*A friend did a mumm and got me thinking. But first is what he said below...
"As humans when it comes to the people we love(family and friends) and the ones we are in love with(gf/bf/husband/wife) we make sacrifices that could benefit us for things that benefit them.
So what if whats being sacrificed is something that can make you happy?
Something you know will bring happiness to your life but problem is someone you love(family or friend) has that. Lets say you make the sacrifice but everytime you see them happy, you are happy for them but sad as well because you feel it would do the same for you. You want it but cant have it without hurting the relationship you have with that person. Burning the bridge.
Of course in life nothing is black and white, its all grey area. So depending on situations you may act differently. So which of these you believe more in, at times it can be both but which means more to you?
Sacrificing your happiness for someone you love because you feel them being happy is better.
or
Taking the chance for something you want, your happiness, even if it might burn a bridge.
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So my husband and I were talking about this as well. Both of us have made sacrifices. I do them each day for my family being a wife and mother. I have always put my family first before my needs. Reason why I am always last to get new clothes or new bras let alone! LOL. So when I go shopping for stuff like that. I do get really excited. My husband does it with his job, being in the military. How much he sacrifices himself for others. Plus he does as a father too. There has been many times he wanted things but we couldn't get either because we had shoes or haircuts to give to the kids.
Then along with a relationship with someone. You have to learn the unconditional love part. Most of us now a days get married at a young age. I know I did my fair share in my last marriage to my husband on being immature because he wasn't being the kind of man I wanted him to be. Let alone a father. So I stayed till I got fed up. The events that took place on my doings wasn't fair to him no matter what. Needless to say, I fell in love with a man that had his own baggage. Then living with each other is where it got sticky. Then you add the stress from his ex wife as well. So my husband had to battle his own immature ways with his wrong doings a year ago. So this year was more of a learning lesson with those sacrifices we have to give each other in our marriage. So we learned a lot this past year about what it turly means to love one another and love unconditionally. I just pray that I don't have to put my husband through misery to learn it the hard way. He has had a LOT done to him in his past. I was thrown into adulthood at a very young age. Then I was immature in my 1st marriage if I wasn't happy I looked else where. So I got it out of my system. Where as my husband didn't really have a "marriage" with his ex. So he never got a lot of those 1st with a wife. So I had to deal with more of the understanding where he was coming from. Which helped my healing process this year.
I can honestly say going through all these headaches does make me love him even more and gives me that feeling it is just us against the world. I don't always have the mom and dad to run to and nor does my husband. We have to make it on our own in this world. To me that is a WONDERFUL feeling when you look back and said...WE DID IT! :)
*NOW I HOPE this starts a trend for others to do a thinking blog*
