BE YOURSELF
People are interested in YOU, so relax and be yourself. This doesn't
mean you should be a jerk and disrespect others; it means you should "let
your hair down." Also, whether or not you're interested in swinging
with someone or couples in particular, remember to always be polite.
BE COURTEOUS
The lifestyle can raise certain, valid insecurities, uncertainties and
fears. You're not always going to find people that share the exact same
views that you do. Always try to be aware of other people's comfort
levels, especially your partner. In a group party situation, a friendly
"hello" can work wonders to ease someone's discomfort, and if you find
that your interests are in different directions, or any attractions
aren't mutual, remember to remain polite, as you would certainly wish to be
treated. Keep an open mind.
RESPECT OTHERS FEELINGS
Beware, not everyone is comfortable in all situations, Keep your eyes
open for signs that your partner, as well as others, is relaxed and
enjoying themselves. If someone is not comfortable, try helping them
overcome their discomfort. Remember, you were a beginner once yourself.
DON'T PUSH
Remember, "no" means "no." Anyone has the right to refuse your advances
as you have the right to refuse theirs. Don't expect or ask for any
explanation, in this lifestyle an initial "no" will seldom change to "yes"
no matter how much persuasion you apply. Not everyone will match
perfectly and an improperly handled situation can result in hurt feelings. If
there's someone that you would like to swing with, let them know in a
friendly manner and accept their response -- whatever it may be. If they
change their mind, they'll let you know.
PRACTICE SAFE SEX
Practicing safe sex is a must
NEVER ARRIVE EMPTY HANDED
When you go to someone's home for a party, ask if there is something
you can bring. (it's amazing how many supplies, other than food are used
up at an average party.)
GO PREPARED
Take whatever you personally are going to need with you. Carry a small
overnight bag for lingerie or robe, hairbrush, comb, toothbrush,
cologne, intimate cleansing articles, condoms, etc.. If you plan to stay
over, sleeping bags or blankets and pillows are necessities.
CLEANLINESS
Nothing turns a person off faster and more effectively than an unclean
body or un-fresh breath. Even if you shower and perfume yourself before
you leave home, it is always a good idea to freshen up again when you
arrive at your destination. It is amazing what time to drive somewhere,
stop for a bite, or whatever, can do or rather UNDO.
ONLY DO WHAT IS FUN FOR YOU
Do not allow yourself to become sexually involved with anybody that you
are not interested in. There is no reason to involve yourself in a
scene that you are not comfortable with. You are in the lifestyle to enjoy
yourself, so only do what you want, when you want and with whom you
want.
HOW AND WHY TO SAY NO
One of the basic etiquette's in swinging is the right of anyone to say
"No". Experience has taught most people that everybody is not right for
everybody else. Improper handling of a situation, can however lead to a
lot of hurt or very bad feelings. The swing world accepts the premise
that everyone has the right to say "No" to anyone at anytime and it
should be done with a simple "No thank you". Never give an explanation,
because that is what usually causes the problems and the pain.
ENJOY YOURSELF!!
Swinging is about having a good time. Live some fantasies, explore your
sexuality and enjoy! This lifestyle has plenty to offer with clothes on
as well as off. Approach it with a positive attitude and a sense of
humor.
