we have no choice who we love....even if we fight against the feelings eventually we are doomed to lose, resisting maybe gives you time to get to know them better but in the end you are at the mercy of the other person. unfortunately the wind can change, they can become scared by thier own feelings, sadly but no less painful they can die. there is no way to prepare for anyof it, and really no way to prevent it should it happen. you can live you're life alone and miserable or you can subject yourself to the mercy of another and hope for the best. you can try and say next time i will go in with my eyes open, but you are still as blind as the next person, pain strikes when you least expect it...you can choose to go on, or you can let it crush you. i have chosen to live and fight through the pain evntually i will heal, though my heart will always belong to her...