What dreams r made of's blog: "real world"

I am now excepting applications for haters. I am short staffed and in need of the following positions: Cowards- Must be too scared to face the person ur talkin shit to jealous commentators- Must be able to belittle others to make urself feel better Assistan Jealous Commentators- to co-sign everything said by the Jealous Commentators. Please apply within NOTE: Ur opinions will be ignored and no one will listen to ur lame ass comments

Ok so last week I posted a blog about rules when looking for a relationship. Now this is for those men who try to hook up with woman and have no luck. (yes ladies I am giving out some of our secrets.) So to start this off I will start with an experiance I had this weekend. I went to a small get together and there was a guy there that immendiately started hitting on me the moment I got there. Now at first he came off kinda sweet, but then about 5 min after we started talking, he thought it was appropriate to grab my ass (1st mistake), Then I proceeded to mingle with the other people there and noticed him sitting next to one of my friends trying to hook up with her (2nd mistake) Then told me that I needed to come down to his house the next day to see him (3rd mistake) after that 3rd strike I let him know that he had no chance in hell to even get my number and here is why. 1st mistake: Do not touch a woman inappropriately. It will only make her uncomfortable around you and it only proves that you're an ass hole. 2nd mistake: Seriously if you want to hook up with a girl, make sure that she thinks that she has your full attention and feels as though you dont want to try and get with anyone else, because if you start hitting on someone else, that lets her know, you are just looking to get a piece of ass no matter where u get it from. 3rd mistake: If u want to hang out with a female ask to take her to dinner or for a few drinks, not to your house. What men need to learn about women is that even if all we r looking for is to get laid, we still require some sort of romance. We dont want to put out for a man who acts like an ass hole from the get go. Compliments are always a plus as well. Take a little bit of time to talk to her, make her feel as though you are interested. If you only worry about yourself, chances are you not gonna get any ass anytime soon

It seems as though the world today is at a loss of how to attract an actual partner...and no I dont mean a sex partner, I mean a life partner. And as I analyze people I see whats going on here. So I decided to let out a few secrets for those of you who want a lasting relationship. For women seeking men: 1. Do not take a man home from a bar and expect it to work. 2. Do not make yourself too available...that only makes you seem desperate. 3. Jealousy and distrust will lead to disaster. 4. Stop talking about your ex bfs. 5. keep the drama to a minimum. 6. Even if its something that you dont like, take an interest in his interests. 7. Make him wait to tap that. 8. Dont be materialistic 9. Be a freak in the sheets, not in the streets For men seeking women: 1. Stop with the perverted comments...its a huge turn off when we dont know you. 2. Dont push a woman to speak with you because that will only push her away. 3. Make yourself available at her convenience. 4. Treat women as though they are equals to you. 5. Believe that she can do anything 6. Surprise her when she least expects it. 7. If she gets moody, just hug her, and everything will fix itself. I know by now most of you are wondering why the hell I am still single, well as I have told most of you, its by choice. However I know these things because I see it on a day to day bases. I hate seeing women go through their mens phones/emails to try to catch them in something...if your that worried about them cheating, I suggest u give them more head...I bet they wont go anywhere else. Just something to keep in mind...women like to be complicated as where men like things to be simple, and with that being said, this is something that causes problems that you dont even see coming. Relationships are about communication and compromise. It cant be your way or the highway. If you want to be with a person, accept them for who they are. Dont try to make them who you want them to be, because it will never work. Go find someone else who can meet your standards.

A positive mental attitude is the habit of acting with definateness of purpose, with full beliefe in both soundness of that purpose and one's ability to achieve it. It is the habit of going beyond the letter of one's responsibility and rendering more and better service than one is obligated to render, and doing it in a friendly, pleasing manner. It is the habit of choosing a definate goal and marching forward toward its attainment without hesitating because of either commendation or condemnation. It is the habit of looking for the good qualities in other people and expecting to find them, at the same time being prepared to recognize unfavorable qualities without being shocked into a negative state of mind. It is the habit of mastering all the emotions by submitting them to examinations by the head and the discipline of the power of will. It is the habit of facing all the facts which affect one's life both the pleasant and the unpleasant, and keeping a cool head when unpleasant emergancies arise. It is the recognition of the universal power of Infinate Intelligence, and the knowledge that it can be appropriated and directed to the attainment of definate ends through the medium of FAITH.

Only a positive mental attitude pays off in the affairs of our everyday living, so let us see what it is, and how we may get it and apply it in the struggle for the things and circumstances we desire in life. It is the habit of searching for "the seed of an equivalent benefit" which comes with every failure, defeat, or adversity we experience, and causing that seed to germinate into something beneficial. Only a positive mental attitude can recognize and benefit by the lessons or the seed of an equivalent benefit which comes with all unpleasant things that one experiences. A positive mental attitude is the habit of keeping the mind busily engaged in connection with the circumstances and things one desires in life, and off the things one does not desire. The majority of people go all the way through life with their mental attitudes dominated by fears and anxieties and worries over circumstances which somehow have a way of making their appearance sooner or later. And the strange part of this truth is that these people often blame other people for the misfortunes they have thus brought upon themselves by their negative mental attitudes.

Let us analyze the part that mental attitude plays in our lives and we shall learn how important it is. Your mental attitude is the major factor which attracts people to you in a spirit of friendliness, or repels them, according to whether your attitude is positive or negative; and you are the only person that can determine which it shall be. Mental attitude is a determining factor- perhaps the most improtant factor- as to what results one gets from prayer. It has long been known that when one goes to prayer in a mental attitude swayed by fear, doubt, and anxiety, only negative results are experienced. Only the prayers that are backed by a mental attitude of profound FAITH can be expected to bring positive results. Your mental attitude determines, to a larger extent, whether you find peace of mind or go through life in a state of frustration and misery. Mental attitude controls, very largely, the space one occupies in life, the success one achieves, the friends one makes, and the contributions one makes to posterity. It would be no great overstatement of the truth if we said that mental attitude is EVERYTHING!

So I posted a mumm yesterday about haters and some people seemed to be pretty upset about it. Not too sure why but they were. So I am going to put my views here... Life is too short for all the hate that we have going on in this world. I believe that we shouldnt waste our time hating on others when we can put that energy towards something more positive. I mean don't get me wrong I can handle people hating on me. I am a strong woman and I love myself for who I am. You can call me fat, stupid, or whatever you want...I can take it! However some cant. I used to be one of those people. But then I forced myself to be strong. And every other person out there can do the same. If there is something that you dont like about urself...change it. You are the only one that can. For example after I had my son I was a whoping 260 lbs. and I hated it. So I did something about it. I have lost almost 100lbs since then and I feel great. Now most of you didnt know that about me but its true. So let me end this blog by saying this. God loves all his children, and maybe we just need to take the time to get to know someone for who they really are instead of calling them names because of what they look like on the outside. Peace and love to you all...God Bless

I am going to quote Katt Williams here..."Ladies, stop waiting on a man to tell u ur the shit. If ur the shit, ur the mutha fuckin shit." A man dont need to tell u this. Its something that u should already know. I am saying this because I see all these mumms that ask "am I cute?" "Do u like me?" Who the hell cares really! I am a beautiful...full figured woman and I know it! I dont need anyone to tell me what I already know! So with that being said I am gonna close this with one more quote from Katt... "hows a woman gonna say u messed up her self esteem? Bitch its called 'SELF ESTEEM' its esteem of ur mutha fuckin self. how did I fuck up the U feel about U simple bitch?" Ladies keep it real...men always repect ur women!

Ok look I am tired of people talkin shit because they have something against thick women...I am very happy with myself and I dont want to change anything about me. If u dont like how I look then stay the hell off my page. Maybe its jealousy thats got u twisted but most men/women seem to like my curvey thickness...right guys and girls? so if u have a problem then just stay off my page and get a life!