IDEAS FOR ENHANCING SELF-ESTEEM
Try to understand and accept that how you see yourself came from your family of origin, and can be changed as you begin to look at that family and their ways of surviving
Although only you can give yourself positive esteem, it is helpful along the way, to spend time with people around whom you feel terrific
Become aware of what is important to you and begin to concentrate on those things. What do you want in 5 years, 1 year, if you only had 6 months to live?
We all have an inner voice that is accurate and knows what is best for us. Outer voices often muffle it. Allow time to be with yourself and listen to your inner voice.
Look into a mirror and give yourself compliments. When you cannot hear those, call a friend (your biggest fan) and ask them to give you one.
Create a new way to nurture yourself each day. One day you might write yourself a love note, one day you might take a walk along the water, one day you might bake something healthy for yourself. You are really worth it.
Allow yourself to experience your fears and know that you can survive them. Then call a friend and talk about it.
Let go of expecting others to meet your needs. YOU can meet those needs yourself. If another does something special, well, that's a gift and a surprise.
Allow yourself to spend time along the way doing something you enjoy. Whether you read a sexy novel or take a bubble bath, it is important to experience aloneness as being fun.
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13 Jun 2007
in the words of reback wolf 06-13-07
Current mood: bored
Category: Life
NURTURING AND ENHANCING SELF-ESTEEM
When making big changes in life, whether from alcohol abuse, drug addiction, getting out of an abusive relationship or stopping the abuse, the first step is acknowledging that there is a problem that needs changing. Second is accepting that it is a problem and knowing there is a power availible to us to help make those changes. If in the early stages of this change you work on your self-esteem the journey will become easier as you travel it. It is natural to seek the knowledge to make those changes…. Good self-esteem will let you stand tall and ask the questions needed to acquire this knowledge.
If a child gave up at the first fall, that child would never learn too walk.
Always support yourself. Give yourself credit for every step you take whether it is big or small. The more you re-enforce your positive changes and learning's the better life will become.
Here are a few ideas
· Keep a journal. You will see you growth and change of direction in Life. To see the words written on paper is another form of communication with the self.
· Start to identify your feelings, your needs and your wants, no matter how small or extreme.
· Your feelings are real don't deny yourself them. Strive to express your feelings in direct, respectful and appropriate ways.
· Write out the things you like about yourself on cards and put them where you will see them and believe them when you read it. The things you don't like about yourself, they are part of what made you who you are today. Embrace the lesson held within and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away.
· Use affirmations. Say or write them everyday. Take any negative thoughts and make it into a positive statement. Place them on the mirror and read them with conviction. " I am strong and have the strength to do this, I have the power to make the change." " I am a good person worthy of love" " I am not alone, creator is all around me. Look listen and trust"
· Hang positive and uplifting quotes all around your house. Read them often. "No one can make you feel inferior with out your consent."
· Take time for relaxation exercises. It helps to stay calm. When we are calm it is easier to handle the big stuff. Just think with practice, you will be able to get calm by merely taking a couple deep breaths. Honest.
· Pray. Ask for strength in times of weakness. Ask to be clear and balanced the way creator meant for you to be. Don't be troubled with the wording of it creator knows your intentions. Be honest and speak from your heart. Stand, sit, lay, bow your head, look to the sky, hold out your arms, just pray.
· Choose to be around people that make you feel positive and good.
· Read articles and books about Mother Earth spirituality and the old ways.
· Read poetry, novels and short stories that will inspire you.
· Seek out art, music and movies that encourage positive thought.
· Join a support group, talk to friends. You don't have to do this alone. You are not alone.
· Set goals for yourself. For today, This week, …
· Look in the mirror and tell your self you are OK. You are unique and a beautiful child of the Earth. Being non-judgmental of you is great practice for being non-judgmental of others.
· Be kind and gentle with yourself. Change is hard and takes time, be patient with you. It will come if you stay calm and positive.
· Take time to be alone. Silence lets you hear your heart song. Sit on the Earth and let her guide you. Listen she is talking to you.
· Be respectful when asking things of yourself… Give suggestions not demands.
· Recognize, acknowledge, and move through fear and resistance. Ask for help if you feel you need it. It is Ok to ask for help. It shows the desire for knowledge.
· Use your sense of humor; laughter is a great healer
· Don't be ashamed to cry it heals the spirit.
· Take a workshop, Knowledge is empowering.
· Go for counseling, It is ok to ask for help. Sometimes all we need is a point in the right direction and a good support system.
· Give yourself a foot massage
· Put on some music and dance
· Live life one breath at a time
· Stay detached from the emotional crises of others. This can hinder us when we are working on improving ourselves. This is a time of healing YOU.
· Sing; experiment and play with your voice, Let creation here you
· Use relaxation and meditation tapes. Being calm is a big step to finding balance.
· Smile… you are loved
Never stop learning.
Stand tall. Be counted.
You are worthy of Creators love.
You are not alone. You are part of the biggest family ever created.
You where born a child of the Earth Mother, she has made a path for you to follow………
Be with peace and stay safe.
