Trust us difficult to define because it means different things to different people. Some say that trust can only be given over along period of time, during which the one requesting the trust must earn it. Some say that everyone gives at least a small amount of trust to others in order for a real relationship to begin. I feel that that Trust is must have in the lifetstyle, without you can not have a BDSM relationship.
A Submissive must trust the Dominant with his/her very life. Once a submissive is bound and gagged, nothing can stop the Dominant from killing him/her if the Dom so chooses to. So it is imperative that the submissive plays only with a person they trust with their life. A submissive must also trust the Dominant to have their best interest at heart, and to always care for them, not abuse them. A submissive must trust that the Dom has considered all options before ordering them to do something.
Trust, however is not one sided. A Dom must trust his sub as well. In many instances the sub is in charge of many important things, like payingbills on time. The Dom must be able to trust that the sub can handle these tasks in a responsible manner.
A Dom must be able to trust that his sub will tell him the truth and uphold the rules set before him/her.
Both participants must be able to trust the other with their thoughts, feelings and needs, also their vulnerabilities and strenghts.
Open and hoenst communication is a way of building trust, asn is required in a BDSM relationship. This level of trust takes time to grow, it does not happen over night. Trust will grow with consitant actions from both parties involved along with a good working level of communication. In this way the people show that that will do what they say that they will do.
Unfortunately, in a relationship such as BDSM, trust can easily be broken. When that happens many people just end the relationship thinking that the trust cannot be repaired. In actuality, in many cases, it can be repaired if both parties want to repair it.
Trusting someone can run into a few snags if the person has been hurt in the past. It is difficult to immediately trust a new person, when fears of being hurt are stilla round. In case, patience and consistancy can go a long way towards building trust.
The best way of knowing whether or not you truly trust a person is to listen to your instincts. have faith in yourself and your instincts. This is not always an easy thing to do, but doing so is the best gauge of wether or not a person is trust worthy.
