Duke Boomington's blog: "the good, the bad, the ugly"

So Ive been strolling through fubar and Ive noticed the 50/50 term thrown around about relationships. Since when does someone give HALF of themselves for a relationship? Its my understanding that you give 100% of yourself in a relationship..... as should your partner. Now I understand some or a lot of you have been burned...... male and female alike, but does that really give you the right to not trust the next person? I dont think so , its not fair to them or you. Yes its a trust issue and I understand that fully but shouldnt you know weather you trust them BEFORE you get in a relationship with them, not learning to trust them along the way? 9 times outta 10 the new person already trusts you. So why are people jumping into relationships so easily? are they hot? are they funny? Whats the deal? Maybe its just me but if people actually slowed down and got to KNOW the other person a bit, they would KNOW a little better weather they could trust them or not. One other thing that disturbs me a little bit is the fact that people let the fact that they like another particular person, blind them from obiovus things like the other person being a bitch/asshole to other people in their general interaction with others. To me thats a turn-off and totally shoots down the drain any chance you would have with me. I think if we all used our heads a little more when STARTING a relationship, our hearts could come along for the ride and enjoy the relationship to its fullest and just be happy. I know a lot of people claim to not give a shit what other people think of them but on the same token I dont think thats very true because when it comes down to it, I see A LOT of crappy relationships, partially because they didnt look at the red flags when they were staring them in the face, and also because they care so much about what other people think they are afraid to make a move on their own and possibly break free of an asshole/bitch. I am and will always be myself, which means ME FIRST and if you like me , and I like you, you can come along for the ride and see where it takes us. If you are not prepared to trust me, and show distrust of me from the get-go my distrust of you will always be there from the start and ultimately the relationship will go nowhere. heres my basic motto for relationships. TRUST FIRST LIKE SECOND GET ALONG WITH THIRD LOVE LAST By loving last, you have a lasting love. I hope this helps everyone.