Overcoming Fear And Meeting Women In Bars
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***SUCCESS STORY***
i love your news letter and i have been reading it
for almost a year. i have been with the same girl
for nine months because of you dave! i used to the
same way about chics, buying them dinners, etc.
but once i started applying your techniques i met
the love of my life. i drive a piece of crap and i
am a broke college student. i played like i didnt
care when my girl and i first met before i know it
she's giving me lots of great sex, money, dvd
player, clothes,vetc. i was cocky and funny but
also threw in a little sweetness to catch her off
gaurd. Ladies get bored with the same old
dates,etc. I did outrAGEOUS THINGS IN AND OUT OF
THE BEDROOM AND NOW WE ARE PROBABLY GOING TO GET
MARRIED LATER ON WHEN I GET OUT OF COLLEGE!
THANKS DAVE! -C FROM TX
>>>MY COMMENTS:
What's this you say?
You have a great girl buying YOU things...
including clothes, and even DVD players?
Very powerful stuff.
You know, in your letter you mentioned throwing
in a "little sweetness" to "catch her off guard".
I would like to share a little profound
revelation:
It's OK to be sweet.
Yes, I know, sounds a little weird coming from
me.
But, it is OK to be sweet to women.
The problem is that most guys do it TOO MUCH,
and TOO SOON. And they come across as needy Wuss
Boys who are trying to use "niceness" to
manipulate.
When you meet a girl you really like and decide
that you want to take things to a "relationship"
level, it's actually great to be sweet.
Just don't do it before date #10! lol...
***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***
Hi Dave,
I recently had a very serious conversation with my
boyfriend of two years about threesomes. I know
this isn't really a dating question, but I want to
get some input about this situation in
relationships in general and I thought you and
your newsletter would be a good place to start. I
am aware that as far as every guy in the world is
concerned a threesome is the best thing that could
happen in a relationship because he gets to have
twice as much fun as normal. But could most guys
actually go through with it? Could they really
have sex (or whatever else) with a girl while
being in a serious relationship with another? Does
this stuff even go through the mind of the average
male?
I am also aware that guys like two girl and one
guy threesomes and not the other way around. would
a guy think about the situation more if it were
their girlfriend having sex with another guy?
Also, how often do threesome ideas make it out of
the minds of men and into the bedroom?
hope you can answer some of my questions
es canada
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You're right about this not being a dating
question, but who cares... it's a question about
all men's favorite fantasy, so I'll allow it.
Now, what the heck are you doing asking, "Would
a guy think about the situation more if it were
their girlfriend having sex with another guy?"
Who cares! No guys do. They only want to know
what you'd look like kissing your best friend.
LOL!
And yes, your boyfriend could "have sex (or
whatever else)" with a girl while being in a
serious relationship with another.
Hey, you're the one who opened up the barn door
by having the "very serious conversation" with
him.
Let me know if it happens. We're all on the
edge of our seats here.
***QUESTION***
You know what David, you were right, and I feel
sick to my stomach right now. I met this woman,
went out a few times, nailed her the first night
and all that. I bought her some flowers for
Valentine's Day, mostly because she complained
like 3 times since I've known her (only a couple
weeks) that she never gets flowers on Valentine's
Day, so I wanted to surprise her.
So I took great care to sneak around her while she
wasn't looking, and plant them where she'd find
them. Well she did, and here's what she said, "Oh,
that's a really nice gesture, but next time just
leave them in my car okay? I don't want the other
students giving me a hard time or making faces at
me (this was at karate class)", In one quick
moment, my heart sank right to the floor, and I
felt WORSE about myself than before I bought her
the flowers! NEVER AGAIN am I wasting money on
this bullsh** holiday unless I've been with
someone for a year or more.
I can't believe I actually feel LESS close, and
like I have LESS power with this woman than I did
before I did something nice for her. You better
believe I won't make this mistake again. If you're
willing, lease share this story with your readers
so that at least the other guys can benefit from
my ignorance, and learn a lesson from it too. J
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Hey, you can't say I didn't warn you.
I'd offer a hug, but what YOU need is a to be
slapped up side the head for being a JACKASS!
You bought something for a woman because she
COMPLAINED?
Here, do this:
Go in the bathroom.
Find the mirror.
Take a big black sharpie pen, and write the
following on your forehead (backwards, so you can
read it):
"STOP BEING A DUMBASS!"
Try that.
If you're still with this girl in a YEAR, then
buy her some flowers.
But, will you leave them in her car this time?
Thanks for contributing... you've probably
saved many guys from a similar fate.
***QUESTION From A WOMAN***
David,
First of all, I would like to say that I really
enjoy reading your newsletters. A male friend of
mine started receiving them, and he now has me
reading them too. Now, thanks to you, we have both
adopted a "NO WUSS" policy..he's going to stop
being one, and I'm going to stop dating them. :)
I have a question that I would like your insight
on.. perhaps I should set the stage with a sample
online conversation... (After the usual initial
blah blah and silly comments on my part, he asked
and I sent him a pic)
him: yep, cute him: how tall are u
me: 5'10"
(insert cricket sound effects and silence)
me: helloooooooooo
him: later.. need to go work on a paper the end.
Me to the cricket: well, at least he didn't ask if
I play basketball.
My question is this.. are most men really
intimidated by taller women? If so, why? I have
actually dated a couple of people who were
obviously uncomfortable with my being taller than
they are. One even asked if I would mind not
wearing heels when we're out together, because it
made him feel weird. Needless to say, he got the
boot. (ha) If this is a silly concern, feel free
to hit "delete" or tell me to consult the pages of
Cosmo. I can take it! :) I'd just like to know if
there's anything I can do to make these guys feel
more at ease.
Thanks a lot!
BL
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, a lot of guys are intimidated by tall
women.
No, I'm not.
Yes, send me your number and picture.
By the way, I fit your "No Wussy" policy. I'm
your man.
***FOLLOW UP COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
Hi Dave,
You are a Brat. I wanted to clarify something from
my letter which seemed to set you off. That part
about school/marraige/fairness: To be fair, if he
invested in my education, as my husband, he would
more likely get a return on that investment than
if he were just a boyfriend I was living with. It
is my opinion that people who live together have
all these committed ties, but one foot out the
door. Kinda like playing house. Personally, I
don't like doing things that half-a**ed, and would
prefer to eventually make a home--with the right
guy.
You are right on about him needing your material,
but if I sent him your e-book, it would be
insulting, don'tcha think? I do get bored if a guy
doesn't keep me on my toes, I know that about
myself. And, after awhile, it's a bore being the
only one pointing up to the sky.
What's the deal with you, anyway? Are you just
shopping? What happens to a guy who has all the
lines? Maybe this forum your path to personal
enlightenment. So, how's that going? SC from Sac
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Ohhhh, well thanks for clarifying.
I understand now.
If he supports you and pays for you to go to
school when you're MARRIED, then "he would more
likely get a return on that investment than if he
were a boyfriend I was living with"...
Powerful.
More likely.
Return on investment.
I feel ya.
That changes everything and makes it completely
fair.
Oh, and I didn't recommend that you buy him my
eBook. I recommended that you buy him my ADVANCED
MATERIAL. He needs serious help, dear.
And what's the deal with ME?
Am I "just shopping"?
"What happens to a guy who has all the lines?"
What do you mean "What happens?"
You make it sound like I should be going
through some empty feeling of superficial
accomplishment followed by a depressing
realization of unfulfillment... now that I know
the secrets of how to make women feel attracted to
me.
Sorry, can't help you there.
Knowing what makes women "tick" kicks ass!
***QUESTION***
Hi David,
this is a letter from one of your italian fans....
after having received your newsletter for several
months now, im really thinking to purchase your e-
book... i was specially impressed by the
"cocky&funny" attitude which attracts women in a
great way! and damn! this stuff works!!!
the interesting thing i want you to know is that i
have been a horrible wussy for several years! i
did almost everything on your wussy list! like
being nice to everyone....and so on...(;
fortunately (at the age of 20, now im 22) i had
the luck to meet a guy of 27 years who was very
successfull and experienced in approaching and
"getting fisical" with girls...he taught me a lot
about psicology of women and other very intresting
stuff you already should know...(; almost each
weekend we went out he got to know new girls,
specially american students here in rome and other
really good looking italian beautys...i analyzed
what he did, his behaviour and so on...
and now we ask ourselves...why was he so
successfull? and the answer is that he was almost
all the time cocky and funny! always making fun of
the girls! and he wasnt even goodlooking, just
medium...i began to imitate his behaviour and
since then i had an incredible success with girls
which surprised myself and all my friends because
i was dating one really hot girl after another....
so if you want to get interesting or "attractive"
you gotta be special, unique, full of selfesteem,
funny, unpredictable and all the other stuff you
teach us! thats the way how it works...sure there
are thousands of other things to do...i dont need
to tell you...
now i got a very important question for you, i
think that this should be a big help for almost
everyone receiving your newsletters or already
owning your e-book. my biggest problem is the
first contact...how to behave afterwards and how
to get fisical later is much easier in my
opinion...lets take this example, im in a pub with
a friend of mine, close to us are, lets say 3
goodlooking girls on a table and two of them seem
to be interested because they keep on looking to
us...they smile at us, look in our eyes for a few
seconds and play with their hair, showing you
their "delicious" neck , talk with a loud voice to
take your attention and so on ( some of the signs
women usually make)...my problem is now how to go
on! they seem to be interested but nobody is
outgoing enough to walk over to the other table to
start a conversation in order to establish a first
contact.. you always teach us that the content of
the conversation is not so important as the way
you say it right? but what can i tell them? (
fear of rejection i know) . how would you react or
behave? walking by, what would you tell them? ( i
think just asking them if they want to sit down
with us on our table is very wussy)... try to give
us concrete examples of the first "cocky&funny"
contact in a pub or other tipical places... that
would be great...
thanks for helping the wussyfied planet...(;
M.M. Rome, Italy
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You know, I'm glad to hear that you met a guy
who was successful with women, and learned from
him.
OF COURSE he was Cocky & Funny.
I learned most of my best ideas about how to
meet women from guys who were successful with
women, and I found that they all did basically the
SAME things... even though they didn't "realize"
that they were doing anything at all, for the most
part.
Meeting and hanging out with "naturals" is one
of the very best things you can do to learn how to
be more successful with women (the other is to
study the materials that I've put together at the
same time, so you can have the advantage of having
it all explained to you).
Now, to answer your question about approaching
women in "a pub".
I think the issue that you're PROBABLY dealing
with is REJECTION.
You're probably afraid to go start a
conversation because you don't want to be rejected
by women.
Once you can face this reality and start to
deal with it, then you'll start making more
progress.
My experience starting conversations with
groups of more than one woman in bars is that your
ENERGY makes a huge impact.
In other words, if you walk over and act
nervous and stilted, the women will get nervous
and act cold.
If you act like you're having a good time, you
think they look like some fun people to talk to,
and you start on that note, they'll be FAR more
likely to be friendly and open.
Now, I know a lot of guys who are GREAT at
meeting women in bars. Some of them use rather
interesting and complex techniques that range from
"pick up lines" all the way to magic and psychic
readings.
Try this:
Pick up your drink, walk over to the table,
think of the funniest moment of your life so you
have a smile on your face and say, "What, are you
girls shy or something?"
When they say, "NO, why?"
Answer, "Because I've been sitting at the next
table for at least a half hour and you haven't
come over to say hi to me!"
I have about 3 different friends who all use
variations of this opening... and it works great
(if you're having fun when you say it).
You need to get over your FEAR. Once you stop
caring what women think of you, then you'll make a
LOT more progress.
By the way, if you'd like to get an
unbelievalbe education on how to approach and meet
women in Bars & Club, then go and check THIS
out...
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/BarsAndClubs/?cid=7JZZZV&lid=2&ll=1
***COMMENT***
Hey, I got your eBook a month or so ago. Great
stuff. I write a comment to you because of one of
your letters, the one from "M. Missouri",
specifically. He described starting his marriage
with the C&F and losing his touch. My advise: hit
the book, bud. My marriage was the typical story
of the wife with all the power. This last month,
the whole deal has turned on its head. We're
celebrating our 10th anniversary next year, and my
use of your eBook has moved the power from her to
at least shared (it'll be all mine soon enough).
The posture advise, and slowed deliberate,
confident movements, and, of course, the "like I
give a F" attitude all have brought this about.
Thanks David, and to the guy who's losing his
edge, take it from someone that had no edge and is
getting all of the control: you've let the book
sit unstudied for too long. If I can change over 8
years of bad history, you can reel your situation
back in.
P in Portland
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Great job, man.
Too many guys have this ideal or fantasy in
their minds of "being equals" with a woman, etc.
Ain't gonna happen.
Attractive woman aren't interested in an EQUAL.
They're NEVER attracted to guys who are EQUALS.
Attractive women want a guy who is a LEADER.
One who takes charge, keeps them on their toes, is
unpredictable, Cocky & Funny, etc.
Thanks for the letter.
***BREAKTHROUGH***
David, this might seem usual but I owe you $40.
See I purchased your ebook about a year ago but
asked for a refund because "it didn't work for
me". I realize now that it wasn't your material
rather my own issues that I had to deal with.
During that time frame I still read your
newsletters and gained more understanding of the
mindset of one who "Gets it". I'm still working on
that but as you said, some are quicker learners
than others. Another factor in this was the other
day when this hottie that I was chatting up was
saying how she would hold out longer if the guy
was "relationship material" than if she wanted a
booty call. (A great time for a quick C&F
comeback) A light clicked on and I remembered
where I'd read that before. The clincher was when
a buddy of mine let me listen to some of your
advanced material. All I can say is that I'm
getting my own copy as soon as I can. So where do
I send you your money?
Thanks, E.S. in San Diego.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
I admire you for coming back a year later and
admitting that you were the issue, not the
material.
SO YOU'RE THE GUY WHO ASKED FOR A REFUND, HUH!?
lol... hey, it's OK.
Yes, women do "hold out" longer if a guy is
"relationship material"... that is, if they are in
CONTROL of the situation they do.
And yes, at that point you should have shot
back:
"So that's how you think of me... as just a
BOOTY CALL? How romantic."
You know, sometimes I even find it hard to
believe that all this strange stuff is true about
women and dating.
But, it is...
***COMMENT FROM A WOMAN***
Dave
What are you doing? Wait I'll answer that, YOU
are taking away ALL of the fun we get to have! Ok
I'll admit you're right about most, ok all, of it,
but there is still at least ONE thing that I know
you have never answered. If we put a guy into
your so called "Friends" category even YOU don't
know how to get him out of it!
JB -Canada
P.S. I recommend you stop selling your books and
"advanced tactics" before you do something
serious.
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah, I'm really in danger now, huh?
And you're right... once a guy is in the
"friends" category it's not easy to get out.
In fact, I tell guys to just walk away and
forget about it, because it's such a pain to try
to change.
But, there's GREAT NEWS!
There are SO MANY women running around on this
planet that it DOESN'T MATTER.
Next!
The ironic part is that when you do take the
"Next!" attitude and stop treating a woman, who
only likes you as a friend, like she's special,
she'll often change her mind and start liking you.
Go figure.
***COMMENT***
First off, I am an avid reader of your material
and I employ it often. It works - well. I bought
your ebook about a year ago and it was worth every
penny. Anyway, enough ass-kissing. I have a
general comment about the whole gift-buying,
dinner-buying kissing a woman's ass concept. You
say that doing such things to win over a woman's
attention are foolish. I agree wholeheartedly.
However, I am in a relationship now with a woman
that I really like, and sometimes I want to buy
her things or take her out, etc. This isn't
because I feel I have to, but it is because I want
to treat her well. I don't feel that if I don't
do this, she will leave me. Therein lies the
difference between being foolish and needy about
it, and doing it by your own decision. It is the
INTENT behind what you do that is important. If
you do something for a woman because you feel you
have to or you will possibly lose her, she can
more than likely sense that, and will have
limitless amounts of power over you. If you do
something because you want to, then she will sense
the apparent confidence in you, and will not
necessarily have power over you because of it.
Besides, like you say, a woman should want you for
YOU - your personality - not what you can buy her
or where you can take her. NOTE: I agree that
gift-giving, etc. is a somewhat bad idea in the
beginning of a relationship for the same reasons
you don't like it. It makes you appear needy and
insecure, and no (emotionally stable) woman wants
that in a man.
P.S. It was your material that helped give me the
mentality to get with the girl I am dating
currently. Good work fella!
J from Philly
>>>MY COMMENTS:
YES!
You get it!
It's the intent behind what you're doing.
I have a little secret that I'm going to share
with you. But lean in close, so I can whisper. I
don't want anyone else to hear...
I actually have guy friends who are REALLY good
with women who take women to dinner, buy them
drinks, etc. when they first meet.
What, you say?
How can this be?
Well, the big difference is that these guys are
NOT doing this stuff to GET THE WOMAN'S APPROVAL.
And since EVERYTHING ELSE they're doing clearly
communicates the RIGHT things, they can actually
do whatever they want, and still not screw things
up.
In other words, if you don't understand how
ATTRACTION works, and you don't know how to
communicate with women in a way that makes them
feel it for YOU, then buying drinks and dinner,
and giving compliments, and all the other things
most guys do will only BACKFIRE.
On the other hand, once you totally understand
how and why women feel ATTRACTION, you can do
whatever you want.
And later on, when you find a girl that you
really like and you're enjoying a relationship, of
course it's nice to do nice things for her.
Just remember, be very careful.
It's easy to be lured back to the dark side...
and to try to get women to like you by paying for
things and taking them places... which it will
never do.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave,
I just finished reading your latest newsletter and
I had a thought that I wanted to share. You talked
a lot about guys chasing women and showering them
with gifts to buy their love. Well, I have a
common sense point to make to any of your readers
that may be on the fence about buying your
materials.
Before I purchased your book, I had doubts because
I wasn't sure it would be worth the money. To put
it into perspective, I thought about all the girls
I dated in the past. Then I roughly added up all
the money I had spent on each for dinner, gifts,
etc. (Yes, I know, that was wussy behavior).
Well, after totaling up the money, I realized I
could have bought all your materials (book, CD and
DVD series) for myself and five of my close
friends and still had money left over (Yes, I
spent that much money on women in the past. I
know, that was bad). Point is, to any guy (or
girl) out there, take the money you're wasting
chasing some girl and buy Dave's book or CD/DVD
series. It's worth it.
Now to my question. I know this is getting long
but I gave you a plug so you owe me. Have you
taken any courses or read any books on
conversation skills? Can you recommend any books
on the subject and also on the subject of body
language? Thanks,
AG in PA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
You're right-on about one thing...
If most guys added up all the money they've
WASTED on women, they'd realize what a BAD
investment they've made (and what a great
investment my stuff is! I like your idea... I'm
going to tell every guy to get my materials for
them and all their friends from now on. Nice!)
The best books I've ever read on conversation
skills are COMEDY books. I like the book "Comedy
Writing Secrets" by Helitzer.
And as far as body language books go, I haven't
found any that I can recommend. The book "Body
Language" by Fast, has some interesting stuff in
it... but most of it is hard to really grasp.
One of the biggest problems I ran into when I
was first learning how to meet women was that
things didn't make sense... and things that
"should" work DIDN'T work.
When it comes to women and ATTRACTION the
normal rules don't apply anymore. This area of
life is VERY DIFFERENT from other areas, and when
you try to apply ideas and techniques from other
areas (like conversation skills), you'll find that
they often don't work AT ALL.
You can walk into a room full of 100 people,
and start walking around meeting them.
For 99 of them, walking over and saying, "Hi,
how do you know everyone here?" and "So, what do
you do?" will work just fine.
But when you find that ONE attractive woman in
the room that you'd like to meet, and you want to
start an interaction that leads to ATTRACTION, you
must do something TOTALLY different.
It's more than the words you say... it's a
total understanding of what that woman is looking
for on a deep, primal, subconscious level... and
then to BE that man.
***COMMENT***
Dave,
Sometimes I have to just stop in the middle of
your newsletters and take a break because the
stuff you deliver is so good that I feel a little
overwhelmed... killer stuff! I love the ebook and
CD collection. I will send some details later.
You really do more good in the lives you touch
then you know. I hope you can truly appreciate
that statement and all that it means. We should
all be so fortunate to have such a positive impact
on a single life... let alone the many that you
influence.
Best regards, E. Chicago, IL
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yes, someone give me a trophy... or a medal or
something.
I really am a wonderful guy, huh?
Trust me, if you had this much fun doing what
I'm doing, you'd do it too...
***QUESTION***
Hi Dave
I've been receiving your free newsletter for a few
months now and just wanted to say that I've found
much of what you've written to be helpful,
insightful, and most of all funny! Like a lot of
other guys I've spent a LOT of time trying to
learn how to impress and have success with women,
and I like to think that I've come quite a long
way from the needy, desperate wussy-man I used to
be (and still am on occasion, admittedly).
My question involves one of the 'testing'
behaviors you described in a previous newsletter.
You said that one way women often test men is by
canceling plans at the last minute, or by flaking
out altogether with little or no notice. I've had
this happen to me numerous times and I always
assumed these girls were just being careless or
inconsiderate... or worse yet, ignoring me in the
hopes that I would "get the message" and walk
away, without them having to go thru the
awkwardness of outright rejecting me! It never
occurred to me that they might be doing it
intentionally, and then taking note of my response
in order to see if I passed some kind of test. Is
that really what's going on? And if so, how do I
pass the test? What is a woman looking for in
this type of situation?
Thanks, T
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Well, it is true that women use things like
this to test men... but it's ALSO true that women
do things like this because they want to AVOID
CONFRONTATION.
In other words, a woman will sometimes make
plans with a guy just to avoid saying "no" in the
moment.
But later, she'll flake or cancel because
"something came up"... when she never intended to
show up in the first place.
If women are flaking out on you a lot, it's
probably something that YOU'RE doing up front.
In any case, try this:
Next time you're talking to a woman on the
phone and making plans to get together for tea
say, "Let me ask you a quick question. Do you ever
flake out on things?"
She'll say, "Not usually" (or some other non-
committal thing, most likely).
Say, "Good, because it's one of those things
that I really can't deal with... people that can't
keep their word...and there are a lot of flaky
people in this world."
That might help.
And if she DOES flake at the last minute, don't
accept it.
If she calls and says, "Oh, something came
up..." just answer back, "You know, I was just
starting to think you were DIFFERENT from all the
flaky women I've met"...
Make it clear to women that it is NOT OK to
waste your time and they'll waste it less.
But, if you act nice and sweet and
accommodating... and you transmit the message that
it's OK to flake because you're a nice guy and
won't care, then it will happen to you all the
time.
***QUESTION***
hey dave,
i need an answer to a question that has confused
the hell out of me. well, i received a bunch of
red roses for valentines day from my girlfriend of
about 2 months now. i gave her 2 roses, a small
teddy bear thing and a short card with a bit of
c+f talk. i figured that i had made a bit of a
mistake by buying her this much, but when i gave
it all to her she looked so happy and told me that
SHE owed ME bigtime for what i had done. the rest
of the day i had no problems with kissing her or
anything else. my question is, why havent i been
seen as a wuss to her? i know that in most other
scenarios, buying this much stuff would have got
me nowhere.
by the way, your research and advice is all spot
on. its helped me to attract loads of girls,
including my current girlfriend. thanks and keep
up the great work mate.
S, AUSTRALIA
>>>MY COMMENTS:
Yeah!
The reason she said that she "owes you big
time" is because of the WAY you did it.
When you incorporate the attitude into all of
your communication with women, it has a HUGE
impact.
The fact that you:
1) Did something thoughtful (the card, two
flowers, etc.)
2) AND you said Cocky & Funny things in the card
...clearly communicated that you were NOT doing
this because you wanted to kiss up to her and get
her approval.
One of the greatest things you can do is EVERY
time you do something nice for a girl and she
THANKS you for it say, "Yeah, you owe me" in a
sarcastic tone.
Then, later, get her to pay up.
Personally, I like massages.
There's something magical about always putting
a high value on yourself, your time, and your
attention. If you put a high value on it, women
will too.
...and a couple of final thoughts...
There are two KEY aspects of learning how to be
successful with women and dating:
1) The Inner Game
2) The Outer Game
The INNER GAME is all about learning how to
THINK and how to manage your thoughts and
emotions. It's also about understanding how and
why attractive women feel that amazing emotion
called ATTRACTION for some men and not for MOST
men.
The OUTER GAME is all of the techniques, what
to say and such.
Which is more important?
Well, they're BOTH important.
But what I notice is that most guys want to
learn the OUTER GAME first.
In other words, they want the pick up lines,
the fancy tricks, and other things.
I can remember when I first started learning
this stuff.
I had this idea in my mind that if I could
learn how to get women to give me their numbers
that I'd be the MAN.
Well, I learned that. I can get just about any
woman's phone number in just a few minutes.
But guess what?
Once I learned how to get women's phone
numbers, I ran into a much BIGGER issue... the
women usually flaked out on me, didn't show up,
etc.
And the ones that DID show up were difficult.
Nothing happened.
I realized that there had to be more.
And, as it turns out, there is. A LOT more, in
fact.
The REASON that the "Inner Game" is so
important is that attractive women don't judge you
on your "pick up lines".
And just because a woman gives you her phone
number or email address DOES NOT mean that she
FEELS anything inside (like ATTRACTION).
Women don't DECIDE to feel ATTRACTION for a
man.
ATTRACTION is something that happens on its
own, for its own reasons.
Attraction Isn't A Choice!
The way to cause women to feel ATTRACTION for
you is to UNDERSTAND how and why it works, and
then communicate in a way that makes it happen.
In my Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD
program, I spend several HOURS teaching "The Inner
Game"... all those things that help you get the
INSIDE together, so you can then get the OUTSIDE
together.
This stuff is CRITICAL to your success.
I wouldn't have taken all the time, effort, and
energy to put this together unless I thought it
was important.
If you want to overcome your challenges and
really take your success to the next level, then
you owe it to yourself to check it out.
It's here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/AdvancedSeries/?cid=7JZZZV&lid=3&ll=1
And, if you haven't had a chance to download my
eBook "Double Your Dating: What Every Man Should
Know About How To Be Successful With Women", then
you need to do that now. You can download it and
be reading it within a few minutes...
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/17842/eBook/?cid=7JZZZV&lid=4&ll=1
If you've tried all kinds of techniques, and
nothing seems to "work", then you need to work on
your Inner Game. When you get the inner game
together, everything will start to work a LOT
better...
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.