The last few months I have been learning about the BDSM world and have jumped in so to speak. It's been very enlightening and has taught me so much about sex, and how it effects the mind. I just wanted to pass on the name of this kick ass book I have been reading. "Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns" Do a search for it online, it's easy to find and isn't expensive. It's like a technical manual for the BDSM lifestyle. Enjoy!!!