris like a fireman attacking a fire. Quite often at first, the clitoris is far too sensitive for direct stimulation. Lick around it, stimulating the hood, teasing her inner labia, tasting her. Take your time and listen to her. Some women make noise, and some do not. It will be a while before you learn exactly what your lover prefers as far as oral sex is concerned. Some women may like additional stimulation - a finger or two into the vagina, or perhaps even the anus.
She may want your hands to reach up and play with her breasts, or she may want your fingers to hold her labia apart so that your tongue can get at her vulva more directly.
If the taste or smell bothers you or is a concern, ask her to wash first. Most people who enjoy cunnilingus agree that a clean vagina is a good, if acquired, taste. As a woman nears her climax, she may want more direct stimulation. In general, fast, rhythmic stimulation is most effective at causing climax- but there shouldn't be a rush to get there. Take your time and learn to appreciate what you can do for her.
Some people are particularly turned off at the suggestion of cunnulingus during menstruation. If it is a concern to you, then wait. A tampon may well hold the blood back, as will a diaphragm, but some men can't stand the taste anyway. If your partner is healthy, however, there is no particular danger in menstrual blood, and some women find that orgasms during their periods allievate cramps.
Tongue and vulva
Any licking and sucking of the labia, vaginal entrance, clitoris, or anal area is going to feel just great. Start your tonguing by lapping her vulva from vaginal entrance up to her clitoris, while keeping your tongue and jaw relaxed. Run your tongue between the inner and outer labia on one side, while keeping the two sides together between your lips. (There are two lips on each side of her vulva, do this to one side at a time.) Then do the other side.
Tongue sex
Make love to her vulva with your tongue - in and out, around and around, try with your tongue hard, then soft and change the tempo often. This feels nice. Spread her outer lips with your hand. With your tongue pointed and stiff, gently flick the end of your tongue here and there. Roam around, but keep coming back to her clitoris. Be careful to not apply too much pressure on the clitoris in the beginning, wait for her signal - moaning and bucking her hips. This drives some women wild, and others can't take it
Intense vulva techniques
When she's really hot and her vulva is throbbing try these incredible intense techniques. Watch her signals closely as these techniques may be too much, even when she's nearing orgasm. With her clitoris still exposed, give it a quick little suck by pulling it into your mouth briefly and letting it go. This will drive her insane with ecstasy! Take her exposed clitoris into your mouth and gently suck on it, at the same time flick your tongue over and around her clit. This can be done very lightly or very aggressively, and combined with fingering, will usually rapidly produce an intense orgasm. Try rolling your tongue into a tube by bringing the sides of your tongue up and together. If you can't do this with your tongue, you can't learn it, it's a genetic trait. Roll your tongue into a tube around the shaft of her clitoris, sliding it up and down, making a tiny vulva of your own for her clitoris to fuck.
Oral vulva-sex positions
For a very comfortable session, have her lie on her back with legs spread and knees bent slightly. Lie on your stomach between her legs putting your right arm under her left leg and your left arm under her right leg. Your head is comfortably in place near the center of your attention. Your arms wrap around her legs leaving your hands free. Not as comfy but a bit wilder is this one. Lie on your back and prop a couple of pillows under your head. She kneels with her vulva facing you with one knee on each side of your head, above your shoulders. The sexy part of this position is that your partner can look down at you and watch you eating her out. Comfort is reduced for the one eating here, so you may want to start in this position and finish in the above position. Have her lie down with her legs dangling off the bed and resting flat on the floor, most beds are too high. She must sit just at the edge of the bed, lie back, and give you plenty of access while you kneel/sit in front of her genitals. These are by no means the only positions, so experiment and have fun.
HOW TO: EAT PUSSY LIKE A CHAMP
obviously, the majority of you foolz out there haven't a fucking board game CLUE?!?1?! On how to eat pussy... which just causes an increase in the already abundant population of bi [trendy] sexual females.. Soooo here's a few SIMPLE (no it's actually very easy) methods I¡¯ve had in my arsenal for quite some time.. FIRST.. It¡¯s easier to make a girl cum, from eatin' her pussy as opposed to fuckin' her... from what I know offhand... 95emales can't cum from sex UNLESS, they're on top.. And they're on top why? So they can stimulate their clit.. By doin' their lil snake charm grindin' crap on our pelvic bones.. Which... really does nothin' for us... so.. The key is.. Eat pussy first.. make her cum a few times... numb her up... then hammer away however u like... so u won't have to endure that grindin' bullshit. Now once ur in-between her legs.. Don¡¯t just fuckin' dive in there like a bum at a thanksgiving charity dinner... take your fuckin' time! I know pussy is nearly irresistible.. But don't act like it is.. Lick her inner thighs, kiss them.. Kiss around her pussy lips.. Kiss the lips etc etc... Finally once u've got your tongue on her clit... this is what u do.. (u can use ur hands to spread her lips here if u want... that's all preference.. it's easier to make em cum w/ their lips spread... so u have easier access to their clit) now... roll the tip and somewhat flat part of your tongue around the clit in a circular motion... slowly... DONT STOP... the KEY is to hold your rhythm... listen to homegirls breathin'.. Use this as feedback.. And react w/ your tongue accordingly.. You want her breathin' to be steady... at steady intervals.. Kinda like a metronome, clock.. whatever.. Tick tock tick tock tick tock... it sounds lame but she should be breathin' on beat... no. not MOANING.. Breathing... listen to her breathing... listen to the moans when ur on the phone or somethin'... now the key is... DONT STOP (I emphasize this, cuz it's important.. if u STOP GO STOP GO haphazard like, you're not gonna get anywhere)... DONT STOP..even if it's to pick a hair outta ur mouth... just hold your rhythm.. circle her clit... increase speed gradually... once u've got the speed up a bit...and her breathin' is tellin' u on target... use more of the tip of ur tongue... and move it less... but at a slightly faster pace... basically work ur way into... flickin' it back n forth like a punching bag.. it's hard to explain.. but it's kinda like vibratin' your tongue.. not swayin' it back n forth like a wreckin' ball.. slappin' her clit as you swoosh by... if u can keep this up for at least 60 seconds.. she'll cum... if she's stubborn and won't bust... get a finger or two up inside her.. hook ur finger(s).. and kinda "scratch" "scrape" "tickle" "massage" her Gspot.. which feels like a lil sponge.. it's on the "ceiling" of her pussy.. inside.. and up top.. about an inch in.. consider yo fingers holdin' the harmony.. while your tongue works the melody.. and she'll bust before u know it.. good... you've succeeded.. now the worst thing u can do now..is STOP.. keep fuckin' goin... this is the good part.. if u ignore her pants, rants, and gestures for u to stop.. and keep goin' like she hasn't busted... (she'll initially want u to stop cuz she's all madd sensitive at the moment)... after 10-15 seconds, the sensitivity for her will fade... and about a minute later.. yes A MINUTE.. she'll bust again.. usually more intense than the first. now find an ugly partner (easier this way, cuz ugly chicks will let any sloth eat their pussy) to practice on, since u don't wanna waste time tryin' to convince a worthy one to let u... and hone your skills.
