They gave me this list at my ex's rehab facility yesterday...
Common Characteristics of Adult Children from Dysfunctional Families...
The following statements are characteristics of adults who have grown in alcoholic or abusive familes. Although most people probably will identify with two or three of these statements, it is the children from severely dysfunctional families that identify with the majority of them.
1. I guess at what normal is
2. I have difficulty following projects through from beginning to end
3. I lie when it would be just as easy to tell the truth
4. I judge myself without mercy
5 I have difficulty having fun
6. I take myself very seriously
7. I have difficulty with intimate relationships
8. I overreact to changes which I have no control
9. I feel different from other people
10. I constantly seek approval and affirmation
11. I am either super responsible or super irresponsible
12. I am extremely loyal even in the face that loyalty is undeserved
13. I look for immediate as opposed to deferred gratification
14. I lock myself into a course of action without giving serious consideration to alternate behaviors or possible consequences
15. I seek tention and crisis and then complain about the results
16. I avoid conflict or aggravate it, rarely deal with it
17. I fear rejection and abandonment, yet I am rejecting of others
18. I fear failure but sabatoge my success
19. I fear critism and judgement, but I judge others
20. I manage my time poorly and do not set my priorities in a way the works well for me.
Got me thinking... but go ahead.. bash away, be honest, don't care.. let me have it..LOL.. 
