The Blue Personality-
To Love & Be Loved
“Of all the people in the world, Blues are the most loving, nurturing, and supportive. They do not have to work at it; it is simply their amazing nature- who they are. Everyone has gifts and talents, and Blues possess extraordinary people skills.”
“Many people understandably are attracted to Blues, because they sense that Blues are interested in them. Although Blues represent only ten percent of the total population, they exert a tremendous influence on the minds and hearts of other people.”
“One of their greatest gifts is the phenomenal ability to love another person unconditionally- as much as humanly possible. Many say that Blues are the least judgmental of all; people feel accepted by them and thrive in their presence. Blues focus on what’s special about others, they are verbally affirming, and everyone is good until proven otherwise.”
“When Blues speak, they often communicate from their hearts rather than their heads. In other words, they talk about their emotions and how they “feel” about things. Blues are sensitive and need to express how they feel, which can be misconstrued as a weakness by those who don’t appreciate sensitivity. In fact, Blues may think their sensitivity is a curse until they realize the strength inherent in who they are. Because of the Blues’ sensitivity, other people come to them when they’re hurting. Accepting their sensitivity can liberate Blue men and Blue women from the pain of trying to suppress it.”
“…It is difficult for Blues to separate their feelings from anyone or anything that concerns them. They don’t take criticism or rejection well. They “wear their hearts on their sleeves.” …Yet people need not feel sorry for Blues or think they are fragile. If they didn’t have such incredible strength, others wouldn’t come to them with their problems.”
It doesn’t mean a man is weak or a woman is a pushover if they are sensitive and care about others. To the contrary, it comes naturally for them to want to help other people. Helping others is enjoyable and builds Blues’ self-esteem. They will help any way they can, but their preference is to help others with their emotional needs. Helping people feel better about who they are is more rewarding then assisting with physical needs.”
“Of course there is always the possibility of becoming co-dependent, and Blues have to be more careful than others. A person who is co-dependent takes care of another person’s needs without taking care of his own. Co-dependence indicates a Blue who is out-of-esteem, not a healthy Blue.”
“Communication is another Blue strength. Everybody is good at something, and Blues are naturally good at interacting with others. Conversation is one of their favorite pastimes, especially if they are extroverts. Blues typically show more genuine concern for the other person than interest in talking about themselves. Conversation with a Blue will usually focus on personal topics such as happiness (or lack of it) with self and others in relationships, problems and dreams concerning career goals, and what the kids are up to. Their least favorite subjects are those like war and crime, but even those can be interesting to Blues if others discuss their feelings. Talking about the facts will make the conversation seem empty and pointless to Blues. They will usually find a way to personalize the conversation.”
“[Blues] love to motivate, encourage, and inspire others.”
“Intuition gives Blues the ability to know or sense what others are thinking and feeling. Some people describe this feeling as a sixth sense, while others call it being “psychic.” If someone is saying one thing and feeling another, Blues will be first to sense the true feelings, regardless of the smoke screen.”
“…[Blues] get a “feeling” about what is true. When they trust their intuition, they are often remarkably accurate about people and situations in ways that cannot otherwise be explained. Examples of this ability are knowing who is calling before answering the phone, having a dream about someone dying before they die, or seeing something happen that they already knew would happen.”
“Blues must be careful not to put themselves in situations where there is a lot of disharmony because their real strength will not surface.”
“Peace and harmony are important enough to Blues that they will try to create and maintain these values at all costs. At home and in the office, Blues are the ones who want everyone to get along and be happy. Because they don’t like to argue, they may appear to be cowards in a hostile situation; but their strength lies in knowing that there is a better way to resolve conflict. Blues are lovers, not fighters. They would rather walk away from a fight than engage in shouting or putting other people down.”
“When conflict occurs, Blues may shut down and lose their ability to communicate because they are feeling so many emotions. It is difficult for them to sort out their feelings in a hostile environment. Most of the time, they are better off leaving the situation to go someplace quiet where they can think more clearly. They are far better communicators when there isn’t a lot of emotional charge on the topic.”
“Like Mother Teresa, Blues want to give people hope.”
Blue Goals and Ideals
“Blues do not strive for power or control. Instead they have an uncompromising dedication to helping others feel good about themselves. Helping is what they most enjoy, even if they are not paid to do it. To raise a person’s self-esteem or help someone reach a goal gives a Blue more personal satisfaction than money could ever buy.”
“As sensitive, caring, and compassionate individuals, Blues constantly take care of other people. They want everyone to feel loved and accepted. Because they are good listeners, others come to them for comfort or advice. Blues can be trusted to be there in time of need. They don’t mind giving their time or energy to listen to others’ problems and make them feel better.”
“A common theme in the lives of Blues is to love and be loved. In fact, they give love so freely that they usually have an abundance of friends and family members who love them. In the words of Ralph Waldo Emerson, “Love and you shall be loved…all mankind loves a lover.”
“Working every day just to pay the bills would feel like psychic death to a Blue. The questions “Who am I?” and “Why am I here?” are typical of a Blue. Blues are likely to be found in the self-help sections of bookstores, because they seem to feel the need to figure out who they are. By understanding themselves better, they can reach their ultimate goal- self actualization.”
“To Blues, there is nothing more important than becoming the best people they can be. They hunger to be unique and despise being ordinary or like everyone else. Being exceptional allows Blues to motivate and inspire others to be their best.
The Blue Man
“The Blue Man is extremely kind and considerate, with a big heart, but if you’re looking for someone rich he may not be your man. Not to say he can’t become rich, but he isn’t motivated by money as much as other men are.”
“Wealth is not a primary motive, but to the extent that it’s important, the key would be to get rich doing something he loves. Like everything else, his work must have deep meaning. His motivation comes from his sense of service and making a contribution to others.”
“The trade off for his partner will be a warm, sensitive, loving man who will support her in achieving her goals.”
“When he falls in love, he likes to wine and dine and shower his partner with lots of affection. He is a hopeless romantic, which some women may find smothering. Not to worry. Plenty of women want this kind of attention from their lover, and the Blue man does it naturally. He is an incredibly passionate man who likes to express his love openly. The Blue man feels the kind of passionate love that Romeo felt for Juliet.”
“The Blue man is exceptional in bringing out the best in others. Most people flourish around him, and his partner will benefit from his desire to help her reach her goals. He is not the type of man who will hold her back from improving herself or be intimidated by her success. In fact, the happier she is with herself, the more attractive she will be to him. The only danger is that if she doesn’t have quality time with him, he could get upset. He needs lots of attention.”
“The partner of a Blue man must remind him often that she loves him. His continual need for reassurance doesn’t mean that he is insecure. He just needs to hear that he is loved. He doesn’t want to have to figure it out, he wants it said explicitly. After all, he thrives on good, clear communication.”
“Marriage has a special meaning, and he is more than willing to do his share to make the relationship work. In fact, he will go the extra mile for his partner because giving to others comes easily to him. He is also not afraid to open up and let his partner touch the soft part of his heart, as long as she makes it safe for him. He doesn’t want to be made to feel wrong or stupid for having whatever feelings he has. He needs to be able to express his honest emotions with his partner.”
“Be prepared to share him with others (not in a romantic way, of course) because like his Blue female counterpart he will be popular. He is good at nurturing others, and his friends like to talk to him when they need someone to listen. The Blue man’s need to interact with others is as much a part of who he is as his fingerprints.”
“As a father, he will be attentive to his children. Family relationships are important to him and he will make time to spend with his kids.”
Blue Out-of-Esteem Behavior
“Like everyone, when Blues are out-of-esteem, their strengths become their weaknesses. People whom they would otherwise enjoy being with and helping can become their biggest stressor. Blues can feel so depressed and overwhelmed by their own emotions that they are incapable of listening to other people’s problems. When this happens, they have a tendency to withdraw and wallow in self-pity. One of their greatest fears is to be alone or unloved, so take heed when a Blue resorts to withdrawing from other people.”
“Although they love being available for others who need them, they may feel embarrassed to let others know when they are hurting. Because Blues are strong and supportive, it’s easy to forget they sometimes need help and support themselves, unless they ask for it.”
