Prologue:
I was at the park with my kids today thinking recent events in my life and came to a blinding realization. I am writing from my own perspective and catch A LOT of flak for it. Everyone takes what I say personal because it is personally from me and they relate to it because they feel it is about them or something that can be connected to them. I have seen people in a way that I am not too proud of and people that I feel like they are flawed by their gender roles, lately. I am not "woman bashing" in anyway! I am, however stating what I have seen lately and have broke down these individuals into groups, not by who they are, but by what they do. I want to share this with the planet.
Body:
Men and Women relate to each other in many ways. The usually pick a mate due to the impact their actions have on them. They are usually attracted to a certain "type". This means a group of individuals hold characteristics (or lack of character or characteristics) that draw them to another person. Usually if we see a trait we see as desirable, we can associate someone we have already dealt with in the "Mate Game" that exudes that characteristic in some small way. Some women and men wonder why they date the same mate when the new prospective mate is much different than a previous one, yet they share a behavior pattern. Then you are like: "Damn, I thought I picked better than that, now what?". Well to correct this issue you have to redefine who you are and try for something better and be better yourself.
Lately, I have been watching people interact and have really seen sides of people that I find deplorable. I have seen people that I held in such high esteem do things that I would NEVER imagine them doing. Others, I have watched in general and have found them a sad reflection. I have seen several different archetypes and have defined them tonight. They surround me and each of us in some small way. Men can harbor these in their own way, but I see them more prevalent in women. I am no one special and I am not singling people out, just sharing what I see in a hope to find catharsis. I have broken them down into several groups and would like to share them with you. They will have their titles and definition. Here they are...
Chess Master- The Chess Master's ultimate plan is to sacrifice whatever pawns/options they have at their disposal. Their goal is to manipulate and bend people just so they can have it "perfect" to keep their mate(s) in "check". Hence the term Chess Master. They only achieve inner peace when they have everyone where they believe they should be in regards to themselves. They will do whatever it takes to reach this Zen-like state of misunderstood "perfection". The Pawns are expendible and the only ones who can find refuge from them are those that refuse to play. These people are truly dangerous!
Terrorist- These individuals deal in absolutes and ultimatums. They are only happy when they receive total acknowledgement and recognition in every sense of these terms. Their ultimate goal is to use these tactics whenever they see fit, just to get their way. You can spot them when they pose a question that corners you into an answer with dire consequences. You must deal with these individuals with the utmost care, because they have contingency plans galore. You deal with them just as you deal with anything or anyone who inspires fear as they tool. You do not negotiate terms with these people. They should be expelled immediately from relations of any kind!
Kamikaze- These people attack with reckless abandon based on a "nothing left to lose" mentality. They attack any and all means of weakness at their disposal. They do not care how they hurt and maim you. Their ultimate goal is revenge and they do not care what it takes to achieve this goal. These people are hard to spot due to their knack for revenge. They hide their emotions, just as they hide in the shadows for a mistake to enterprise on.
(Typically, Terrorists and Kamikaze's are the same person, but this is not always so.)
Grenade- These people usually act without thought. They explode and do not care who they take with them. They view everyone as expendable. They rationalize this as their "victims" view THEIR emotions as expendable, so they do as they wish without accountability. You can spot these people as the ones who never do wrong and rationalize whatever wrong they do as reasonable. No matter how unreasonable a reasonable person would see their actions as. These people also exude the "My way or Highway" mentality. Only way to deal with these people is how you deal with a literal grenade...duck, cover, or hopefully get the hell away in time before they explode, making you their next casualty.
Negotiator- These folks are true masters of manipulation! They capitalize on ANY mistake they see. They use this mistake and hold it over your head for eternity, because this is their bartering tool. They use the other person's mistakes to gain the "moral high-ground". These people can be spotted and act as though they were interviewing you for a job. Question after question, just to get a chink in the armor. They find this chink and wait for the moment to use it. They are truly patient creatures. You can also spot these people as the ones who throw things in your face, then wait to see how you react. These are the hardest to spot of the group and the most dangerous. Good Luck against them...you'll need it!
Sniper-These people use guile and cunning as their tools of the trade. these people lie in wait and watch all as they make distractions to keep you off their trail. Their trail is impossible to catch and impossible to stop. These people pretend to be helpless and try not to be noticed. Their only true enemy is their own patience. They lay silently where they are until they cannot be patient any longer and the time is at hand. They issue their destruction with marksmanship-like precision and know what they are doing because they have planned this perfectly. They cause chaos then slip into the shadows again. The chaos is so massive from the emotional fallout from these people, they conceal their identities well. When you realize who they are and what they have done, all you get is Name, rank and Serial Number. Count the casualties...tag 'em and bag 'em! Expert emotional assassins!
Trojan Horse- These people appear as helpless as well. They seem as though "perfect" in your eyes. When things seem too perfect, they usually are. These people are the ones that you conceptualize relationships with and attempt to know better. Their goal is to have you at their disposal. Their ruse is your downfall. They are who you wanted to know, before you wanted to know them. They are spotted as "helpless fawns" with an almost Bambi-esque quality about them. They play dumb a lot and seek no information about you whatsoever. Not, because they are "respecting your privacy", but because they truly don't care about you. You can draw them out by joking harmlessly or ask a touchy question. They usually show their teeth and their disguise is ruined and they won't talk to you again, until they think you have forgotten what happened. Then, it is back to playing dumb. Don't get bit by Bambi!
Epilogue:
I wrote these from ideas I have been stirring in my head. I will receive countless pieces of hate-mail and possible deletions. Do I care, prolly not! It depends on their rationale. If a person embodies what I say when they look at a reflection and throw a fit and freak, I feel bad for them. These are based on MANY people I have seen in every corner of my life since I moved and before. I am sure I will be told off, but so be it! There are many other people who will see this as positive and gain some insight and/or laugh a bit. This is my hope! That is always my hope in sharing. No low blows, just mutually beneficial information. If you do not want me to succeed in someone gaining a positive from this, "You will only succeed in your own embarrassment!" I hope this helps someone and catharsis blooms and blossoms into happiness.
How does Dean use this in his life, now that I have unloaded? That is for another day! Till then...Hugs and kisses!
