When my older friends told me I would go through some massive changes when I hit age thirty, I thought, "Yeah, whatever." Well, they were right. To the ladies reading this right now who haven't hit this pentacle age, trust me, you'll understand one day.
When you reach you're thirties, you become more relaxed with your life. You learn to choose your battles with friends. You have mature disagreements with your boyfriend. You don't care if your co-workers are gossiping about you. And you begin to cherish those simple moments you spend with your family.
You begin to come into yourself as a woman. You become more comfortable with your body. You no longer notice or worry about every flaw. You don't care so much if he thinks you're sexy because you feel sexy. You become more confident, sexually. You're no longer afraid to have sex with the lights on.
That's probably the area a woman changes most in as she gets older. Suddenly she's not afraid of her sexuality. She knows what she likes and doesn't like - and isn't afraid to say so. She becomes more in touch with her body - literally.
I think it's slowly starting to change but I've never understood why female masturbation is still like a "Oh my God, let's not discuss that" topic. What is there to be embarrassed about? Are we not humans too? Haven't men been cracking jokes in front of large groups of people for years, about what he's going to do as soon as he gets home that night?
While I think it's tacky for anyone to dish out too much about their personal life, I don't think it's something anyone should be ashamed of. We all have sexual needs. And I would much rather think my friends are taking care of business on their own, rather than taking home random strangers every night.
I've heard women talk about the fact they've never experienced an orgasm. They have no idea what it feels like. Or they're afraid if their boyfriend finds out, he'll be offended. I'll let you in on a little secret - if the idea of touching yourself bothers your man or he finds it a turn-off, something is wrong with him. Seriously.
Self-exploration is probably one of the best things a woman can do for her sex life. If you don't know how to pleasure yourself, if you don't know what works or doesn't work for you, don't ever expect the man in your life to know. They can't read minds any better than we can. And our bodies, which are a little more complex than a man's, didn't come with instruction manuals.
What are you waiting for? Just do it, already. It's fun, relaxing and it feels good. You don't have to worry about "you" not calling you the next day or getting your heart broken. And it's the safest sex you'll ever have.
So what if your single and haven't had a date in three months? Who says you can't still have sex with the one you love the most?
