all about relationships
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After having a long relationship talk with a girlfriend, who is having problems with hers I came up with the following advise! Of coarse these may or may not apply to you, but at some point in time you have gone through at least 1 of these, if not more! Everyone has had a bad relationship…so don't be trying to lie!
1.) Talk…if you can't communicate why are you together!
2.) Accusing your sweetie of cheating…if you are someone who does this, take a good look at yourself because it usually means YOU are guilty of something…and this is a way to get out from under the guilt, by pointing a finger at someone else. Unless he is coming home with lipstick on his shirt, or she is smelling like cologne you don't wear, give it up and tell me what is really going on!
3.) Are you snooping? What is it you are looking for? My mother who I have come to accept knows everything (although I don't like this fact), and is usually right (don't like that either) says when someone snoops they are looking for a way out, without having to be the bad guy. If they find something they may not like or if it makes the other person look bad, it makes it much easier to leave. Again if you are snooping you already have an idea what your looking for to begin with, which should be your first clue to say goodbye and have a nice life! This goes along the line with #2, if you do this STOP now or you will end up single…but I guess if your really looking for a way out your headed in the right direction!! So to that I say quit being a baby and end it already!!
5.) Do you trust the person you are with? If you don't…breakup!! It really is that easy. I don't want to be with someone I don't trust…and you shouldn't either! Enough said!
6.) Listen when you argue or fight! If more than you're a dick or bitch is being said, you will find great insight to how and what the other person really feels. When someone says something hurtful during an argument they are actually being honest…it just comes at a bad time when things are heated…so see #1.
7.) Being jealous and insecure are two of the worst traits in the world…and makes even the most good looking person in the world ugly! Something to think about!!
8.) A healthy self esteem (NOT EGO) can make an average person extremely sexy.
9.) Are you happy being single? If not a relationship is not going to fix what was already broke, and after that honeymoon phase you will still be miserable!! Sorry but this one is true and no one can help you with this one but yourself!
10.) Don't try and control your boyfriend/girlfriend! I don't know about you but if I wanted someone to boss me around and want to know what I am doing every second of everyday I would move back home with my parents! We all moved away from home for a reason…and it wasn't to get into something we already had with our parents!!
11.) Don't let someone push you into doing something that your not comfortable doing…whether it be sexually or anything else! If it is not in your comfort zone don't do it just to make someone else happy! It is not worth it!
