I am looking for the 'perfect man'.
Wait. Did I say 'perfect'? Okay. Maybe that's setting the bar a little high. How about a 'thoughtful, considerate, attentive man'? Hmmmm...still a little tough, you say?
Okay...how's this. How about I simplify things. How about just a man. Oh, and breathing would be nice.
Here are 10 things I am looking for in a man:
It's a good thing. Men who are, at least ambulatory, are already step ahead. There's so much potential there: potential walks in the park; potential strolls in the moonlight; potential dancing.
Ah, the possibilities.
He doesn't need to be rich. He doesn't even need to be flush (although remembering to is always a plus). But the willingness to share, whether it's a meal, his ice cream or his cream cheese pie -- especially his cream cheese pie -- is always a good sign that a he is open to generosity in other areas., resulting in him being a good listener.,or beinga good conversationalist, and just maybe a good...
oh, wait. That's a whole 'nuther subject.
Plus, if he buys dinner, he might actually have a -- dare I whisper it? -- j. o. b.
Which brings us to....
Motivation to move -- no slugs, thankyouverymuch. There is a difference between a man ,who knows how to relax (ideally while he's rubbing me feet , my shoulders, or my kitty) and a slug. A slug , is one of those guys whose idea of a relaxing afternoon is sprawling on the couch with one leg down the length of the sofa and the other propped on the coffee table, wearing holey sweats, armed with the remote. Don't get me wrong there's nothing wrong with that except for the holey....oophs a hole, okay so I am just as bad on this area.
Motivated is a man who sits with me on the couch , perhaps inviting me to snuggle. Motivated is a man who knows how to put down the remote, waiting out the commercial. Motivated is a man who will sit through 'New Dtectives' then patiently, and attentively listen to my commentary, all the while nodding and murmuring things like, "Y'know, I never thought of it like that. You might be right.
How is that motivated?
That's a man who knows what he wants and, what's more, what it takes to get it.
And if you've gotta ask, well then...I'm sorry.
Whether it's meeting my mother, meeting my girlfriends, or just hanging out, a man with some tact is a plus. One who knows, on at least a basic level -- even if he's not able to resist the temptation all the time -- that it's not sexy to 'grab and grin' at my mother's dinner table. One who realizes that the third course is NOT necessarily me. One who understands there's a time and place for everything. (Like when we get back to our car.)
Plus, if he can answer the question, 'Do I look fat in these?' without making mewant to strangle him, he just might be a keeper.
Any man can fake patience. It's no harder than faking an orgasm for a woman. Some are better at it than others though and some have to fake more than others -- what I want is to ferret out the worst.
I watch for things like impulsively checking the time. Tapping his fingers while he's waiting for me to finish trying on those incredible shoes I found at the mall. (Everyone who knows me, knows how much I love my shoes.) or him saying: "Aren't you ready yet?" "How much longer is this going to take?" and "Hurry the **** up, already!"
But I could just leave him at home....and enjoy the shoe department.
5.Willingness to take direction
And not just driving directions (although that counts). A man who can listen and give my suggestions a try. At least seriously consider them.
Okay...how about pretend to seriously consider them?
I'm not talking about the complete works of the Shakepeare or "War and Peace." Just a man, who knows that a newspaper is for something other than putting under the car when he changes the oil. A man, who realizes that there's more to television programming than Spike and ESPN.
Look at it this way, a man who can string together two coherent sentences is more likely to be able to converse intelligently or to be able to converse at all and more able to hold a job, as well as make a good impression on my family and my friends. Not that I care what my family thinks...no, not me. Still....
3.The ability to carry his end of the conversation
...or not. Sometimes a nice, comfortable, companionable silence truly is golden. But, at the end of the day (or night) I've got to be able to talk. There are only so many other things we can do to occupy ourselves. but eventually we'll get tired.
We don't have to be joined at the hip (well, every once in a while might be nice) but it's nice to share interests and experiences. Opposites may attract but they don't always stick. A man, who enjoys some of the same movies, music, books and television might cut down on some of the potential friction. Differences are fine -- they encourage us to grow , to learn and to accept -- but polar opposites? Possible disaster.
I am looking for common ground.
And finally....Number One with a bullet is.....
A nice ass.
Yes, I'm kidding.
And that brings us to the real number one. A sense of humor.
The ability to laugh at himself and with me. I want a man who loves to hear my laugh. A man, who doesn't take himself too seriously. A man, who can look at the world with humor -- and share his view.point humoursly with me.
If you can find a man with all these qualitites (and that nice ass wouldn't hurt), PLEASE introduce us, send him my way.
I have had it up to my G-string with being single...I am finally ready to find Mr forever instead of my usual Mr. for the moment.
Rohnnda Sayri Benavente