Philosophy
There are to many cliches in the modern world about love. Most of them never capture the true spirit or meaning of what it is to truly love. Many of us live in the paradox of striving to maintain our individuality yet at the same time there is the deep seeded feeling from deep within that all alone we are just incomplete.
The human need to seek out the simplest way and simplest explanation for things leads many down the dead end roads of believing in "fairy tail" love or even the dubious "love at first sight". While these things are interesting or even desirable in my opinion they do not foster the enviroment for true love to prosper. The true love that I speak of is a decision much more than it is a feeling. It is a goal , if anything, when an individual arrives at the conclusion that a life spent without the target of there affection is a lesser life than one without.
However, once the decision is made it morphs into a feeling a deep emotion which drastically alters the priorities of your life. There is little if any room for authentic indivduality, For you truly cannot give yourself to someone else completely without losing a part of yourself. Most of the things that used to define one, goals and dreams which fueled the bane of your existence change, or fall by the wayside. True love alters ones perspective of what is truly important and changes the whole structure of your life goals.
All those dreams like visiting Paris, climbing Mount Everest may never come to fruitation once you plunge into the awesome responsibility of loving someone else. But, this is not at all unsatisfactory, if your love is true. You will come to know that these goals and dreams in which you set for yourself when you were a single entity were mear distractions which were implemented by you to distract yourself from the fact that one of your most basic needs of belonging were not being fulfilled.
With this need completely fulfilled one no longer has "my dreams". "My dreams" becomes "our dreams" and our dreams may not so closely resemble my dreams for either person. But this is ok. No matter what our dreams looks like the core of those dreams is the dream already realized that we are truly in love and all dreams or goals that are not acheived will not be a travisty because you will always come back to the conclusion that your most basic need short of food, water and shelter is already fulfilled.
If one is not tenacious enough or honest enough to survive through this process of true love you will find yourself incomplete. Like the desk you purchsed from Office Max for $99.99. You brought it home, assembled it thouroghly only to find in the end that there is one screw remaining. So you toss it aside never to be recovered again, no one knows but you, your friends and family never suspect a thing. But you know. Then one day the drawer breaks and you remember that screw and it takes on a whole new importance. Then you go to Home Depot and buy a similiar screw, but it's not the same. You know it but no one else does. You may fix the drawer but the desk will never be complete. It is worth the time and effort at the beginning when you originally made the commitment to buy and assemble the desk to thouroughly re-read the direections, search the desk for the location of that mysterious screw. Because once it is in the trash can and eventually the garbage man drives away there will never be another exact match to that very special screw.
Take the time in the assembly process of your relationship with the one and only true love that you are afforded in this life, because once you throw it away there will never be one that is the same. You may find another person while you are shopping for that missing screw at Home Depot, but that person will never have the originality or funtional purpose as that screw that was specialy made for your fabulous new desk. Have the patience to follow all the directions build your relationship completely with no spare parts
