SPC Reverend Bakie's blog: "The Classics"

Ah, the joys of relationships. You're with a person that you love and you don't want to leave. But all of a sudden you find out some things about your partner that you are not comfortable with. Yes, one of those times that you wish you haven't said or asked anything about it. And when that seems to happen, you wish there was a way to turn it around. I'm talking about your partner's past. I know, I know, you say you must be honest with your partner at all times, which I could not agree with you anymore. But there are some things that I would, at least, be said as a lie. I'm sorry, but according to my past experiences with other people, it seems that telling the truth about it seems to cause a lot of problems. I actually witnessed a couple, and I mean a very good couple, go down the tubes because one of the people found out that the other was once a slut. And when I say slut, I mean it could be a male or a female, believe me, there are male sluts out there. Anyway, that is why I say it's ok to lie about when it comes to someone's past. I don't know why, but it's the most pointless and meaningless information when it comes to love and yet it can cause so much trouble. I know I'm going to get criticism about what I'm talking about, being that "Oh but if you are in love with that person, it shouldn't matter", I do agree with that, but think of it this way; what if your partner was a slut and had sex with, say, over thirty people, would you want to know about that? Would you still feel the same way about that person after you found that out? I have to be honest on this one, but if I was going out with someone that told me they had sex with over thirty people, I would cringe so bad that I would be in a tub full of hot water with some really strong soap to go with it, and scrubbing myself with a metal brush. Maybe it's just me, but I'm just afraid of getting STD's. On the other hand, however, I do go along with a rule that a girl I used to hang out with told me, “Sometimes it's just best not to know." This I do agree with totally, because if you are in a great relationship as it is, why ask? Another thing that I have experienced before, usually sometimes when you ask about something according to your partner's past, if you do ask about something what they did before, you might get your feeling hurt. I know nobody is perfect, and I definitely know I'm not perfect, but sometimes maybe it's just good to keep the little things like that out of the conversation. I just see it as a good way to stay in a relationship, that's all. But that is the only lie I will accept, nothing more.