I have never understood. I can not ponder why. I can only contemplate. However even then im at a loss. WHat am i talking about?! Well it is when people you speak with in person, or on the net. People you meet, and talk to and get to know. The people who you are interested in as a friend or more. I have never understood why they would do this.
They tell you they want to be friends, so you so ok ect. Weather it be someone you were or were getting interested in deeper then friendship. But they tend to say lets just be friends, and then you try to be a friend. Send them texts, email them, call them to say hi, and see how they are. And they do not respond back. They for weeks fail to contact you to do the same thing. And some even do not return your phone call when you leave a message.
I can never understand how a friendship is suppose to be one sided. What gets me even more is those who tell you your so nice, and a great person. Then they ignore you and block your messages, or phone number, when you have not even contacted them in a week or two. They just put on a nice face, but show their bitchy and assholish side by blocking you. It never fails to amaze me, how difficult some people make it to be courtious to others, and just return a phone call even if its days later, and say sorry i was busy. Or now adays drop ya a quick email, or message on a messanger when they are on. But it seems they feel only those they are immediatly talking to they have time for. I remember when i was growing up. And cells were to expensive to get, and the internet was so new few knew how to use it at all or could.
Back then people were more courtious and willing to return a phone call even if it was late, to say sorry i got your message how are you. And your procedded to play phone tag. This even happened with people who were long distance and the prices of calls were larger then they are now. But these days even with cheaper calls, and easier ways to contact people. We tend to forget who our real friends are, we tend to forget how to be friendly to those we once cared for. We tend to let technology and the vastness of the world itself which is now in our homes get in the way.
Sometimes people figure for every one internet friend i lose i can find 5 others. While that may be true, sometimes you might be losing the best friend you could ever have. Sometimes the commonality of being polite to others is lost, and in the process you might lose someone who could be there for when you need it most. We also do not relise how we tend to imagine the internet as a game, rather then a reality. We look at Instant messages, as nothing, but think of phone calls as real. I would say that is the biggest failing of people on the internet in general. They tend to forget that on the other end is someone with feelings, someone real, someone who took time out of their life to get to know you. And if they were there downtown somewhere where you might run into them, you would treat them much diffrently. I guess what i can not understand, is how the computer/internet can make people believe that the person they are talking to is only part of their imagination. Or worse not worth caring about, when it comes to their feelings.
This is a quandry i shale always ponder, for in my eyes, everyone i talk to, i try my best to treat as if they were real and in front of me. For i see them as a person, and the computer as a cheap or free way to communicate long distances. For me the internet is a blessing in a sence as it adds possibilitys to my life that i can not get anywhere else. Living in a small town you tend to know everyone, and meet few new people. For me this medium of communication is a way not only to gain new friends, but to build friendships that one day may help me in my time of need. Even if its just a ear to listen, or a hand to help me up. Because i will never assume the person on the other end will never meet me, for the world is small enough we can communicate across it fast and easily, and that also means travel is just as easy, maybe not immediate but it is there in a manor which all can use.
(ps for those who think this is about them, it has nothing to do with anyone on the net, it has to do with someone locally who i met once and then proceded to be a bitch after i bought them dinner and they didnt even have the politness to say thanks after dinner, they emailed it to me instead.)
