NATIVE AMERICAN TRADITIONS: At the fubar Beach Wedding Chapel we offer many different types of ceremonies. This is a combonation of traditional Native American ceremonies and the ancient handfasting ceremony. This ceremony uses the traditons of the Native American's ceremonial fire, sacred circle, union blanket, and the giving of gifts between the couple. Along with the understanding of the traditions of handfasting that a union is a joining of heart and soul for as long as the couple desires.
In honor of Native American tradition, this ceremony is to be perform outdoors, with Father sky as the roof of the most sacred chapel, and Mother Earth at your feet to hold you, and the trees and plants to surround and embrace you, as wellas, the sound of the water as your symphony to set balance and serenity to the ceremony. Sage will be used by the Ministers to cleans the ceremonial grounds, sacred tobacco given to the Grandfathers and Grandmothers of the plants and stone people a gift for allowing us to do our ceremony in their space.
HANDFASTING TRADITION: Handfasting is an ancient ceremony of spiritual union between the hearts and souls of two people. It differs from other marriage ceremonies in that it may last only as long as the two involved wish it to last, whether that be for a year and a day, or for a lifetime. Since this is fubar, and the union is virtual, we have decided to include this tradtion along with those of the Native American, as a beautiful and honest addition to the normal FuMarriage Ceremonies that have offered in the past.
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**** Dove Goddess Enters and offers Tobacco to all areas of the ceremony as a gift, thanking nature for allowing the use of this area for this sacred union.
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{Dove Goddess says the opening Prayer}
Our Creator and Great Grandfather of all, Who dwells in the Spiritland
We beg that you look toward us, your children Who live here on Mother Earth we ask you to hear our prayer:
Because, Our Creator, we learn to believe With the highest respect, The law you have set forth.
We ask that you bring to us, this day, the Good spirits from the four directions:
From the winds of the East, fill us with the knowledge that The Creator is within the heart and spirit of the people
From the winds of the South, teach us self-sufficiency and how to live in harmony with all upon the earth
From the winds of the West, teach us how we use all that we have been gifted by the Creator, our knowledge, spirituality and our health
From the winds of the North, We seek the guidance of Elders for they have experienced the truth from this knowledge let us be renewed
Fill us with these teachings so that when we put our minds together for this gathering, We will be of one heart
Bless us with understanding, strength and compassion that may we always walk the good path as one heart
Great Spirit we call to you, hear our prayers, and let your truth and knowledge fill our hearts.
Oh Creator of all, for these things we pray.
{Dove Goddess}
On behalf of FuBride__________ and FuGroom__________ I would like to welcome you to this joyous celebration.
{Dove Goddess}
Today we have come together to celebrate the special cyber connection that exists between FuBride__________ and FuGroom__________ and their desire to make their cyber feelings known through this sacred ceremony
{Dove Goddess}
FuBride__________ and FuGroom__________ will you please come join me beside the sacred fire?
{Dove Goddess}
FuBride__________ and FuGroom__________ you are entering into this union because you want to be together.
{Dove Goddess}
You sealing your commitment through this ceremony because you know you will grow more in happiness and your special cyber connection more fully as commited online mates.
{Dove Goddess}
Online you will belong to each other, one in mind, one in heart, and one in all things.
{Dove Goddess}
No greater blessing of online happiness can come to you than to have this devoted cyber commitment, which you now publicly avow.
{Dove Goddess}
Keep this understanding of your FuUnion alive in the days ahead. May your cyber commitment continuously grow truer and more wonderful with each day you enjoy together on fubar.
{Dove Goddess}
I will now ask Wild Horse to come forward to assist in the joining of these two cyber lives and hearts.
{Wild Horse}
*** Wild Horse steps forward and joins Dove Goddess beside the sacred fire
{Dove Goddess}
The witnesses for this FuUnion are, Witness 1__________ and Witness 2_________.
{Wild Horse}
Does anyone here have any objections to this couple being joined? If so, speak now or forever hold it to your heart.
(Wait for the pause of 3 heartbeats)
{Dove Goddess}:
Should any of the Spirits gathered here have objections to this union, now is the time to make it known.
(Wait for the pause of 3 heartbeats)
{Dove Goddess}
Without any objections, let us continue.
{Wild Horse}
Will Witness 1__________ and Witness 2_________ please bring fourth the blanket and tie it around FuBride__________ and FuGroom__________ to symbolizes the cyber union of the two lives.
{Dove Goddess types}
*** Witness 1__________ and Witness 2_________ steps forward with the union blanket as Dove Goddess and Wild Horse begins the cleansing of the union by saging of all in attendance.
{Wild Horse}
Be mindful, to not allow this blanket to at any time touch the ground and become soiled, for just as the blanket symbolizes the union of two lives, the soiling of the blanket will also symbolize the soiling of the union between FuBride__________ and FuGroom__________
{Dove Goddess}
As the smoke from the sage rises to the sky to join with Creator and becomes cleansed, let it carry with it all that is unclean in order to secure a more perfect union between FuBride__________ and FuGroom__________
{Dove Goddess types}
*** Dove Goddess and Wild Horse return to the sarcred fire, and drops the remaining sage into the fire. Then Wild Horse picks up the braided flower handfasting cord, and turns to FuBride__________ and FuGroom__________
{Wild Horse}
FuBride__________ and FuGroom__________, Just as the blanket upon you shoulders symbolizes the cyber union of your two lives, this cord that I wrap around your wrists will symbolize the tying of your cyber hearts one to another
[Wild Horse and Dove Goddess give the Blessing]
{Wild Horse}
Now you will feel no rain, for you will be shelter to each other.
Now you will feel no cold, for each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there is no more online loneliness, for each of you will be cyber companion to the other.
Now you are two cyber bodies, but there is only one cyber life before you.
May your days on fubar be good and long within the cyber realm.
{Dove Goddess}
Above you are the stars, below you are the stones.
As your time on fubar does pass, remember,
Like a star should your cyber commitment should be constant.
Like a stone should your cyber union should be firm.
Be close, but not so close that you loose sight of yourselves.
Remain true to your own inner selves, yet be understanding of each other.
{Wild Horse}
Have patience with the other; for storms will come, but they will go quickly.
Be free in giving of affection and warmth.
Lean on each other often, and be always true and honest with the other.
{Dove Goddess}
Have no fear, and let not the ways of words of the unenlightened give you unease.
For the Great FuSpirits are with you, now and always.
Blessings by Family and Wedding Guests
{Dove Goddess}
FuBride__________ and FuGroom__________ , come now and join us by the sacred fire [East Point]
{Wild Horse}
FuBride__________ and FuGroom__________, you are now about to cyber vow one to another.
{Dove Goddess}
FuGroom__________, do you, stand in our virtual presence of your own free will to seak union with FuBride__________, Do you wish this union with FuBride__________ at this time?
{Groom}
yes, I do
{Wild Horse}
FuBride__________ , do you, stand in our virtual presence of your own free will to seak union with FuGroom__________, Do you wish this union with FuGroom__________ at this time?
{Bride}
yes, I do
{Wild Horse} STEP 1: [one step is taken to the Southeast point on the circle] [*First cord is draped across the bride and grooms hands*]
And so the binding is made. Join your hands
{Dove Goddess}
FuGroom__________ , Will you share her laughter?
{Groom}
Yes
{Wild Horse}
FuBride__________ , Will you share his laughter?
{Bride}
Yes
{Wild Horse}[*To Both*]
Will both of you look for the brightness in life and the positive in each other?
{Bride and Groom}
Yes
{Dove Goddess} STEP 2 [one step is taken to the South point on the circle] [Second cord is draped across the couples hands*]
And so the binding is made.
{Dove Goddess}
FuGroom__________, Will you burden her?
{Groom}
I may
{Dove Goddess}
FuGroom__________ , Is that your intent?
{Groom}
No
{Wild Horse}
FuBride__________, Will you burden him?
{Bride}
I may
{Wild Horse}
FuBride__________,Is that your intent?
{Bride}
No
{Dove Goddess}[*To Both*]
Will you share the burdens of each so that your spirits may grow in this union?
{Bride and Groom}
Yes
{Wild Horse} STEP 3 [one step is taken to the Southwest point on the circle] [*Drape third cord across the couples, hands*]
And so the binding is made.
{Dove Goddess}
FuGroom__________ , will you share her dreams?
{Groom}
Yes
{Wild Horse}
FuBride__________, will you share his dreams?
{Bride}
Yes
{Wild Horse}[*To Both*]
Will you dream together to create new realities and hopes?
{Bride and Groom}
Yes
{Dove Goddess} STEP 4: [one step is taken to the West point on the circle] [*Drape fourth cord across the couples hands*]
And so the binding is made.
{Dove Goddess}
FuGroom__________ , will you cause her anger?
{Groom}
I may
{Dove Goddess}
FuGroom__________ ,Is that your intent?
{Groom}
No
{Wild Horse}
FuBride__________, will you cause him anger?
{Bride}
I may
{Wild Horse}
FuBride__________, Is that your intent?
{Bride}
No
{Dove Goddess}[*To Both*]
Will you take the heat of anger and use it to temper the strength of this union?
{Bride and Groom}
We will
{Wild Horse}STEP 5: [one step is taken to the Northwest point on the circle] [*Drape fifth cord across the couples hands*]
And so the binding is made.
{Dove Goddess}
FuGroom__________ , Will you honor her?
{Groom}
I will
{Wild Horse}
FuBride__________, Will you honor him?
{Bride}
I will
{Wild Horse}[*To Both*]
Will you seek to never give cause to break that honor?
{Bride and Groom}
We shall never do so.
{Dove Goddess} STEP 6: [to Both] [one step is taken to the North point on the circle] [*Drape sixth cord across the couples hands*]
And so the binding is made.
To this union the welfare of a child is also included, FuBride__________ and FuGroom__________, do you vow cyber love, security and protection in regards to FuChild__________ ?
{Bride and Groom}
Yes, we shall
{Wild Horse} STEP 7: [to Both] [one step is taken to the Northeast point on the circle] [*Tie cords together while saying:*]
The knots of this binding are not formed by these cords but instead by your vows. Either of you may drop the cords, for as always, you hold in your own hands the making of breaking of this union.
{Dove Goddess} [to Both]
As you have stated your desire to be cyber united, one to the other, take now these baskets and and place them before the other as a pledge and testimony of you cyber union and commitment and as a symbol of the gifts you bring to each other.
{Wild Horse} [to Both]
As the blanket across your shoulders and the flowered strand symbolize, may it be a prelude to the warmth you share and flowering of your cyber lives together, and a fond rememberance of this union. So also may they symbolize the virtual bonding of your cyber souls, your online energy, and your combined cyber force, that throughout your time on fubar together, you may know of nothing but each other's joy, friendship and cyber love, in perfect balance and peace my you surf through fubar for as long as you both desire.
{Dove Goddess}
By the authority vested in us by ourselves, and those who entrusted us to perform this ceremony, we pronounce you handfasted as FuHusband and FuWife.
{Wild Horse}
FuGroom__________ you may kiss your FuWife!
{Dove Goddess}
With honor I proudly announce for the first time FuGroom__________ FuHusband to FuBride__________, and FuBride__________ FuWife to FuGroom__________
{Wild Horse}
FuFamily, FuFriends and FuGuests please join with us in greeting the new FuCouple. May their cyber life together be a happy and prosperous union.
{Dove Goddess}
FuBride__________ and FuGroom__________,you are now officially FuHitched, Let the celebrations begin!!!
*** Wild Horse and Dove Goddess remove the cord and the blanket fold and hand them to the couple*****
