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This is what I have to do... I have to believe her, even if i know she is lying I have to pretend for her.. sounds odd but its true.. she is so kind hearted that when she see's what ive done, she will stop whatever it is she is hiding ..leap of faith.. I have to pick her up, so high that she will be afraid to come down for fear of falling, with the kind truths I mutter so quietly, the gentle touch when I am afforded oppritunity.. Ill do that.. I have to be stable, probably my biggest weakness in love is im unstable.. I have to aquire that trait and it wont be easy but Ill do it... I have to be faithful when I am commited and thats no trouble for me, Im a 1 woman man.. Keep doubts to a minimum, hard to do but is suredly possible.. Have to protect her, friend or foe, physical , mental doesnt matter what the enemy, I have to keep her safe and give her comfort... I shouldnt cause trouble on my own which I am guilty of, but Im getting better.. I have to remain patiant cause thats what a Man thats about his business and confident does.. and I have to be more good than all the bads combined.. we shall see.

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Have you ever secretly wondered if the reason your relationships don't last, might just really have something to do with you? Is it possible that you may be unknowingly self-sabotaging your chances for commitment and intimacy? Okay, so you may be thinking to yourself, "Well that's a bit harsh!" But perhaps doing a quick self-check is just what you need to increase your chances for a healthy relationship. After all, the good news is that awareness is the first step to change. So start your check-up now! Your suit of armour Do you make your dates work too hard to get to know you? Do you play hard-to-get games? With each disappointment, we can add a little more to our shell, making it harder for someone to get close to us. But, hey, that's life! Pain is part and parcel of learning about life and love. If you try and avoid the pain that realistically can come with looking for love (by closing yourself off or hurting the object of your potential affections) before the relationship even gets started, then you may also be avoiding possible joy. Scarlet letters Do you find yourself attracting the wrong person repeatedly? Do you ignore the "wrong person" red flags early on because you're too blinded by hope and lust or plain old-fashioned neediness? If someone is not available - whether it means physically or emotionally - they're not going to change for you! If someone tells you, you're "not my type" or they don't want "to settle down" or they'll "never be faithful"… do you ignore their honesty, or avoid a conversation and decide to yourself "Yeah, that's what they think!" Then when they remind you that they told you this before you so gallantly gave your heart away, you're devastated and confused. but it's not their fault - it's your very own denial! Next time you start to get involved, listen and take note of the person's actions. Don't try to conquer love… let love happen where it is willing to happen and when it makes sense! Then you can take all that energy you would expend into trying to fix someone and put it into getting to know someone, instead. That's a lot more fun and fulfilling! Movie stars aren't perfect Once you're in a relationship, do you look for flaws in your partner or attempt to justify why, this too, will be a failed relationship? Do you wonder, "Do they have a soul?" because of the way they mangle the toothpaste tube, the funny way their hair parts over their ears, or because they don't love to golf? You need to stop and get real with your bad self. Remember, you're not perfect either. To stop self-sabotaging potential for finding love we need to be blatantly honest with ourselves about whether we subconsciously believe that just anyone will do, or that no one will ever do. Part of finding a relationship is accepting other's for who they are, realizing that imperfections can be beautiful, and learning to relish another's idiosyncrasies. No union is ever going to be fairy tale perfect. The point is to find a person you can honestly love, who honestly loves, respects and adores you… and together you have the great potential to live life passionately - warts and all.
Walking away from your relationship can feel confusing and scary but there are times when saying sayonara can be best for you both. If you're not feeling happy, open and understood by your mate, you might have to make some tough choices. Love covers a mountain of obstacles, yes, but there are some things that probably aren't going to resolve themselves without a total commitment. If you have your partner's best interests in mind, as well as your own, you'll want to do what is ultimately best for you both. Commitment It may sound old fashioned, but there is a reason why human beings tend to pair off into groups of two - we're designed for intimacy. In order to feel truly safe while being vulnerable, most of us prefer the cushion of a commitment. If you or your partner do not feel safe to be open and vulnerable, you're also not safe to grow together. This is not just about fidelity, this is about trusting that your partner has your best interests at heart. If you are having a tough time making a commitment, it may be because you can't see yourself with this person years down the line. If you already know it's not going to work out long-term - what are you still doing there? Be Ready For Love How to recognize the real deal Common ground Surprisingly most relationships are not started with a fireside chat about core values. In the beginning we are blinded by our similarities, but as the relationship matures we begin to see our differences, too. Having different backgrounds and different belief systems may work out for some, but it can be a challenge for others. If you cannot live with a behavior pattern or belief that your partner holds, resist the urge to try to change them. If you come across an issue that is a deal breaker for you, honesty is the best policy. Remaining true to yourself might be hard - but selling out is harder and rarely works out well. It may be tough to walk away, but the rewards of living by your own rules will be worth it in the long run. Communication The good news here is that good communication is a skill that is learned. The bad news is that once you've learned to communicate a certain way it's pretty tough to change. Since your partner has probably been exposed to parents, teachers and other lovers - you may be getting a done deal in the communications department. Therapists agree that the main reason that communication falters between lovers is simple - you may not really be hearing each other. Finding a partner who is easy to talk to and really understands you should be a requirement at the top of your list. If you find that you or your partner often feel misunderstood, you might want to consider couple's counseling or ultimately moving on - before you stop listening altogether. Mistrust Trust is a slippery slope and there are infinite reasons for it to go awry. Perhaps you've been hurt before and are not able to fully trust another person right now. Or maybe you have been untrustworthy and are projecting that on to your lover. It could be simply that you just feel that your partner isn't being totally open with you. In this case, the reason doesn't really matter. If you cannot trust your partner for whatever reason, walk away as quickly as you can… and then deal with this issue alone. A therapist or friend can be of great help in this case, a mistrusting partner cannot. Resentment If you find yourself in a situation where you have been wronged by your partner and they are un-remorseful or you just cannot forgive what they did, walk away as quickly as possible. You absolutely do not deserve to live with insurmountable hurt. If you cannot forgive your partner, you will not be able to give them your trust - ever again! A relationship without trust lies on a very shaky foundation which should never be built upon - at least not without professional help, a huge dumpster and the proper permits. No one is suggesting that you throw in the towel at the first sign of trouble, but when you get to the second or third red flag, you might want to re-examine whether or not this person is right for you. If you're not willing to get down and dirty and do the hard work with your partner to resolve outstanding issues, you may want to re-examine your need to be in this relationship at all. And trust us, if you're at the point of walking out the door, you're probably better off! (I might outta take a dose of this medicine)

Good opinion on love.

“It takes courage to love, but pain through love is the purifying fire which those who love generously know. We all know people who are so much afraid of pain that they shut themselves up like clams in a shell and, giving out nothing, receive nothing and therefore shrink until life is a mere living death.”

The way I feel.

Sticks and Stones May break my bones... But my GUILT is what really hurts me!

30 Things to never do.

Well I been thinking alot lately and I have finally compiled a list of my own personal "Never to Do's" .. in no uncertain order. 1. Never put a man on the spot. 2. Never make your GF the brunt of your jokes. 3. Never Lie to your GF, she is smarter than you and you will be caught. 4. Never tell the truth to your GF when the answer will be hurtful to her even in jest. 5. Never tell your Boss to get fucked, unless you mean it. 6. Never gamble on your grocery money. 7. Never go to sleep angry youll just wake up pissed off again. 8. Never call a Cop a Pig to his face, wait till he gets back in his car. 9. Never fight over things you can easily replace. 10. Never stop watching her sleep. 11. Never stop Learning. 12. Never play the follower. 13. Never play the fool. 14. Never start a list of 100, they will only read 10 or so at best. 15. Never burn a bridge you cant rebuild. 16. Never stop going the extra mile. 17. Never stop ALL of your childish ways as they keep you young once you grow old. 18. Never stick your nipples to jumper cables. 20. Never point an unloaded gun at someone.(bullets are in the top drawer) 21. Never assume she will __________.(she hates it when you do that) 22. Never believe her when she says "Go ahead, Its ok." 23. Never get too messed up to defend yourself. 24. Never 2nd guess yourself. (unless you known for making mistakes the first time.) 25. Never forget to tell loved ones "I love you" . 26. Never turn the channel when football is on. (Accident? They dont happen during football games!) 27. Never drive faster than your guardian angel can fly. 28. Never forget where you came from. 29. Never forget to go back there sometimes. 30. Never forget your NOT ALONE.
Though the light hurts my eyes my blood seems to be nearly dry Blue eyes show the drinks My mind aches as I try to think I cant really speak and my insides feel weak Sometimes you think you have fallen Just to find you have hit your peak All or some things gone or forgotten Still you cant help but feeling rotton You hadnt felt your troubles while sipping down the bubbles Now you feel hollow , like the troubles only doubled What to do or what to say Put it in a blog and tuck it all away Guilty enough to beg yet too guilty to pray Seems lately it hasnt helped matters anyway Check your spelling and make the words sound alike Its going better than you figured but still may take all night Beads of sweat run all over Suck up the regret and just start all over But hey look you did it big If i could im sure i would renig Stuff happens and just doesnt help to rant You would be ranting alot and that would change your plans But lucky you its all on your hands Freedom and happiness lay just beyond their reach You toil away the day dreaming Stop only for night when you take the soapbox to preach Maybe seems your preaching to the choir What else is there to do in the midnight hour Moody Bluesy maybe you are a freak You wont have the moment of clarity now Try again next week. Yay i made a poem!
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