Poly, schmolly. It's just polite way of saying your partner lets you cheat.
No Cheating is breaking the rules. If you aren't breaking the rules of your elationship, you are not cheating, y definition.
The rules need not be explicit; even breaking the tacit rules of a relationship is cheating. If you do anything you cannot feel comfprtable telling your mate about, or if you do anything which you know would make your mate unhappy if he or she knew about it,you re cheating plain and simple.
Polyamory is a completely different way to define your relationship. Polyamory is an acknowledgment of the simple fact that relationships do not come in "one size fits all" In a poly relationship--
Okay, okay, I understand. Poly is for people who can't commit!
No, no, no. Just the opposite, in fact; people who can't commit to one person sure as hell can't make a lasting commitment to two!
It's been my experience that many monogamous people actually practice "serial monogamy"--jumping from lover to lover to lover, while claimingto be "monogamous" with each one. While no reasonable person expects every relationship to last, it seems that many "serial monagamists" see their partners as expendable, or more often, stay with one partner only until someone"better" comes along. Polyamory is more ethical that serial monogamy as it is sometimes practiced; polyamorists do not discard their lovers when the next interesting person walks down the road. This flavor of serial monogamy is, I thinkd, th essence of people who can't commit!
