Sub: The only way not to hurt...is to not give a fuck.
I have often felt the same thing. I have tried to live my life as a giving individual, and although I have seen many hardship arise out of this mentality I will never regret it. It may seem illogical to continue to act or think in a certain manner when you are constantly taken advantage of. However I have come to an understanding. I understand that it is not the nature of the perspective or mentality that instigates cruelty or disrespect, it is the way that we present ourselves that gets us what we receive. I always asked myself why these people take advantage of the situation and me when they don't have to. The simple answer is, because they can. It happens because they are presented with a situation where they can do what they like and not suffer any consequences. It happens because I show them all the cards, and they get to pick from the bunch. It happens because we offer them an opportunity that many would not refuse. i admit that it is easier just to not give a fuck. But is anyone really worth that much? Is anybody so influential in my life that I will let them change the person that I am. No. I will not change myself or my nature because I am taken advantage of. What i will do is this, I will never let that same person get one ounce of anything from me. I will teach all of the people around me that if you take advantage of a situation I will not judge you. But I will destroy you if you bring it to me. I hope that this helps you to see that good people are faced with these kinds of problems everyday. And just because there are assholes out there that will take advantage, cheat, lie , and steal. There are also people out there that will not take advantage, that will be honest, and will be there for you...and not only that but will be sincere. To love takes courage. I pray that you will have the courage to find the one that you deserve.
