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Playmate vs. Soulmate

In our quest for happiness we must be sure that we don't settle for a
Playmate when God has a Soul mate waiting for us. Sometimes this is a
hard distinction to make. Playmates are tricky. They are so much fun
to be with that even the smartest of us will be fooled into thinking
this has to be our Soul mate. Worse yet too many of us attempt to make
a Soul mate out of a Playmate.

The danger of this is that later, after years of playing, we will meet
our Soul mate, but it may be too late. We may have already made a Life
mate of our Playmate and created life-long bonds (emotional, children,
etc.). Alternatively, we may have been hurt from playing so hard that
we are in no shape ourselves to be anyone's anything. How can we distinguish
between the One, and just another one? First, we must be open with
ourselves about who we really are and what our soul yearns for. Only
you and God know what is truly in your heart and mind.

Only you know what will make you truly happy and whole. In order to
find your Soul mate you have to know yourself first. You must be
willing to listen to that inner voice. Moreover, is that voice telling you
that the nerdy person you enjoy talking and sharing your thoughts
with, could be him? What about that friend who is always willing to go
the extra mile for you when no one else will. Oh no! He's too short or
too tall, balding or too hairy, and on and on? Just too ordinary
looking for me!

Then there's that girl who makes you feel so special when you're
around her, but she doesn't match that ideal you have conjured in your
head. She's too tall, not slender enough, not light or dark enough,
not shapely enough, not attractive enough, and on and on. She just
couldn't be for me! Therefore, what if he or she doesn't look like
Demi Moore or Justin Timberlake. Is he or she going to treat you like
the jewel that you are?

Not only that, his or her soul and yours will commune in ways you
never imagined possible! In order to heed that voice, we have to put
on the back burner our own superficial thinking. Could it be that your
inner desire is for a truly genuine person with a good heart? If you
enjoy playing, stay on the playground. There are plenty of Playmates
out there to occupy your time. Nevertheless, don't spend too much time
playing or you may play your life away. Eventually the playing loses
its appeal and your soul begins to crave a deeper, more meaningful
connection. Your soul begins to crave your Soul mate.

Never make someone a priority when all you are to him or her is an
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