KNOWLEDGE IS A WEAPON, KINDNESS CAN TURN AWAY RAGE, A LIGHT HEARTED RESPONSE, OR EVEN APATHETIC ONE WILL SUBDUE RAGE AND CONFUSE A BULLY BECAUSE YOU ARE DEVIATING FROM THE PATTERN THEY HAVE GROWN COMFORTABLE WITH.
KNOWLEDGE-WHY IS A BULLY A BULLY? OUT OF THEIR OWN INSECURITIES, INADEQUACIES, AND FEAR. A BULLY IS A JEALOUS PERSON. THE PAYOFF MUST EXIST, OR THE BULLY WILL NOT BE FULFILLED AND MOVE ON TO OTHER EASIER TARGETS.
YOU ENCOUNTER A VERBAL ATTACK ONLINE. CLEARLY THE BULLY LIVES WITH PAIN AND GETS RELIEF IN UPSETTING YOU.
WHAT IF YOU CHANGED TACTICS? RESPOND LIKE A MATURE AND KIND ADULT. "I WISH I COULD CHANGE HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT ME OR CHANGE THE LANGUAGE YOU USE TO REFERENCE ME. I FORGIVE YOU.
BUT, LIKE EVERYONE ELSE, I NEED RESPECT. SO YOUR PERSISTENCE IN HARRASSING ME ONLY MAKES ME FEEL THAT YOU MUST REALLY HURT INSIDE-I WISH I COULD HELP YOU. THE WORDS YOU HAVE CHOSEN TO INTIMIDATE ME ARE WORDS THAT I WILL NO LONGER RESPOND TO. NOTHING YOU COULD SAY WILL EVER UPSET ME AGAIN. AND GUESS WHAT, MY WORDS WILL BE KIND IN RETURN AND REFLECT THE SYMPATHY I FEEL FOR WHAT MADE YOU THIS WAY.
SO NOW IF YOULL EXCUSE ME
YOU WILL HAVE TO MAINTAIN THAT DEMEANOR SERVERAL TIMES USUALLY BEFORE THE BULLY MOVES ON. THEY DO LOSE INTEREST BECAUSE YOU ARE NO MORE FUN TO UPSET ANYMORE. THEY ARE UNSUCCESSFUL GETTING YOU GOING, NO PAYOFF EXISTS AND THEY MUST LOOK ELSEWHERE.
YOU ALWAYS ACT LIKE YOU FEEL SORRY FOR THEM AND THE PAIN THEY ARE IN=EVEN WHEN THE DENY PAIN, YOU ONLY MADE SURE THEY COME TO SEE IT--IT CAN BE A PROGRESSIVE THING
ONE DAY I WILL WRITE ABOUT HOW I DEALT WITH BULLIES, BY USING THE SPORT OF BOXING.
