Some even go as far as to say that the world would be better off without children and that reproducing is one of the worst things a human being can do.
most people assume that ALL Muslim women are forced to dress the way they do and that they have no choice. Wtf. If they say they choose to wear it by choice, then they CHOOSE to wear it by choice. How hypocritical of any of you to suggest you're for women's rights or feminists if you can't even accept a fellow woman's choice of attire. You're basing your sentiments on how the MEDIA portrays Islam and Muslim women. Yes there are extremist countries with extremist Muslims but there are also extremist Christians and so forth who'd probably beat or threaten their daughters for dressing the way they do. Stop trying to be Captain Save-A-Muslim-Woman by oppressing her right back! If she says it's her choice, respect that. Fight for the women who ARE forced to wear it. Stop grouping people into categories. Ignorance is stupidity.
There will never be true feminism or equality for women when men AND women still feel the need to speak on behalf of women who DON'T need their help. How sad is it that issues of women empowerment, especially when it comes to topics that tie to Muslim women always get stereotyped and grouped into one oppressive category. Newsflash: There are women out there who choose to cover up. *gasp* I know right!??! Forcing or trying to squabble with a woman who's covered up to not be covered up is just as oppressive as telling a woman who's in a bikini to cover up. That's not that battle we should be fighting. The battle we SHOULD be facing is the one where women are forced to do and wear things (burqas, bikinis, whatever) against their will. Feminism is CHOICE. It's not that hard of an issue to grasp. The West needs to snap out of the notion that every woman not in the West or every Muslim woman needs saving because the reality is, not all of them do.
Feminists caused all this massive increase in single mothers.
Feminists cause men to stop getting married due to biased court systems that leave men broke, with no access to their children.
Feminists encouraged women to leave their husbands in pursuit of "finding themselves."
Feminists taunted happy stay at home mothers by calling them weak and submissive.
Feminists refused to listen to rationale educated women, calling them "brain-washed" by men.
Because of feminists breaking up families men stopped learning to be strong husbands because they could no longer use their fathers as role models. Thus, that chapter has ended in men's lives.
Feminists turned women from radiant beings with the power to create life into now sex objects.
-Wives entering the workforce only to begin cheating on husbands
-Young women jumping into bed with known married men
(Gotta love that sexual liberation)
Feminists encouraged young women to be superficial in the entitlement tainted pursuit of men
Feminists removed young girls from the masculine influence of their fathers and now more young women walk around pregnant.
And now men are suppose to swoop in (as I've always suspected) and clean up all the devastation feminists created.
Open your eyes To the millions of lies That they tell you everyday
Open your mind To the clever disguise That the advertisements say
How do they know What's good for you?
Wake up, wake up, whoa Wake up, wake up, whoa
A shot to the head They're better off dead Will you wake up, wake up, whoa
Destroy all the land And kill what you can Just to make the profits rise Sell you from birth For all that you're worth The money spreads like lies
And how do they know What's good for you?
Wake up, wake up, whoa Wake up, wake up, whoa A shot to the head
They're better off dead Will you wake up, wake up, whoa
Don't wanna hate you
Don't wanna blame it all on you I'm out of option If you don't look, I'll force you to If you don't look, I'll force you to If you don't look, I'll force you to
Wake up, wake up, whoa Wake up, wake up, whoa A shot to the headJust so you can be fed Will you wake up, wake up, whoa
Open your eyes Open your eyes
If women can choose to have an abortion or give a kid they don't want to take care of/can't take of up for adoption than a man should not have to be held accountable for a child he does not want/can't take of.
When a woman chooses to have an abortion, it's "her choice"
But when a man chooses not to pay child support hes a "deadbeat".
I don't agree with that double standard.
If a man does not want a child the woman can't get upset when he leaves her and abandons his responsibility.
Sorry, that's the way I see it.
Men should be able to sign over all their rights and responsibility.
It's not fair to make men responsible for a pregnancy and women not.
That's not equality.
I understand that a woman is the one who carries the child and deals with the pregnancy and child birth but women have to also put themselves in the mans shoes.
I can't stand it when women say things like, “If you’re not prepared to be a father then don’t have sex!”
How do you feel when the pro lifers say that to you??
, " If you're not prepared to be a mother than don't have sex!".
if you expect men to take responsibility for their actions than you need to hold yourself to those same standards.
If you’re a man and you’re ‘not ready’ to be a father then that’s your tough luck and you’re going to be writing checks for the next 18 years (or go to jail)
Is that really fair?
Perhaps every woman who has an abortion simply because she’s ‘not ready’ should also be called a “deadbeat” just as men who are not prepared to shoulder the responsibilities of an unplanned pregnancy? If it’s good enough for men then it ought to be good enough for women too? That’s equality, right?
Fubar is a joke! If you want to contribute to the man who started it then fine! But, realize when you sign up that you will be expected to pay for alot on the site. It is not a requirement but out of peer pressure alone, if you do not pay for the "blings" and "VIP'S" then you simply do not fit in! Not to mention all the begging women on there that scream for happy hours to be bought for them (literally $100.00 a pop)
slowly a while ago I began to learn that for the most part there are very troubled individuals on this site owner included.. it doesnt cost 100 for happy hour to keep a site running not to mention the other cost for blings etc,etc,it is a pyramid scheme of sorts and the owner is laughing all the way to the bank..
its a greedy site...it may have a few neat perks here and there but since it was cherry tap it became a joke!! when u get to the point where your every waking moment is worrying about points, ranks etc while your baby is begging to be fed (as ive seen a lot of unemployed,lonely,desperate people on the site ) you have issues.
It's not a social site, it's a business and it's run like a facist regime.
They are cheating on everything, the number of members etc. Lots of the accounts on there are fake accounts created by themselves.
The drama,liars,users,womanizers and fakes are out of control.
And watch out for all the catfish!!
There are plenty of other social networking alternatives in which you will get treated better, and don't require you not to spend a crapton of money to feel like a human being.
The fact that you can see the world for what it is right now is actually a gift that you should cherish.You should cherish this moment, because now, more than ever, it is crystal clear what you hate about this world.
What you want the world to be, its counterpart - that is what you dream of, that is where your hope comes from. Quite possibly this capability of seeing and incapability to put it into words, is why INFP's are looked upon as aliens, or why INFP's find themselves alienated, outside this world, unrelated, almost an out-of-body experience.
Now that you know what the world is and what you want it to be, you have knowledge. And now that you know that you are not Neo, you are one step closer to knowing who you are (and getting out of your Matrix!). Because knowing that you don't know something is also knowledge. Ask Plato. Okay, he's dead. So, ask yourself! Who are you, and what are you capable of doing? What is actually *in* your control, and what isn't?
Because eventually, we're all Brain (maybe some of us are Pinky?), trying to take over the world. We just need to figure out how to get there, what ingenious contraptions to invent, what bastardly bold strategies we need to follow. And that starts with knowing ourselves. Knowing who we are and who we aren't. Knowing what we can do and what we can't.
And knowing what we can do about enhancing our capabilities. Because you can enlarge your *circle of influence* Because maybe you cannot do something *right now*, but if you put some effort into studying yourself, cultivating your strengths and weaknesses alike, you can do it *later*. We can grow, improve, get better. A few before me have said something else very important: put yourself in other people's shoes every now and then, because that too will help you get better. We might lose hope at times, but not all is lost when hope is lost. Hope is fickle, don't rely on it too much, do it for the cause. For the values you hold dear. For the things you love.
Be disconnected, stuck for a moment in your misanthropy. Not to feel miserable for misery's sake, but to get better because of it, before you reconnect. ;)
"hell is other people" many people love mankind - but can't stand people...
I really dislike the majority of people. Not everyone, there are a select few people that I like but I can't stand most people. I find most people to be shallow, materialistic, and stupid and I feel like we live in a corrupt society. I'm not really happy being so alone but I rarely find people that I actually want to associate with. I always find faults in people and even though I try to like people the negative thoughts about them just linger in my mind and I can't get rid of them. Most people probably wouldn't know that I feel this way because I try to be friendly to people but generally I don't like them.
It's sad because like the genius George Carlin once said: "the planet is fine, the people are fucked."
I think it's quite sad & unfortunate of how I've spent like 80% of my life nowadays resenting humanity/mankind at large but with few exceptions for example: the philosophers, the Thinkers, the true, HONEST, and wise people, artists, that unfortunately seems to be FEW, often ridiculed, and scattered across this otherwise lovely blue planet).
In fact, I feel somehow much more connected to the animals, than humans nowadays!
Seriously, though, aside from a few comments... it’s ludicrous to talk of any societal pressure to have children. What I see instead is a huge societal pressure not to have any.
Imagine sharing during a job interview that you are planning to have a baby within the next year (or three children within the next ten years, or two within the next five). Is such a person more or less likely to get hired than the one who can state they will never have children? Right you are.
Maternity leaves in this country are ludicrously short or simply non-existent. Paternity leaves are simply not there, which is a barbarity of a major order. How many people can say their careers stalled because they didn’t have children? Exactly.
Most job contract specify that you will get between 12 and 15 vacation and sick days per year. If anything constitutes pressure not to have children, this is it.
Pregnant women get hounded with unwanted intrusive advice from the moment they announce they are pregnant. If they don’t feel like sharing the news very fast, they are persecuted with intrusive questions and insistent staring on their bellies. They are questioned and criticized for their choices of how, when and where to give birth. They are badgered right into the delivery room if their choice of delivery method is not the most fashionable one at the moment.
So-called “lactation specialists” hound women in maternity wards and do everything they can to bully them into breastfeeding the “right” way.
Stores and restaurants often turn people with children away. Colleagues raise their brows and emit frustrated sighs when a parent shares that their kid is sick and they won’t be able to make it to the next meeting.
There are no breast-pumping facilities at most places of employment. Daycare costs are ruinous. Diaper-changing stations (especially for fathers) are few and far between.
And have you ever tried dragging a pram into a bus? Have you ever shopped for maternity clothes? If there really existed any pressure to have children, wouldn’t stores be filled with beautiful, fashionable maternity clothing?
All of the things I listed – and many more – constitute true societal pressures not to have children.
“When I reveal that I never want kids, people always invalidate me. They always say shit like “you’ll change your mind,” “you’re too young to decide right now,” “you look very maternal,” (wtf?) And countless other statements from baby hungry breeders. ”
-Once again, do you seriously think that a few comments like these even begin to come close to the true facts of oppression I listed here? Are you that immature.
I wish people would learn to distinguish between nosy questions and oppression.Hardly persecution. Talk about first world problems...
Are childfree people really being "persecuted"? Or do they just face the same kind of judgment and unsolicited advice that 100% of the population faces at all times for something or other? I.e., are they being a bit sensitive?
This society utterly overuses the term persecuted. When I think of persecuted I think of all of those people in the third world that fear for their lives, that are the victims of random mob violence and government brutality I do not think of non parents who have to endure mean looks and hurtful, hurtful words.
Let me just say that I support people who don't want to have children.With as many un wanted kids in the world we don't need any more.
I don't think it's right to criticise a person or a couple for not wanting to have children.I honestly could less what you do or don't do with your reproductive organs.Child free people deserve respect However, this respect needs to go both ways as well...
Having said that, I seriously can't stand the child free movement as a whole.
It's filled with whiny, angry, immature, self cenetred hyporcites.
I know plenty of people who never had kids for a variety of reasons. However, I've discovered that the ones who refer to themselves as "childfree" do not merely "not have" children, but in fact they pretty much despise them. They might deny it, but listen to them talk for a bit and you will discover that they believe children should be locked in a closet until they are adults. They can listen to a barking dog or a drunk frat boy with no problems, but hear a child's voice, and they are enraged.
The childfree crowd that talk about how disgusting kids are and how stupid it is to have them and how parents just don't realize how miserable they are. Just shut up and stop getting mad at anyone that even SUGGESTS that having kids is anything other than the worst idea you could possibly ever have. It really bothers me how... vocal... people are here about their lack of children. Oh and then to prove their point they tell people how selfish they are for wanting kids.
If you google the childfree movement tons of articles will pop up.Most of them being articles written to parents telling them " what not to say to to childfree people"
They also complain about children on airplanes, restaurants, neighborhoods, apartments, backyards, side walks hell basically kids are not allowed to exist.
Here is a comment from a childfree person.....
"Frankly, more people should just use birth control or terminate. And it is better to hear someone talk about their vacation instead of their kid because vacations are interesting. I personally think restaurants should completely prohibit all children under the age of 10 - no make that 12."
They call children names like brats, rugrats, crotch juice, crotch dripings, monsters, terror, spawn etc and the list goes on.
Parents are called things like breeders, mom's are called mooooooos ( cows, yeah what a great way to not be sexist)Diaperwhipped,Freaklitter,Fuck trophy...
I'm starting to think that the reason these people don't want kids is because they are still kids themselves.
Seriously? is this grade school?? what is up with these nicknames??
From my experience debating with the Child free community and lerking on blogs and reading articles the whole movement is very hypocritical.
THIS is my problem with members of the Childfree club. They (some) okay most.. demand respect for their personal choices, but for those of us who choose to be parents to our biological children, we are somehow selfish for not adopting instead. Hypocrites.
It's fine for them to call pregnancy disgusting and barbaric and say mean, rude things about the pregnant body but they expect the rest of us to walk around on egg shells being careful not to dare say anything to offend them or hurt their little feelings.
This is something they call " bingo"
It's a list of things not to say to them.
Seriously "bingo" here we go with the kids games..
Yes, I agree there are a few of these that are just rude but I don't see an issue with most of these.
It seems like some of these comments are compliments ("But you would be such a great mom!") or simply thoughtful perspectives from women who have had kids ("You think you don't want children, but once you have them you'll change your mind.").
Others are clearly rude, nosey and warrant a smack upside the head.
But I would think that a lot of these kinds of comments or suggestions come from a good place, someone trying to be helpful. Certainly not in every case, but in a lot of situations people with kids want to share the joy they've found in parenthood.
Parents have to listen to just as much unwanted advice and critism and anyone else.
Were all judged in this world. No matter what you choose, your choice will be judged. If you choose to have children and work outside the home, some will say you're selfish and neglecting your children; if you choose to have children and not work outside the home, some will say you're sitting around watching soaps and eating bon bons; and if you choose not to have children, some will say you're selfish and you'll die alone. So, forget what anyone says, do what is right in your situation, and tell everyone else to mind their own business.
But seriously? so it's okay for you to call children brats and crotch fruit and call a post pregnant body damaged and and ruined forever but it's not okay for me to say that children are our future?
NEWSFLASH!! THEY ARE
you have children, cool. You don't have children, cool.
Guess what? The people who have children support the future generation. Yeah, they made the choice to take on the extra responsibility, but before one gets up in arms about what annoying whiny parents say to choice made non parents, remember whose going to be changing your diapers when you can't walk anymore. Someone has to do the job of providing and rearing a future generation, or simply those rearing a future generation who can't produce if those who decide to produce dont look after them.
Get over it already.
A child is not a dog, and it's not a stressful work situation.
You can choose to get rid of or change either. You can't just do that to a child.
Get over it already.
And I'm not going to to refrain from saying that children are wonderful and that they change people's lives.
One thing about being a parent is that you have been on both sides of the fence.Parents were at sometime non parents.So when they say, " you don't understand unless you have kids" we are coming from a place of wisdom not criitism.
For the most part every childfree person I have met has been either very superfical ( caring about looks, not wanting to damage their bodies) or they are obessed with their pets.
Seriously? so you complain that parents talk to much about their brats and you complain when they post pictures of their kids on their facebooks but then you go and post a million pictures of your 20 cats??
Your a hypocrite!
Not to mention, HELLO! what exactly do you want from parents?
You complain when they are carless parents who don't pay attention to their kids, you complain when they pay to much attention
Parents can never win!
Once again, the childfree community sounds like a bunch of whiny kids or teenagers going through puberty.
Then there is the term " child free"
So your free from children? like what free from bugs? or cancer?
The term child free makes it sounds kids are a burdon.
And I hate to break it to you but you will never be "child free"
children will continue to exist and as long as there is a human race.
"Childless" works for me, if a term must be used. The problem is they find that term offensive..go figure.
Then they often say things like,
" I personally don't understand people who just continue having more of their own children while there are literally millions out there who are orphaned and possibly dying. THAT's selfish"
So, YOUR decision should NOT be judged, but theirs SHOULD? Nice tolerance there.
Oh and by the way, how many kids have you adopted??
Because yes, adoption is so easy, not to mention affordable
Interesting how the "child free" are always on a rampage convincing themselves and others that they've made the right choice.
I really just can't stand the child free movement.
Too much over population propaganda, too much feminism, too much stupid.
If you do not have children yourself, you have no right or authority to tell me how to raise my child, or give me advice, nor am I obligated to discuss my parenting with you like I do with my friends that have kids.Women who choose not to have children and even those who can't have children, apparently don't want to hear "You don't have children, so you won't understand." OR even "You don't have children, so you can't understand." But regardless whether they want to hear it or not, IT IS A FACT. You can not understand something you have never personally experienced firsthand.
If you want people to stay our of your business then stay our of theirs.
Stop judging parents just because their kids have a fit in a store..
That's what kids do ! they throw fits because their brains are not devopled yet!
Kids will kids, and just because you see a grumpy kid in public does not mean their parents are horrible.
You can't judge a parent just because you saw them for 2 minutes in a store.
How about you have some compassion and respect for children. Because hey, you were once one yourself.Part of disciplining is letting kids cry, it is also part of parenting to not let them cry when they have had a rough week or something. The plain truth is that as a non-parent it is very, very difficult for you to understand that there is no magic formula to kids and that parents just like you are simply doing the best they can.Children naturally whine and cry and run around. It is not something that parents simply allow or disallow. In fact it is something that every parent that I have met hates, and tries to discourage.
It's amazing to me how things have reversed.Adults are acting like children and children are expected to act like adults.
You don't want children then fine, but stop creating this war against parents to make your feel better about your choice.
Just don't have kids.
Stop trying to tear others down to build yourself up.
For people that don't want children, that's your business not mine. I don't care. Stop calling people that have children "breeders". Is that what you call your parents?
Yes, these people do exist.There are more of them than you think.
So here I am, standing alone in the open. I’m here with a message hoping to repair what’s broken. Nature is struggling, humanity's not on track. We've got our heads in the sand and our pride intact. We seek fulfilment through wealth but do we achieve it? We want prosperity through consumerism but is it worth it? Have we actually found freedom or have we lost it? Cos all we do is follow a system and never really challenge it. Can you relate to that? Or is the world to blind to see? I'd always seek the truth but care what my peers thought of me. I saw a different perspective and struggled by the hour, see I knew ignorance was bliss... but knowledge could give me power. So now I call for humanity, not just for one nation; I'm opposing separation and standing up to segregation. Whether Religious or Atheist, in essence we're the same. Stereotypes are man-made and it was man who created the game. But are we actually ready to accept this and wake up? Can we put our naivety on the line? Or are we always going to collide? Are we ready to make a difference? Do we venture into the unknown? Or do we stay in our comfort zones and keep on taking the easy ride? Because at sea, it's ships that are safest at shore, but no, that's not what ships were made for. So ask yourself this, why are you really here? You may find that deep but my question really is sincere. For my generation, are we mislead as a youth? Do we rub off our true purpose due to false misleading truth? Are we prone to propaganda? Are we prone to wrong information? Are we taught to judge each other based on religion, sex, race, culture, class, nation? The list goes on. The moral of this poem may be hard to grasp, I know it's not something usually heard and it's not your average task. But the point is to stop damaging what we cannot re-create. We shouldn't prioritise selfish desires and let them decide our fate. However let me tell you, In no way am I perfect and in no way am I better than you. I mean yea I wrote this message myself, but it applies to myself too. So it's time to start improving and it's time to start speaking. Because resources are lowering and poverty is increasing. We allow cities to get larger, buildings to get taller, but trees to get shorter and forests to get smaller. We're an ingenious species, we could easily change everything, but we're made to think different due to decades of conditioning. We conform to education to confirm our own security, yet it's a biased institution that makes wisdom hold obscurity. Is it actually correct and does it actually judge intelligence? Or is it just listening to our elders and improving our obedience? Are possessions an illusion of worth? Are we tricked in our thinking? Are we trying to buy wholeness and are we trying to buy meaning? Do they always give joy? Do they distract us from reality? Do they determine our identity and do they alter our morality? I mean what are our goals? This really isn't a joke. Can happiness be superficial and our routine a hoax? Do we live for the wrong things, whilst the right things choke? Is mainstream TV legit or can it dictate our attractions? Does it actually bring us together or does it separate us into factions? We categorise each other via a social hierarchy, but status is made by humans, so who really are we? Is ego destroying eco? Are the real problems disguised? Do we really know the truth or does our society feed us lies? Are we actually filling our voids and does money hold any true weight? Could we drop our precious comforts, to renew our planet's state? So are our laws actually just? Or can power avoid the prison? Are our governments really innocent or are they flawed in their decisions? Do they actually care for all life? Or only for their own health? (Handheld fast right) Do their motives come from morals or do they just want power and wealth? They try to justify a war on terror but it's lasted for over a decade. It's caused a million deaths so don't you think they've overstayed? Is patriotism necessary? Can't we see it's prejudicial? Have we forgotten our common grounds and have we forgotten what's artificial? I mean am I truthfully British? Am I really European? Am I actually a Western person or am I just a human being? See the media highlight the smallest of tragedies in first world countries, but fail to cover that over 90 million worldwide have died from hunger in 12 years. So where do our priorities lie? Britain, China, Russia, America, France... Syria, Iran, Israel, Jordan, Iraq... Whether Western or Middle East, everyone deserves peace. No more national wars, no more bodies deceased. Let's come together as one and keep humanity in one piece! So are we going to be responsible? Are we going to take a stand? Are we going to change our ways and play our cards on the other hand? I'm not saying I have all the answers and I'm not trying to force any suggestions. I'm just saying it's about time we see things differently and it's about time we ask some questions. So what will YOU do? How much will you allow? This is my call for humanity, to create a change... and the time to start, is NOW. END