Personal Thoughts Blog by Bastian
Over 10,589,927 people are on fubar. What are you waiting for?
Three and a half years ago my dear friend Cecily died from cancer. She was 33. She left behind my good buddy, and her loving husband, Jim, and their 2 year old daughter. Today she talked to Jim. Told him she loved him. Jim was waiting on a call and wanted to use a certain room in his house where there is no phone. So he plugged in an extra phone that he didn't normally use. He doesn't use it because it has an answering machine on it. When he plugged it in, he noticed there were some old messages on it. So he pushed the "play" button. The first message hadn't played a tenth of a second before he realized it was the voice of his dearly beloved wife. In his words (from an email I got from him today) "I gasped. It sucked the air out of the room, maybe out of the country. I burst into tears as if I'd been slapped, and yet it was from surprise, not pain. Even as I sat there weeping, hearing her voice talking to me in the very terms whose loss has riven my heart these three and a half years, I reveled in the sounds as much as ached for them. The message was brief, far too brief, yet awfully long, too. I lapped up every second of it while every second of it tore at me. I sobbed for a bit. And then I listened to it again." There were other messages on his machine. Friends offering condolences about Cecily's illness. Then there was a message from Cecily's brother Sean who was apologizing for not being able to come visit because, of all things he had a brain tumor! He had been diagnosed just two months after Cec. So there sat Jim, listening to Cecily three and a half years after her death and just over a year after Sean's death. Sean telling Cec on the answering machine that he loved her and would see her as soon as he could. In Jim's words, "I suppose he did". And then this BEAUTIFUL paragraph from Jim. "I've been following that path. I find new delights in every day. I don't cry much or linger over the loss or wallow in misery. I'm not miserable at all. I wear my loss like a too-heavy coat that I can't take off, but it doesn't prevent me from living or moving or even dancing. I don't know if the coat grows lighter or if I grow stronger, but one of those things is happening. I wouldn't want it otherwise."

text

Sometimes I keep my phone in my hand, holding the possibility you'll text. Last night waiting on a bench for the train the phone hitting the ground woke me up.
I awoke 4 am Sunday morning to the sound of my roommate banging on my wall. My neighbors apartment was on fire. Within a few minutes mine was burning as well. See my photo album titled "fire water burn" for more images.
The mower stalled, twice; kneeling, I found A hedgehog jammed up against the blades, Killed. It had been in the long grass. I had seen it before, and even fed it, once. Now I had mauled its unobtrusive world Unmendably. Burial was no help: Next morning I got up and it did not. The first day after a death, the new absence Is always the same; we should be careful Of each other, we should be kind While there is still time. "The Mower" by Philip Larkin
This is why Boston Legal is the only TV show I enjoy. James Spader... Or rather, his character Alan Shore. I'm constantly awed by his charisma and confidence. Here is a little video that has been all over the web the last couple of days. It's cool because of the subject matter/views expressed as well as the delightful way those views are presented. Ohh... and Sigur Rós makes great background music!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P682rGIhZwI&eurl=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.videosift.com%2Fvideo%2FJames-Spader-from-akdn
last post
7 years ago
posts
6
views
849
can view
everyone
can comment
everyone
atom/rss

other blogs by this author

official fubar blogs
 2 years ago
fubar news by babyjesus 
 12 hrs ago
e by e 
 4 years ago
fubar.com ideas! by babyjesus 
 1 year ago
Word of Esix by esixfiddy 

discover blogs on fubar

blog.php' rendered in 0.2127 seconds on machine '185'.