Due to some recent events in my life and in the news I have become disgusted with the state of how men act and how they treat women these days. I understand that to some degree some women are at fault for the things that happen but that isn’t an excuse in my book. Some of you know me well enough to know I was raised old-fashioned. For those of you who don’t know me, I was raised to respect women and be a gentleman at all times.Now I admit that in these days and times it is hard to be a gentleman but I still do it as much as possible. I don’t care if people see it as a joke or something out of date.... cause how can respect be out of date. So to this I have decided to start a list
of rules to pass around here and everywhere else I can to try to bring back the idea gentleman and manhood in its best forms. For those of you who read this I thank you for taking the time and I hope this idea takes off like I want it to. Please leave any comments that you think may help me out... I will read them all before I post the
list. Any disrespectful or degrading comments will be deleted and may even get you dropped from my friends list if you are on it. I no longer have the time or energy to deal with people who cant be respectful to me or the things I care about. You don’t have to agree with me but you can respond without being rude. Now on to the list I
have so far... I will post more as they come to me.
Promoting Manhood
#1. A man never raises his hand to a woman in anger... NEVER.
This rule doesn’t not mean a man can’t not defend himself against a woman attacking him.
All it means is that a man never hits on a woman because of a fight or in some sick
cases because he enjoys it. These are not men, they are either frightened boys or
monsters.
#2. A man must be able to express his emotions in safe and positive ways.
The days of men being hard, emotionless people are over. You are not weak if you can
cry or show your emotions. This does not mean that when you’re angry you can take it
out on the world and those around you. If your in a bad mood deal with it in a way that
won’t hurt anyone including yourself.
#3. A man supports his family and loved ones.
This is more then just by money. Support means your there for those you love in anyway
they may need you. If your wife/girlfriend had a bad day and you and your friends want
to party you will drop your plans to make your woman feel better. Family comes first.
This doesn’t mean you give all of yourself without giving to yourself. Just make sure
that you are there for those you love and love you in return.
#4. A man always shows respect when it is deserved.
This one is simple and difficult at the same time. When it comes down to it, simply put,
a man is respectful to everyone that deserves it. But it doesn’t mean you can be a
jack*ss to those you don’t. You always try to be the better person until no other path
is open to you. And since strangers haven’t had a chance to earn your respect you give
them benefit of the doubt and give them the best respect just to be safe. Opening
doors, walking on the traffic side of the sidewalk, giving up your seat somewhere to
a woman or elderly person are all big examples of how you can respect strangers.
#5. A man will step in to help or protect another.
This can range from anything to helping someone with a package to jumping into a fight
when someone is getting brutally beaten. This isn’t so much a rule as an idea proceeding
to another rule. Its to the discretion of each man on how much he can do to help. But
sometimes discretion is the better part of valor. If you cant stop a fight to protect
another then call the authorities and keep an eye on the victim. Never get into something
you cant get out of safely.
#6. A man never starts a fight if he doesn’t have to, and never when honor isn’t a part
of it.
Yes I said honor... the simple most important thing to any man is his honor. If you
cant wake up in the morning, look in the mirror and see that you are a man then you
need to try harder. As to fights, you start a fight only cause someone hurt or dis-
respected a loved or protected person in your life. First make sure its the last
recourse you have... who knows they might apologize if you ask them to respectfully.
If its the only thing you have left to do the only thing I can say is make sure its a
fight you can win. Your no less of a man if you walk away from a fight. Once again...
discretion is the better part of valor.
#7. A man isn’t afraid to be or ashamed to be wrong.
There is nothing bad about being wrong. No one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes.
If you can accept and learn from our mistakes and the what comes of them is the mark
of something better then some one who denies and ignores them.
I know these rules seem very strict but they arent if you truely understand them and
the intent they are written in. Im am trying to get the list to at least 10 but if I
can go beyond that all the better. Please leave any and all comments here or in a
private message if you don’t want to put your ideas or thoughts out there for the world
to see. I will do my best to reply to all comment and messages, and all critisms will
be taken as it is given, positive or negative. I once again thank you for taking the
time to read this... it’s my way of dealing with the loss of respect I have for my
fellow "man" as it were.
