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One of the most common asked and frustrating questions by women is “why cant or don’t guys commit to just one woman? ” Well aren’t we supposed to be so easy to figure out? Well maybe the playa, pimp, asshole type of guy maybe but not the nice guy who is either in a bad relationship or married, gay or is simply scared to death of commitment because he just got out of a devastating relationship. The internet is a perfect example of men who are virtually surrounded by a diverse range of beautiful women and how that makes it more difficult for them to settle.The harsh reality is that you could be the perfect woman for him but you might have to work very hard to gain and keep his attention, heart and trust. I know I know…why not just give up right there huh ladies? Well because you women have needs, dreams and fantasies too! Right?
The fact of the matter is most of us MEN are suffering from “SEPERATION ANXIETY”. Not in the sense of needing any specific person persay; but able and willing to separate the infactuation we have of many to facing the fear of committing our heart and trust into just ONE.
Of course knowing that most of us are extremely visual creatures and the fact that we think about sex 24/7 doesn’t help us at all when the perfect woman for us could have walked in and out of our lives without us even knowing it. Truth of the matter is most of us don’t take the time to look up and give any ONE woman a chance to prove their love and how different they are than the last woman who shattered our heart, destroyed our faith and erased our dreams of meeting our dream girl again. How sad is that?…
So what is a woman who is not only fighting against a woman to men avg ratio of 7 to 1 suppose to do? How is she going to control her naturally jealous and possessive tendencies where it doesn’t destroy any chances of keeping the man she desires and fantasizes about being in her life.
Ladies, how patient, determined, compassionate and faithful are you?...because you are going to need all 4 if you are going to find and keep the love of your life.
Fellas, know that ladies aren't judging and critisizing us for how we feel...its for how we react to those feelings that are always up for scruteny. Whether you commit or not, faith, honesty and good communication can get you through all of your issues and fears surrounding commitment.
Remember, most of us men are just grown babies that never got off the nipple ….lol where we definitely don’t NEED 100 women to gawk over or telling us how wonderful or sexy we are, we absolutely must have these things in our life from THE woman before we will become and stay committed.
Physical attraction (comes in all shapes and forms. T & A is universal but a confident woman is what magnifies her true beauty.)
Sexual stimulation (visually, physically and expressively)
Compassion (you don’t have to understand, just be compassionate to how we feel.)
Empathy
Patience (the hardest to have but the most important if you want to be the ONE.)
Nurtured (aka spoiled, catered too, pampered )
Control (just make us feel like we have it….lol)
Wanted-we always must feel that our woman wants or depends on us. not in a dominating, posessive or degrating way. just in a way that makes us feel like their is something a woman cant do and needs us for. so its important to humour us...
Confidence (a confident woman has very lil jealousy, possessiveness and neediness qualities. A MANS DREAM.)
Able to secure and maintain safety (there is nothing better than knowing that we are able to keep our woman safe and sound. so let us!)
I know that this might fluctuate a little from man to man but for the most part this is REALISM across the board with us. Now I realize that some of the things on this list also apply to women but realize that women are from VENUS and men are from MARS. We simply react differently. As always, I’m just keeping it REAL
Ok …is this when all of the ladies say tha hell with men I’m going to find me a woman? LoL…remember, nothing worth while will ever be easy.
Quite a few of my fellow brothers have made the statement “I don’t how you handle all the attention from all those beautiful women”. Believe me, I am far from boasting and bragging how have been able to because God knows I have not always made the right decisions or handled my seperation anxieties the right way either.
Obviously. There are few things that I have always focused in on.
1. Remaining humble-knowing that any given day my gifts from God can be taken away.
2. Priorities-regardless of who I chose to sacrifice my heart and trust too; that I always treat every woman’s heart with respect and compassion.
.....So ladies, can you handle us the way we are?
Love N Huggzzz…ToniO
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As I sit here listening to the lyrics of this song "This Woman's Work" my eyes fill with tears. I guess its because all my life starting with my mom I have valued, cherished, protected and loved women more than anything else in life. Not because they are beautiful and stimulating but because women are naturally caring, nurturing, compassionate..as well as vulnerable. Lately i've seen so many women in pain and to be honest with you..it just tears me apart............:(
In my efforts to take all the pain away from my mom, sisters, daughter and of course my internet friends endure...I often fail to realize that's an impossible task. Thats ok, you can bet I will go to my grave trying!
One may ask why is it so important to me to try to bring joy and smiles to every woman I encounter? My answer is simple. Without men this LIFE would be real tough to handle but without women there would be NO LIFE. The fact is NOT only are more working women today then men, women still have to bare and take care of the children and if they have a man they spend time raising us and putting up with our crap. So they basically have at least 3 jobs. I know we guys dont show our appreciation, gratitude and love for you women nearly enough as you deserve it so I wanted too let all of you lovely ladies know that this man (AntoniO) really appreciates you and what you do for me and man-kind itself.
Below is a blog that I felt was time to re-post. Please read and obsorb it along with the video. Praying it helps you feel even better about yourself...Your the best!
The One Flaw In Women
By the time the Lord made woman,
He was into his sixth day of working overtime.
An angel appeared and said,
"Why are you spending so much time on this one?"
And the Lord answered, "Have you seen my spec sheet on her?
She has to be completely washable, but not plastic,
have over 200 movable parts, all replaceable
and able to run on diet coke and leftovers,
have a lap that can hold four children at one time,
have a kiss that can cure anything from a scraped knee to a broken heart and she will do everything with only two hands."
The angel was astounded at the requirements.
"Only two hands!? No way!
And that's just on the standard model?
That's too much work for one day.
Wait until tomorrow to finish."
But I won't," the Lord protested.
"I am so close to finishing this creation that is so close to my own heart.
She already heals herself when she is sick
AND can work 18 hour days."
The angel moved closer and touched the woman.
"But you have made her so soft, Lord."
"She is soft," the Lord agreed,
"but I have also made her tough.
You have no idea what she can endure or accomplish."
"Will she be able to think?", asked the angel.
The Lord replied,
"Not only will she be able to think,
she will be able to reason and negotiate."
The angel then noticed something,
and reaching out, touched the woman's cheek.
"Oops, it looks like you have a leak in this model.
I told you that you were trying to put too much into this one."
"That's not a leak,"
the Lord corrected,
"that's a tear!"
"What's the tear for?" the angel asked.
The Lord said, "The tear is her way of expressing her joy,
her sorrow, her pain, her disappointment, her love,
her loneliness, her grief and her pride."
The angel was impressed.
"You are a genius, Lord.
You thought of everything!
Woman is truly amazing."
And she is!
Women have strengths that amaze men.
They bear hardships and they carry burdens,
but they hold happiness,
love and joy.
They smile when they want to scream.
They sing when they want to cry.
They cry when they are happy
and laugh when they are nervous.
They fight for what they believe in.
They stand up to injustice.
They don't take "no" for an answer
when they believe there is a better solution.
They go without so their family can have.
They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.
They love unconditionally.
They cry when their children excel
and cheer when their friends get awards.
They are happy when they hear about
a birth or a wedding.
Their hearts break when a friend dies.
They grieve at the loss of a family member,
yet they are strong when they think there is no strength left.
They know that a hug and a kiss
can heal a broken heart.
Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.
They'll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you
to show how much they care about you.
The heart of a woman is what makes the world keep turning.
They bring joy, hope and love.
They have compassion and ideals.
They give moral support to their family and friends.
Women have vital things to say and everything to give.
HOWEVER, IF THERE IS ONE FLAW IN WOMEN,
IT IS THAT THEY FORGET THEIR WORTH.
Remember, you are the best that life has to offer so hold your head high!
Full Body Huggz
AntoniO..xoxo (Copy Right 3/11/08)
