Is it ever okay to keep a secret that concerns the person/people you love?
There are times when we find out things that we know would be harmful to our loved ones, such as their husband/wife is cheating, maybe their child is gay, or maybe someone they love really doesn’t feel the same way about them, but hasn’t told them and has no plans of telling them. Do you tell the person the truth or do you keep quiet because it is not your business to tell?
This has to be a tough decision because you care about the person who doesn’t know the secret, but you don’t really want to be the one who breaks their heart with the news. On the other hand if you don’t tell them what kind of brother/sister/mother/friend etc. are you that you would know a secret that concerns them, but won’t tell them?
Then again who are you to break up a seemingly happy home with the news that someone’s husband/wife-boyfriend/girlfriend has been cheating? But then again if you know the secret and say for instance it is your sister’s husband that is cheating and you know this for a fact (not he say she say) wouldn’t it be wrong to allow your sister to remain in the dark about her husband’s wrongdoing, wouldn’t you want your sister to tell you if she knew your spouse was cheating?
What if the situation is even worse and you know both parties involved? Who are you more loyal to? If you care about them both do you tell the secret even though it will hurt both people. One person will be hurt because they have been lied to, cheated on etc. the other person will be hurt and upset with you because you told a secret they had and they thought you were loyal to them.
Is there ever a time to just keep your mouth shut and keep the secret? How do you determine if you should stay out of it? And if it were you would you want to know and would you be hurt if one of your loved ones kept a painful secret that involved you or would you be able to understand that they just wanted to stay out of it?
