Views from a shade tree physicologist
Current mood: apathetic
Category: Romance and Relationships
In this little ditty,I'm going to try to help you see logic,or as I put it,walking in another mans shoes.A woman who is married of 13 years,falls in love resparks with the ex-love of her life.The whole thing gets started when she corresponds to her ex-husband and they both convey the love that they still have and have never lost for each other.Well lets just dig in here.They end up talking everynight that her husband goes to sleep,either by phone,or computer.The husband gets suspicious and starts asking questions.The whole time the woman denies everything to the husband,to spare his feelings.The husband becomes even more suspicious,and is determined to get to the bottom of it.Needless to say he taps the phoneline to find out just what is really going on.He catches the conversation between his wife and her ex and is finally given his answers.After confronting the wife,she realizes that she has been caught,and tells him everything.He then tells his wife that she will have to leave,he tells her that he knows that she might not be able to leave right away,but that she had better figure out something,sentencing her to leave without anything that they have created for each other.Now,my question for you is ,was the man in the right,and justified for his actions toward his wife?I'll bet your reaction is hell yeah he was,you probably would have put her on the streets right then. Well hear comes the whole story before you go making up your mind. The whole 13 years of thier marriage,the husband insited that the wife not work,that she depend on him.She helped him get his business off the ground,and even worked with him side by side for the better part of thier relationship.He had made her so dependent on him that she litterally lost herself and became mearly a shadow of him.When it came to plans she had for her future he was none supportive,and at times,counter-supportive. He sheltered her away from friends,because he did not believe they needed friends,cause all his friends would want is to sleep with his wife,and vice versa.She became a stay at home mother,forcefully no doubt.Then when all this above "cheating",took place,remember he told her he did not know what she was going to do with herself now that she had to leave everything behind.Correct me if I'm wrong now,but isn't half of everything he is hers?He forced her to leave her life through his accomplishments after all.Leave you have nothing because you don't want to be with me,and if you don't your not intitled to half of what I forced you to establish.If he honestly felt that way in the first place,was he not wrong for forcing her to give up on herself so that he could have his dreams,sounds selfish to me. Now that you have heard the true story I'll bet alot of your opinions have changed,remember this is but a small lesson.Whenever you have conflict or a dissagrement with someone,even if you have to get away from them to avvoid the heat of argument,do it.Think about thier feelings on the matter at least.Then you will get a perspective on why they might be feeling the way they are,and I garuntee you if you do this it will at least turn the conflict away from confrontational.If you are made you want people to know why,you should respect you opposition in the same manner.Thanx for listening.This has been a shade tree physicologist babble session.
