Can someone please explain to me what the phrase "friends with
benefits" really means?
In my head (and we all know that strange things go on in my head) I
try to define the words that are a part of the phrase. Now, a
friend is someone you spend time with, who has your back in times of
need and listens to you gripe about your problems. Benefits are
wonderful extras. But this does not describe the friend with
benefits.
If you are a friend with benefits, why can't we hang out from time
to time for happy hour? How come you can't come over for a
cookout? Why don't we do lunch during the week? Is it because I'm
getting the benefits but not the friendship? Is it because you are
really just a bootycall?
If we aren't talking, via telephone or face to face, we are probably
not friends. If the most communication we have concerns where and
what time, then we probably are not friends. If you couldn't care
less that I was hurt by your actions last week (I mean telling me to
leave your apartment right after you got yours was kinda rude), then
we probably are not friends.
Does anyone else have a problem with this terminology?
