We are all here on this earth for a purpose…most of us are unaware of what it is. I have been very reflective lately…thinking about life in general. Not a bad thing to do…opens your eyes a bit about yourself…and sometimes about others. We are all basically the same, we all bleed red blood…but some of us feel the pain too. If you go through life just bleeding, you lose out on so much of what life has to offer. The pain lets you open your heart, offer compassion, love, hope, provide strength, help. At times it sets the tone of things. Dwelling on pain or hurt can be destructive, so don’t linger there…just learn. Open up your heart and let it be a source of good things too.
I have met so many different people in my life…and each one has affected my life in a different way. The combination of my environment, my values, morals, contacts, jobs, relatives, friends, genetics, and attitude have all contributed to who I am today…and I like who I am. I am not perfect, but I am who I am. I like to think that I learn from my mistakes. I hope that in life I haven’t hurt too many people with my choices…but I have hurt some. We all have…not intentionally, but it happens. We don’t always think before we speak or act…and then later regret it because we can’t take it back. Life moves forward, never backwards except in our minds when we choose to replay it. Use that gift wisely.
Sometimes we hang our heart on our sleeve…be careful. There is always someone out there who would like to pierce it with hurtful things…don’t allow them to. If you encounter people that do that, let go and move on…and don’t regret it. You deserve better than that. We are all stronger than we realize. We can survive on very little if necessary…but if you are fortunate enough to be blessed with ‘things’…appreciate them. Many don’t have what you do. If you have love in your life, more importantly in your heart…you are wealthier than most. Savor it.
Spend your life discovering who you are, what you want, where you want to be, who you want to associate with, what you want to become…then do it. Explore life like there is no tomorrow. Try to learn something new each day…it is good for the mind. Don’t let disappointments or failures at something deter you from moving on and trying again…and again…and again. Remember, successful people never give up…they just keep trying until they get it.
Don’t let anyone hold you back…especially you. If you want something bad enough, go after it. Make an attitude adjustment when necessary…just don’t give up or you may one day regret it. Be careful with your choices, everything has a consequence…be sure you can live with the results of your decisions. You are responsible for you and your decisions, make good ones.
When someone comes into your life and makes a difference…accept and appreciate it…thank them. If they no longer fit in your life or move on…be grateful that they were a part of it for a while. They served a purpose and have helped you to develop into who you are. Associate with those that you admire, for it is who you associate with that people will judge you and who and what you are.
We all are vulnerable at times. Try not to make decisions in that state…they may not work out for you. You may be hurt. Don’t take advantage of others vulnerabilities either, it will come back to you one day. Being hurtful serves no purpose, it just hurts. If you want to cause someone else pain, seek help for it is because you are feeling pain and want to lash out. Two wrongs never make a right.
If you love someone, tell them…but make sure that the intention of that love is clear. Don’t break someone else’s heart to satisfy your needs. A broken heart takes a long time to heal. It can destroy someone.
Be honest. Lies can be found out and they can ruin a relationship. If you are not happy with who you are, or who you are with…let it/them go…and move on. No one benefits from dishonesty.
Be proud of what you do, no matter what it is. If you have a job, be grateful. Many don’t have one. Do the best you can. Remember, the job does not define who you are…you do. It is just a means to survive…so don’t be ashamed to make an honest living. If you don’t like what you do…work on finding something that you do…even if you have to go back to school to do it. It will be worth it in the end. Nothing is forever…nothing. Sometimes we have temporary setbacks, but that is all they are…stepping stones to something else.
Live your life to the fullest…you only get one chance…don’t blow it. Once a moment is gone, it is gone. Make the most of each one. Think positive thoughts, negative ones don’t serve any purpose. They just destroy.
Be happy, be true to yourself, love, share, do the right things…and in the end…you will close your eyes to a peaceful journey. That’s life. Do it your way.
PRB ~ December 2006
