Dynimite's blog: "Tips about Realationships"

if you're looking for the quickest way to learn and understand what it really is that makes a man FEEL ATTRACTION at a deep level, and be inspired to want more than just some "casual" relationship he could take or leave... then it's time you finally started doing the things that work with a man. Get started and change your love life forever right here: http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/e/12833/NALA/?cid=ZZV7VZ&lid=1&ll=1 Hey Crystal, Do you ever feel frustrated that men don't know how to "stick with it" in relationships? Like when you and a man have a great thing going that keeps getting better, and you know it's something special. But as soon as some little bump in the road comes up, even if it's the kind of thing that shouldn't come between you and a man in any relationship... that's it. It's over. And there's no working through it. There's no trying to figure it out. And there's no real explanation from him about why his feelings changed. They just did. Things went from hot and heavy to ice cold in no time flat. And even he can't or won't explain why. He's just doesn't want to continue things anymore. What's going on here? Is this just the reality with men and how they're so "flighty" when it comes to relationships? If you're open to it, I'd like to dig a little deeper with you... Keep reading and I'll help you understand what it is that makes a man unable to keep himself from doing the things that will make his relationship fulfilling, and the woman he's with happy. For starters, let me ask you... Do you often wonder why a lots of men (such as the one you've dated) just doesn't seem to "get" you, or get how to be with you in a loving relationship? And do you ever end up feeling like the man you're with doesn't appreciate you for all the things you do for him? And to add insult to injury when you're doing all the work, he still seems to "shut down" whenever you finally ask for the smallest thing about what YOU NEED or want? What's up with that? This alone is enough to make you feel like men just don't want to do what it takes to have a great relationship. Let alone understanding what it is that makes for a REAL RELATIONSHIP in the first place. Know what I'm talking about here? As a man who has spent a lot of time thinking about how and why men act the way they do in relationships, I've been able to see a few different "versions" of what a relationship is, and can be. And it's fascinating to see how men and women can see and experience relationships in such different ways. Well, over the years helping women, I've learned that after a woman has had enough of the same kinds of disappointing experiences in relationship with men... something bad can happen- In the back of her mind, without even knowing it consciously, you can start to BELIEVE that ALL RELATIONSHIPS are doomed to end up in the same way as the others you've had that keep repeating in your life. Tell me if any of these situations with men sound familiar to you: -You do something helpful for him, and instead of being grateful, he's annoyed and doesn't want to be "bothered" -You make all the plans and do all the "work" in the relationship... and the more YOU DO, the LESS he does -The man you're with seems "together" at first, but then he changes, starts acting distant and distracted, and he forgets or ignores everything you talk about or tell him -He seems more interested in his work and his hobbies and friends than in YOU or in doing things together and taking part in your relationship What's going on here? These are just a few of the unfortunately common problems and situations that come up for women in relationships with men who don't seem to care or respond. If you've ever been in any of these situations with a man, then you probably felt hurt and frustrated at the same time. Why is it that so often a relationship can start off so great, and then turn into such a STRUGGLE? Is it really that MEN don't know how to love and have REAL RELATIONSHIPS? Or is something else going on here? Something you might be able to easily change and be able to quickly transform your old love life into what it is you know it could be? wouldn't it be great to give and RECEIVE back the kind of LOVE you know is possible in a truly loving and committed relationship. Here's the first of 2 pieces of GOOD NEWS I have for you- You can have the experience where things are great in your relationship, not just in the beginning when things are new and easy with a man... but inside a loving, committed and lasting relationship. Things don't have to end up the way you might be used to them ending up with a man. You can find and share what it is you're looking for with a man... and you don't have to go out and wait for luck and fate to finally smile upon you after all these years and allow a relationship with a man to work out. Almost ANY difficult situation with a man can turn around 180 degrees if you just know WHAT MAKES A MAN WANT TO CHERISH, PLEASE, AND ADORE YOU. Do you know what it is that makes a man feels this way? Do you know what it is that INSPIRES the things that are already there deep inside a man that only the right woman, and the right situation can bring out in even the most previously "unavailable" man? Here's a hint- There's a few specific FEELINGS you can have a man share and experience with you... and when a man FEELS these when he's with you, he will not only be INSPIRED to want to be with you, but he'll be inspired to be a BETTER man in a relationship with you. And when a man starts to FEEL these things, guess what starts to happen to all those problems and annoying situations I mentioned earlier that happen when things aren't going well in your relationship? You'd be shocked to know how ALL of these things that used to be worries or problems simply start to disappear. All of them. I've seen this happen for tons of women... and I've helped women make this kind of shift or transition happen in their relationships in a few short days. Sometimes even in a few short moments. Here's part of how it works- See... men have a kind of "on" and "off" switch in their minds. And with a man, this switch takes what you say and do and instantly puts it into one of two categories. The most incredible part is, most women go their entire lives never knowing about this "switch"... and are never aware that a man is putting them into a category in his mind that could basically guarantee that he'll NEVER FEEL excited about creating and growing a real and lasting relationship. On the other hand, for a woman who does know what these 2 categories are for a man, and how they work in a man's mind and can cause him to see you as not just "relationship material" but as THE ONE WOMAN he wants to be with... then this switch makes things very very simple. Well, as luck would have it I'm going to share with you what these 2 categories are right now. And with the help of a new friend of mine... I'm going to show you everything you need to know about how these thing work in a man's mind and why a man either simply KNOWS that a woman is right for him... or he just doesn't FEEL IT. So what are the 2 categories that the switch in a man's mind puts how you as a woman act around him? I'll tell you... The 2 categories are simple, but very important and powerful- WIN or LOSE. A man either experiences what it's like to be with you, both in your relationship, and in the moment, as it being a "Win" or a "Loss." I'll explain what these mean real quick so you start to get the idea. Here's how it works... A man takes what's happening around him when he's with you and, on an UNCONSCIOUS LEVEL, decides whether what you're doing and what he's feeling around you makes him feel like he's WINNING or LOSING. Which means... A man either feels APPRECIATED by you, without you really having to do much of anything. And because of this he feels good about himself and how things are when he's with you. This is what makes being around you a "Win" in a man's mind. Or, on the other hand... A man feels CRITICIZED and attacked by you, without you even meaning to make him feel this way. And therefore he feels bad about himself and how things are when he's with you. This makes being around you a "Loss." Of course, this is operating off a bit more of a complex and detailed level. But those are the basics you need to know for now. So... Knowing this, think back to the last conversation you had with a man that was either about your relationship, or about HIM. How did he FEEL after talking to you? "On" and happy... like a WINNER? Or did it shut him down, because he felt DEFEATED somehow? Think about it. What if the man you're with who has showed you before how much he loves and cares about you isn't just being distant and "unavailable"? What if he's feeling somehow "slighted" or put down in your relationship by you ACCIDENTALLY? What if your desire to improve your relationship is making him feel like he isn't good enough all on his own? What if his inability to understand and handle your EMOTIONS make him feel like an outsider who doesn't get it, and is incapable? It's an interesting change of PERSPECTIVE. One that's at the very least worth trying out. Now let me ask you this... What if EVERY TIME you talked to your man, whether it was a quick 5 minute phone call or a long, heart-felt conversation, he couldn't stop thinking loving and affectionate thoughts about you? Even long after the conversation was over? And what if, AT THE SAME TIME, you felt adored, understood and you knew he was finally LISTENING to what you were saying? What if he started planning amazing dates, started calling you just to hear your voice, or became more affectionate every day of your relationship just because he felt that way and wanted to? Wouldn't that feel great? Would you want this to keep growing? Of course you would. In that case, I have a second piece of GOOD NEWS for you- It's not only possible to have these kinds of amazing experiences happening in your relationship with a man... It's also much easier than you think. But... Only if you know the way to talk to a man that turns on the "win" switch in his mind much more often than the "lose" switch. So how do you create those positive "WIN" feelings for a man when he's with you... and how do you get him to be doing the same for you in his own way? I'm very excited to share with you the answer here... because I just had a special friend of mind share all these secrets and more in an Interview we just did together. His name is Adam Gilad, and he's an expert in knowing how to COMMUNICATE the feelings that attract and keep men and women together in lasting and fulfilling relationships. He's the author of the book for women, "How To Get Your Guy Online" and has also spent many years teaching men how to find their dream woman online. Adam is also a scholar of language and communication. As a matter of fact, he used to be a professor and taught language and writing at Stanford University. More importantly for you, Adam has spent years on his own path studying how Men and Women connect in Love and on the deeper aspects of relationships. He not only knows what men want, but is able to teach women how to COMMUNICATE to a man the right words that will allow him to recognize the real and authentic you, and feel INSPIRED to want to get to know you and be close to you. The reality is that every time a woman communicates with a man... whether in an online profile, an email, or in spoken conversation, it's a NEW OPPORTUNITY to trigger what Adam calls "Devotion" in a man. But ONLY IF she knows what effect her words have on a man. Adam has helped thousands of men and women find, identify and attract the right partner online by teaching them exactly what personality traits to SEEK OUT or AVOID.and to do that by reading BETWEEN THE LINES of online profiles or conversations. Words hold a lot of power. For one thing, they hold the power to ATTRACT and REPEL the man of your dreams. In my interview with Adam, he gave many specific examples, using real profiles he found on the Internet, of words that either engage and intrigue a man, make him indifferent, or repel him altogether. And his insights on words and feelings went way deeper than just online dating. Adam also revealed: -The ONE CRITICAL way to "speak a man's language" so that he will love being around you and will work hard to be a better partner for you everyday. -Are the words and phrases you're using online or in EVERYDAY CONVERSATION say that you're a "princess" or "goddess"? And does it matter? Actually, it matters a LOT. Find out why, and how you can develop the confident, sensual energy all men CRAVE -How to gracefully ward off the "bad guys" online and at the same time DRAW IN the good guys by communicating what they REALLY want to hear when they read a woman's profile -The critical MISTAKES you may be making online that are scaring away QUALITY MEN so they won't even think about writing you. What you NEED TO KNOW about how you're describing yourself and what you want online so you don't waste a single day sifting through worthless winks or low-quality responses -The careless mistake so many women make when they communicate that makes their man want to RETREAT and want to MOVE ON. If you've ever had a man tell you he's unhappy or leave, you absolutely need to hear this -The 2 ways of communicating to a man: one of them works to INSPIRE and attract a man to you and to give you what you want, and the other way DEVASTATES a man so that he can't get away from you fast enough. Find out which one you're doing every time you talk to your man -The MOST IMPORTANT character trait a woman should look for in a man's online profile - along with specific examples of the things that almost guarantee that a man's a truly "good guy" who will make a great partner and "relationship material" -What it is that most attractive, quality men WORRY ABOUT when it comes to COMMITTING, even to a great woman? (Here's a hint about this strange truth: it has something to do with the economy... and the answer will astound you!) -The "Sweet Spot" With A Man: Every man wants to be with a woman whose personality falls somewhere in between these two unattractive extremes. Most women don't know what these two "danger spots" are. Hear what these two important extremes are to a man, and learn specific examples of how to put yourself into that "sweet spot" where a man can't help be drawn to you as his long term PARTNER and his best and only LOVER -Find out what a man is really thinking and feeling when he says, "I want my freedom." Knowing this can EASE YOUR MIND and help you know exactly how to easily make your man want to take your relationship to the "next level." -A "How-To" guide to writing your ONLINE PROFILE so that the right man reading it will be attracted by you and inspired to contact you and meet you. This is a sentence-by-sentence HOW-TO on writing the kind of profile that will intrigue a man so much he won't be able to resist you. Adam uses real world examples so that you can actually match the tips to real words and phrases. -And much more... As you can see, Adam shared a TON of amazing insights and tips... and he revealed the real underlying needs men and women have to feel happy in relationships... and how you can both easily get more of your needs met while DOING LESS to meet more of a man's needs in a fun and easy way. To be honest, I was pretty blown away with some of the stuff Adam shared with me when I interviewed him. And, in fact, my time with Adam was so amazing that I decided to release the full recording of what he and I talked about as my latest edition of my "Monthly Interviews" series. But here's THE BEST NEWS OF ALL- If you're ready now... I'm going to let you listen to this entire Interview and all the great lessons in it for free. No strings or obligations. No tricks. I'll simply ship you a copy of this audio interview on a single CD and you can listen to it whenever and wherever you want. Why am I doing this? I REALLY want you to hear everything Adam has to say, because I think what's in this Interview could make the difference in your life between a more loving and intense connection with a man... and yet another frustrating dead-end or failed relationship. It's really that important. I don't want you to keep making the same mistakes over and over... whether you're just looking to meet a great guy, or you're already dating a man or in a relationship. The advice Adam shares in this Interview comes from years and years of his own experiences, research and study of what works and why... And I'm 100% confident that after listening to my Interview with Adam, you're going to have not only a deeper understanding of men, or the one man you're with right now... but you'll have an easy time creating the kind of shared experiences and relationship you really want with a man but just haven't been able to fully put together. In fact, I'm so sure that you're going to love this Interview and get a ton of great personal insights out of it that I'm going to do something special here... If you're ready to take your understanding of men to a more "evolved" place, and enjoy the benefits that will come with it, then I'm going to make it incredibly easy and risk free for you... If you're ready, I'm going to send you a copy of the Interview I did with Adam on CD for free... AND I'm going to pay for the shipping myself. And if that wasn't enough, just because you're raising your hand and letting me know you'd like to really jump-start your own growth and learning when it comes to love and relationships... I'll do you one better- I'll also send you 2 of my other best Interviews with relationship experts as a free bonus, because I know that if you love my Interview with Adam, then you're going to love these other 2 as well. Yes, I really am simply offering to send you my latest expert Interview AND the 2 best Interviews that other women who listened to them are still raving about. And I'll do it right now for $0 out of your pocket, and NEVER ask for you to pay for these 3 "freebies" ever. Listen to all of them when it's convenient for you and absorb all the valuable tips and advice... and after an entire month I'll ask you to do one small favor for me- Simply decide after 30 days if you want to continue getting new interviews like these each month in the future to keep your learning going and be part of the amazing group of guest experts I find each month. But again, no obligation. If you decide you don't want to continue with the program, just tell me and I won't send you any more Interviews. The "catch" here, in case you're looking for it, is this... I know you'll get a lot of value out of these interviews. And I know they'll change your perspective... and your love life. You're going to learn things you've never thought of or recognized before about men, love and relationships. And I'm betting that once you hear the amazing conversations and insights my guest experts and I talk about in detail, you'll want to keep getting my latest Interviews each month like so many other women do and love. Of course, the downside here for me is that you could just take advantage of me and "try out" my Interview series, have me ship you all 3 free right now... and you could have no intention of ever staying with my Monthly Interview Series. Get a free copy of the Interview I did with Adam Gilad right now, along with the other 2 "freebies", by going here: http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/e/12833/InterviewSeries/?cid=ZZV7VZ&lid=2&ll=1 You'll get Adam's interview and the other 2 free bonus interviews sent to your mailbox right away. By the way, Adam was a recent guest speaker at my latest Seminar. And every single woman in the room went absolutely wild for the things he taught them not only about men (and how to INSPIRE a man to be a great lover and partner)... but about how to get a man to be the one to do HIS PART and help grow and carry your relationship forward. Adam spoke at my "Finding Love Online" seminar under his former pen name, and really added a lot of value to this entire program that cover online dating from A to Z. On a related note... if you have already tried, or thought about trying ONLINE DATING, let me ask you- Have you put a ton of effort and time into putting together a great online profile only to have zero quality responses, or worse, emails that seem promising but are ultimately "dead ends"? There are so many attractive, quality men online... but the problem is you're either: 1) not getting his attention at all or 2) he writes you once or twice and then stops writing altogether 3) he seems uninterested in you even though you've read his profile and you know you'd be a great match So what's the story here? Is there some secret to online dating that you're not "getting" or are all the men online just a bunch of flakes? Or are YOU doing something wrong? Finding and meeting the perfect man online isn't impossible. As a matter of fact it's easier than ever IF you know the special attraction "language" to use. It's as easy as knowing the right WORDS and PHRASES to use and avoid... so you don't miss connecting with the right man for you. This is why my latest interview with Adam is the perfect free bonus to my newest CD/DVD program "Finding Love Online." Not only would you get all of Adam's fantastic tips on how to get a man "feeling" it for you by making him think you're the ONLY woman who can really understand him and make him happy... But you'd get my in-depth "how-to" program on Finding Love Online that will show you specific tips and tricks on how to quickly and easily do all of the following: -identify the right kind of guy online from all the WRONG ONES that will waste your time -write a profile that a man CAN'T RESIST responding to -ask the right questions to see if a man is WORTH meeting in person -take it from cyberspace to the real world SAFELY AND QUICKLY and get his interest so he'll ask you out again and again In my "Finding Love Online" program I show you all the ways to STAND OUT and be noticed... as well as the 5 things to avoid writing in any profile or email so a quality man doesn't CRINGE when he reads it (and makes him think you're boring or "needy"). Details about this program are right here: http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/e/12833/FindingLoveOnline/?cid=ZZV7VZ&lid=3&ll=1 Now, here's something you might want to take me up on... If you think you'd like to try out my "Finding Love Online" program and also listen to the 2-hour interview I did with Adam, and get the 2 free bonus interviews too, here's what I'm willing to do for you today... I'll ship ALL of the following to you risk-free so you can try it out: 1) My newest program "Finding Love Online" on CD or DVD for you to try out and see if you love it for a full 30 days 2) My interview with Adam on audio CD for you to listen to and KEEP, regardless if you want to continue with the Monthly Interview Series or not 3) The 2 additional bonus Interviews absolutely FREE and for you to keep no matter what Plus, I'll ship all of this to you at my expense so you don't have to pay a single thing to try it all out and start improving your life. I'll only ask that you do one thing... You have to let me know before Midnight on August 8th that you'd like to try all these amazing materials out for free, or else I can't get you the Adam Interview with all this. Here's a way I've made this SUPER SIMPLE... All you need to do if you're ready is go here to read the detailed letter about my "Finding Love Online" program and near the bottom of the page you'll click on the "Free Trial" button. After you do this, you'll automatically be asked if you'd also like to get my Monthly Interviews free trial. Just click "yes" and you're set. That's really all there is to it, and you'll get to try out and learn from all these amazing materials risk free. So go here now: http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/e/12833/FindingLoveOnline/?cid=ZZV7VZ&lid=4&ll=1 And let me know how you like all the great materials I send you. I'll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love. Your friend, Christian Carter