So, today I had another two people ask to see my family-only photos folder. The one that's marked "Don't ask to see or you will piss me off." I don't know how much clearer I could have been, and yet, I still regularly get the oddly hopeful (oddly oblivious? oddly delusional?).
So, allow me to be plain about who gets into my family. The people in my family are almost universally people I have talked to regularly and at length. They are people I like and feel comfortable with. In some cases, they are my real life friends.
I do not add people to my family so that they can see my photos. Rather, because they are in my family, I trust them and feel comfortable enough with them that they get to see more intimate photos of me than a general population of people I've hardly spoken to.
In fact, you will notice that there are people in my family who probably don't WANT to see my photos. There are people on my family list who've never looked at those photos, and probably never will. But I'd be comfortable with them seeing the photos, because of who they are.
I don't put people in my family just because they put me in their families. For many people, the concept of a family means nothing. Why should I be complimented that a total stranger put me into his family (which takes one button click, mind you) when he probably did it primarily so I'd put him in mine and he could see my photos? Ugh.
So I'm thinking of changing my photo folder warning to read, "Don't ask or I will delete." Think that'll stop anyone? Because, frequently those denied access to my photos (usually total strangers who've never even talked to me before) become belligerent when told no. How immature can you get, exactly?