After talking to and meeting all sorts of different people and personalities over the past year; I've come to the conclusion that people are cowards. Now, before you go all defensive on me, I just felt that its the best term to describe most people's inability to communicate who they are, what they want, and what they are all about.
I'm sure women have dated "That guy" and guys have dated "That girl" that may have jaded you for a while, if you aren't still; welcome to the club. So here is a write up I used on a site, that pretty much describes what I think.
I am looking for Friends:
OK, there are so many ways this can be taken, but I'll try my best to explain how I feel about "friends". First off, friends are fun to hang out with; I'm definately looking to meet some people who share the same interests that I do, but also different interests that I might end up liking and want to do more once I try them. Friends are people that I trust with anything; sure, friends can be more casual, hang out from time to time, spam each other with good email jokes, etc. Freinds will accept me for who I am and I respect them for who they are as well. I'm NOT looking for email pals; only those who truely want to meet in person, need to respond to me.
Friends can grow
The bottom line is, I dont ever want to be in a relationship again, unless that person is at least my friend. Communication and Honesty are key in any relationship, even friends; lets face it, if you had to lie to even a friend, chances are that you shouldn't even be friends with that person. Chemistry is also a big factor, as we all know; you are either feeling it or you are not. If it happen to grow to this point, GREAT !!! But if it doesn't, no worries, good friends are always welcome.
Multiple Dating
Sorry to burst anyone's bubble, but we are in an age where people are very confident in their sexuality and sexual habits; I'm one of these people. I won't even get into a serious relationship with someone where we are not sexually compatible. Now, before the hate mail starts, I'm sure MANY of you don't feel that this is NOT a high priority when looking for a relationship; thats cool, and I respect your position, so please respect mine.
I don't want to jump into anything serious right off that beat, as I am sure noone else is; have to meet people, see how things go. So dating more than one person seems to be the way to go, even though people don;t want to admit this. I always hear "I don't ever date more than one person"; I'd have to call BS on this one, even if just a small discrepancy. Why put all your eggs in one basket? So don't be shy or affraid to say there are others; you want to talk with me, go out a few times see if there is a click? Cool, more power to you.
I'm clean, never had anything and don't EVER want anything. If someone wants to know if I'm having sex with anyone I'm seeing or dating, I'll tell them; I'll even tell them if they don't ask, just because I like to keep a very open and honest relationship. Now, if you want a monogamous relationship, thats perfectly fine; but you better be the complete package of what I am looking for (and I'll only know what that is when I feel it). If I'm not feeling it, I'll tell you, and then the ball is in your court to decide if you want to see me anymore or not. I'm single and love to have fun; and I think we can agree that we all like sex. Trust me, there are just as many people who feel the way I do, just as there are who find this totally disgusting.
Does this means that I'm just out looking for sex? LOL, no. Just putting my thoughts and feelings out in the open; I'm not one to hide things, I come straight forward all the time. But it is amazing how people are so affraid to expose who they are as a fear of being judged. I can;t say I really blame them; a lot of people just act the way society expects them. I'm looking for those willing to be themselves no matter what anyone else thinks.
The Finale
In no way, shape or form, do I consider myself a "player"; I'm not into games. I'm very honest about who I am and what I do, if you don't like it, you do NOT have to date me, let alone, message me. Thats the beautiful thing about it all, we get to choose who we want to talk to and get to know. So, if I happen to message you, and you read this and think "OH God no!", no worries; I don't mean to offend, I"m just looking for people like me, just as you are.
I'm not full of myself, and I know I'm not perfect, but I do not find BBW sexually appealing. So, if you aren't average (and lets be honest about this, I've seen some "average" that were far from it), then we wouldnt be more than just friends. Again, before the hate mail starts, YOU are allowed to want what you like, and so am I
