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SweetDevilAngel's blog: "MEN"

created on 04/08/2007  |  http://fubar.com/men/b72012

some i was thinking about

why cant i be happy? why is it so hard for me to smile? is it cause so many people dissapoint me in my life? or hurt me? or using me ? people say it is so nice to love someone ... i really dont know anymore how that feels i dont know how to love someone i feel like i am a ghost .... some people dont care about how i feel .... all i was looking for was love someone who love me the same way i love him but everytime i am crossing those type of assholes who just use me and hurt me what is life about ? getting hurt or dissapointed getting so far that i cant trust nobody anymore ? i wished someone could tell me i wished i would find someone who can put that smile back on my face and make my heart happy but i didnt think i will find it again... i dont think there is someone outside in this world who can take the way i am the honest the being real and always speaking my mind person .... alot men r scared of that they cant take it they run away from a woman like me why is that ? men say i need a good woman i need a strong woman i need a woman who is honest and real but when the have one in front of them they cant take it and they only use her and hurt her break her heart they just dont understand what a good woman is going trough with them that she accept all they doing and saying they keep quiet they try to make everybody happy but do someone care to make us good women happy ? nope we have to take anything till it is enough and when we blow up cause it is enough what we take and cant handle it anymore the men run away i will never understand why men r so weak

If A Man Wants You...

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them. BY THE WAY, THIS WAS WRITTEN BY A MAN, SO TAKE A HINT..............

To Love A Black Man?

To Love A Black Man? To love a BLACK man takes courage? To love a BLACK man takes care? To love a BLACK man takes commitment? To love a BLACK man is to accept that there may be a price to pay or a burden to bear? To love a BLACK man is to understand that there is a cross to carry to hold on to the spirit of conviction? To love a BLACK man takes strength? To love a BLACK man takes knowledge? To love a BLACK man takes wisdom? To love a BLACK man is to contribute to his passions, his desires, his dreams To love a BLACK man is to become his reflection, his partner, his Ace To love a BLACK man takes comprehension? To love a BLACK man takes pride? To love a BLACK man takes consistency? To love a BLACK man is to believe in the supremacy of faith, family, and community To love a BLACK man is to embrace culture, history, and tradition To love a BLACK man takes fortitude To love a BLACK man takes trust To love a BLACK man takes confidence To love a BLACK man is to honor struggle and seize adversity To love a BLACK man is to welcome change and challenge society's stereotypes To love a BLACK man takes passion To love a BLACK man takes femininity To love a BLACK man takes charisma To love a BLACK man is to adore completely, without doubt, wholly, and overpoweringly To love a BLACK man is to submit to commonality and make love to possibility To love a BLACK man takes intelligence To love a BLACK man takes magnetism But most importantly to love a BLACK man takes loving YOURSELF

why why why ?

i can feel the pain u giving me every day i gave you everything that I have i always try to help u in any way i showed u how much i cared but u kick me with ur coldness away i have never done anything to hurt u i was always there for u u said u didnt hurt me on purpose and i tell u stop doing it u said u will work on all the things what bother me but i cant see u have done anything about it and thats why it is time that i let it go cause i cant take that pain anymore Why you treat me cold ? Why you do me wrong ? Why you treat me so bad ?
Quickly Get A Man's Attention & Interest >Note: Lots of women who want to find lasting love with a great man don't have it because they simply don't know HOW TO MEET A MAN and get things started... or they don't know how to get the attention and interest of a man they've already met. If you don't know what to do in the first few minutes of meeting a man to get him to ask you out and be interested in you for THE RIGHT REASONS...then you need to read this right now: http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/e/10072/MeetingTheOne/?cids=VSZZZZ&lid=1&sbid=2797097 Dear Sonja, How many times have you met a great guy and wanted to get to know him better... but he just didn't seem to notice you or feel the same way about you? You talked and interacted with him... but you didn't quite know how to make that more personal "connection" with him. And he didn't seem to "make the first move" the way you might have wanted him to. Which was frustrating, because you wanted to spend time with him... but you didn't know how to get the conversation started and "break the ice". And the thought of "approaching" him directly and telling him how you felt seemed like the very last thing to do. So what did you do? You didn't do or say ANYTHING. You waited and tried to "indirectly" get him to notice you. And while you were waiting for him... you tried to find ways to "accidentally" be at the places he was at. You'd try and find out what he was doing and where he was going to be... and then you'd find a reason to go there too so you could end up in his physical presence... in the hopes that something would happen. But still nothing happened. He didn't really even "notice you"... and he didn't take any interest. And you felt foolish for being the one to have to "chase" him. No matter how hard you tried, no matter how many "hints" you dropped, or how many "signals" you tried to send his way... NOTHING came of it. It was like you were somehow "invisible" to him in that romantic kind of way. Not a great feeling, right? If you've been in this kind of situation with a man before, then you know it can make you feel awful. In fact, it can be downright PAINFUL and FRUSTRATING to the point where you don't know what to do next and you become a little hopeless and down on yourself. If you're like lots of women, then in situations like this in your past you've ended up either: A) NEVER sharing your feelings with the man you were crazy about Obviously, this gets you nowhere... B) Finally breaking down and telling him how much you like him and would like to go out with him If you've been down this second road before, then you know it doesn't get you very far with a man either - even though it makes sense that you should tell a man, and that he would respond. But what really happens when you quickly come out and share your feelings for a man in this way? I think you unfortunately know the answer already of what happens when you do this... Instead of him being swept up by your feelings and affections and embracing you... he feels immediately REPELLED by you and your feelings. And as if his negative reaction in the moment wasn't bad enough... he stops communicating with you all together after that, and even the "friendship" you had is gone. Ouch. Now, here's where it gets really strange and fascinating... For lots of women in these kinds of situations with men, this is all just a setup for an even bigger mistake they make that's the proverbial "nail in the coffin". For lots of women, the more a man doesn't seem to notice them or return their affections... the more they SECRETLY CRAVE the man's attention and have an even stronger urge to keep sharing more of their feelings with him. Which of course only makes the man want to get farther and farther away from them the more that they try and share. I wish this wasn't how things worked... but I've seen this exact thing happen so many times that I can see this mistake coming for some women a mile away. But if this mistake is so common, why do so many women make this mistake and engage in the same kind of COUNTERPRODUCTIVE behavior with men? I'll give you the short answer... It's because most women think that the more they share their feelings... the more a man will like them and develop those "romantic feelings" toward them. This is 100% WRONG when it comes to men and dating. The FALSE BELIEF that most women hold here, that drives them to try and share more to get a man interested is that if they just say enough about how they feel... then the man will open his eyes, feel the same way, and recognize what a perfect couple they could be. Here's the point... When it comes to meeting men, getting things started, and "dating"... sharing more of your "deeper" feelings early on can have the exact OPPOSITE EFFECT of what you might think. Instead of a man feeling flattered... he'll often get TURNED OFF by you the more you try to tell him how attractive and wonderful you think he is. Now, this whole idea of having to "censor" yourself and your feelings... or not being able to share who you really are and how you really feel might bother you. In fact, it might bother you a lot. But the reality is that if you care about having a man actually RESPOND to you the way you'd like him to respond... then you're going to have to start to learn to take RESPONSIBILITY for how WHAT YOU communicate to him makes him FEEL. In other words, if you walk up to a man you like and say to him, "Hey, I really like you..." You're NOT going to get you the results you want 9 times out of 10. (At least not in terms of starting a "real" lasting relationship) What's important if you want a man to RESPOND to you and reciprocate your feelings is to first get him LIKING YOU and feeling that magic thing called ATTRACTION for you. And more importantly, to get him "feeling it" for you BEFORE you tell him how you feel. So then when you do share with him how you feel... EVERYTHING will be different and he'll be VERY receptive to you and your feelings. Maybe even a little too "receptive"... and you'll have to do your best to keep his hands off of you (if you want). Luckily, if you're ready... I can help you avoid ever having to be in these kinds of frustrating situations with men ever again. If you want the quickest way I know of to capture a man's attention and interest, and get the conversation started to where HE is asking YOU out... then you need to read this special letter I've written explaining exactly what you need to know in order to instantly capture a man's eye. The secrets and insights I reveal in this special letter talk about some of the very best material that's inside my program "Meeting The One". If you'd like to know exactly what you can SAY and DO to capture a man's attention, and then his heart, then you won't want to miss out on the tips in this letter and inside my amazing CD/DVD program. Learn how to meet and quickly connect with a great man from the very start right here: http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/e/10072/MeetingTheOne/?cids=VSZZZZ&lid=2&sbid=2797097 Now, I want to show you a few QUICK TIPS To help you get what you want from your love life. If you're ready to meet a great guy, or you're looking to make things happen with a great guy you already know... then here's where to start- First, you need to know how to cross that "invisible boundary" between being "friends" with a man... and connecting on a "romantic" level where a deeper level of affection and intimacy is possible. For lots of women, they have NO IDEA how to cross this line with a man in a way that is fun, easy, and most importantly makes a man feel MORE INTERESTED in being around them. Here's where to start... Tip #1: Get his attention in a way that will intrigue him so much he won't be able to resist wanting to get to know you better... and will think of you as the kind of woman he wants from the START. Ever strike up a conversation with a man you were trying to get close to... and it either led you nowhere, or you ended up just being "friends"? You were close to him, and you talked and shared things with him... and your feelings started to grow the more you got to know him. But he didn't seem to have the same feelings growing inside him, and you could tell. You wished there was some way you could break through and have him see you differently. Lots of women who DON'T know how to "break the ice" with a man on a romantic level and end up either not getting a man's interest, or just being stuck in the friend zone no matter what they do or say. Trying too hard to connect with a man if he DOESN'T FEEL that initial SPARK of romantic or sexual interest does NOTHING to convince him that he should spend his time with you. If you want to break the pattern of constantly getting stuck in the "friend zone" with a man... and you'd like to know how you can cross that invisible boundary between... then you need to know how and where to take the conversation to a ROMANTIC LEVEL where a man will quickly start "feeling it" for you. And you need to know how to do this without making the mistake of coming off desperate, or actually turning a man off in the process like so many women accidentally do. Tip #2: Learn The Essential Skill Of "Backleading" Do you ever think or feel like it should be the man who makes the first move? Let me answer the important question here that so many women wonder about when it comes to meeting men- "Is it bad if I ask him out?" Or put it another way, "Shouldn't the man be the one to ask the woman out?" Here's the deal... It's BEST if a man makes the move first, if you want to set the foundation for a more serious and lasting relationship from the start. But... If a man isn't making the move, what's a woman to do? Is it then bad for a woman to make the first move? The answer is NO. It's not bad. But only if you know what you're doing, and you know how to avoid the deadly mistake of setting up a long term "courtship pattern" where YOU are the one chasing HIM. This pattern over the long term will NOT work out well for you. Period. End of story. So... then what can you do if a man isn't making the first move, but you want to make something happen? Here's what to do... I have an amazing friend who's a ballroom dancer. She's INCREDIBLE. One day we were sitting around and she told me about how it's important in dancing to have the roles where one LEADS, and the other dancer FOLLOWS. This is, of course, one of the oldest and simplest human behavior patterns around. Anyways... here's how it related to you and men and dating. My friend, the dancer, shared with me what she would do when her male dance partner was supposed to LEAD, but wasn't doing a great job of it. Instead of CRITICIZING him, or taking the LEAD herself (which wouldn't work out well or get her what she ultimately wanted)... she would do what she called "BACKLEADING". This is where she is able to subtly direct a man to lead and do the things he needs to be doing... but she would do it in a way where she didn't take the lead herself. She was able to CREATE THE SPACE and the opportunity for the man to lead... without having to take the lead herself. As a result, she got to enjoy the process of following his lead in the direction she had wanted things to go in the first place. (Nice!) And all along, the man is a better dance partner AND MORE SATISFIED and ENGAGED in the process because he still felt like he is the one making things happen on HIS TERMS. Wow. Now, I'm sure you're already picking up on where this is going when it comes to men and dating... If you can learn this amazing and subtle skill called BACKLEADING with men in when it comes to dating... and you can help a man take the lead in bringing you and your relationship closer from the very beginning... then the "dating process" and the relationship you create is going to be fun and easy. On the other hand, if you keep on trying to take the lead for a man and tell him where you want to go... then he's naturally going to start RESISTING you and not enjoy the process. He'll feel "pressured" by you and he won't want to follow your lead - because he won't feel like it's what HE WANTS, or his idea. In life, it can make things a whole lot easier if you can find ways to work WITH the "energy" and the people around you... Instead of constantly going AGAINST the grain and trying to get everyone to do and see things YOUR WAY. If you'd like to learn how to quickly engage a man on a "romantic" level (even when he's not showing interest in you initially)... And you'd like to know what to DO and SAY in the first meeting, and on the first several dates or phone calls to create the kind of ATTRACTION that will have him "courting" you, then I STRONGLY RECOMMEND that you check out my new "Meeting The One" CD/DVD program right now. Get the insights and "skills" you need to meet and attract the right man, starting from the moment you and he say "Hello"... all the way past your first several dates and on to when he finally can't help but say "I love you." It's all in my program "Meeting The One" right here: http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/e/10072/MeetingTheOne/?cids=VSZZZZ&lid=3&sbid=2797097 This is a program that I've created just for the purpose of showing women exactly what to do and say to get things started with a man in the "dating process" where his feelings can SHUT OFF in the blink of an eye if you don't know what to do or say next. In this amazing program I answer the age old questions real women deal with when it comes to how men act as you're dating and getting to know each other early on. I answer the questions below and more in great detail: "What does it mean when a man doesn't call?" "How do I get him to ask me out?" "Should I call him? And when?" And... "What should I say?" The answers to these questions will help you build a strong level of interest and attraction inside a man at every step as you're growing closer in the beginning. So don't let what you don't know about men and dating keep you from creating that magical "connection" with the right man. Learn exactly what a man is thinking when he meets you and starts "dating" you... and why he'll quickly pull away and stop calling if you don't show him some specific things about you he needs to see if he's going to think of you as "relationship material" in the back of his mind. The great news is that all these specific things you need to do and say with a man are VERY easy to do once you know what they are... And I can quickly show you what you need to know right now. Now, since I consider you a kind of "insider" I'm sharing with you something new and special... You're the first one I'm sharing this all new program with. You can read all the details about this amazing program I've created, and learn several great insights and tips for free if you go to the link below right now: http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/e/10072/MeetingTheOne/?cids=VSZZZZ&lid=4&sbid=2797097 Don't continue to wait around for the right man to find you, when it can be so fun and easy to CREATE YOUR OWN LUCK in love. You don't have to be single forever. But you need to learn how the "dating process" works for a man BEFORE you're going to be able find your way into a LOVING RELATIONSHIP. There's no skipping the dating process with a man... as much as you might want to. Learn how to be the woman a man will instantly recognize as "girlfriend material" the moment he meets you. Don't keep waiting for the right man to "wake up" and notice you. Help him out AND take your love life into your own hands at the same time.
things a man should never do to me if he love me.. dont hurt me .. dont dissapoint me.. dont push me away.. dont make me lose my trust and believe on u.. dont lie to me .. be there for me when i need u like i will be there for u.. show me ur love and dont just say it.. dont give other women more of ur attention.. dont try to tell me what to do if u cant do what i tell u.. if u do all that then i am gone and will not come back
"Why A Man Gets 'Scared Away' When You Try To Get Him To Commit For The Long-Term- And What To Do About It..." An Open Letter To A Woman Who Wants To ATTRACT And KEEP Mr. Right... Dear Friend, I'd like to ask you a few questions. Be open and honest with yourself as you answer them... Have you ever met a guy who seemed to be "Mr. Right", but after getting to know him better you could tell that he just didn't feel that same level of "connection" you felt? You were attracted to him, but he just wasn't into you the same way you were into him? In your mind, you could sense what a great guy he was, and that, somewhere deep inside, you both shared this strong "chemistry" that made you feel close and comfortable. But for some reason he didn't want to truly connect with you. Another one... Have you ever slept with a guy very quickly after meeting him, but as it started to happen you got that sinking feeling in your stomach? You knew it was a mistake, but you did it anyway. And then the thing you KNEW would happen actually happened: He unexplainably disappeared from your life. Honestly, have you ever had this happen? Of course, the worst part wasn't that it happened, but that you KNEW you shouldn't have done it in the first place... but you did it anyway. And finally: Have you ever dated a great guy for a long time... I'm talking about six months, twelve months, or even longer... and it was getting to the point where you needed to have "the talk" with him. But when you tried to bring up the topic of having a relationship and making a bigger commitment, his eyes just glazed over... and then he became distant from you... and the relationship ended soon after? You were trying to get CLOSER to him, and somehow he kept moving farther AWAY from you. I'm guessing that when one of these things happened, your girlfriends said things like: "He's just a jerk, forget about him". Or they said: "He doesn't see the mistake he's making or what he'll be missing". But he never seemed to see these mistakes... or even miss you. And the worst part of all: You kept thinking about it. In fact, it really GOT TO YOU. And I'll bet the REASON why it got to you is because you worried that it might have been something to do with YOU (and not just because he was a total jerk). In fact, TO THIS DAY you still have the feeling that YOU may have done something wrong, and that you may have CAUSED some of the problems in the first place... and if you would have known the RIGHT thing to do, things would have turned out differently... Unfortunately, the bad news is that you're probably right. Chances are you DID have something to do with it, and things probably WOULD have turned out differently if you would have known how to deal with the situation. You COULD have done something about it... if only you had known WHAT to do... The Secret To Attracting And Keeping A Great Guy... The main PROBLEM here, and the thing that stood in your way, is that men aren't easy to understand. And when you find a good man, he doesn't come with an "instruction manual". Just because your girlfriends told you it wasn't your fault, or that he was just "a jerk", doesn't mean that they understood the problem (or that they understand men at all, for that matter). Most women don't "get" men. Your friends who try to comfort and encourage you have good intentions. They're just trying to make you feel better. But they're also accidentally making the situation WORSE. They're trying to blame the situation on HIM, instead of trying to help YOU understand how to KEEP a great guy around. This situation is MOST dangerous when you meet a really GREAT GUY, but you don't know how to catch him or keep him. Let's face it, great guys are hard to find... and when you do find one, you can't afford to lose him because you made a dumb mistake. You can't afford to throw away a good six months, a year... or even LONGER... and risk losing what could be a valuable relationship... just because you didn't know how to handle a particular situation. Well, there is some good news here... I personally believe that there IS something you can do about it. You CAN learn how to understand men and get them to be open up and understand you. You can learn how to CATCH that great guy, and how to KEEP him. And how do I know this? Because I AM a guy. And I've been in all the situations I just mentioned to you... from the OTHER side. I've seen it from a man's perspective. I've been in those difficult "places" in dating, relationships, and love. After years and years of experiencing these types of situations and hearing about them from my female friends, I decided to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT... I spent well over a year carefully documenting and writing about my experiences. I spent much of that time researching, interviewing women, and working out all the ways a woman can get what she wants out of a relationship without scaring off the man she loves... and without letting any of those confusing "guy issues" get in the way. Here's what I discovered: The 3 Deadly Mistakes Women Make With Men Without EVER Realizing It... Through my research and personal experience, I've found that these 3 mistakes are responsible for more failed dates and relationships with men than any other factors. Here they are: » Mistake #1: Leading A Man To Think You Are "Needy" And "Insecure" Did you know that there are 6 ways you can set off a man's "Insecurity Alert" and make him think twice about pursuing a relationship with you? Sadly, even confident women often "accidentally" give off one of these signs... and just one can kill the chance of a man asking you on a second date. As you read through these signals men pick up on as "needy" and unattractive, ask yourself if YOU have ever been guilty of committing one of these deadly mistakes: * Talking or saying nasty things about your past boyfriends. Saying bad things about men you have been involved with actually reflects the negatively back on YOU. It makes a man worry you are carrying around "baggage" that HE will have to deal with should he become involved with you. * Speaking negatively about other women. When women call other women names like "slut", "bitch", and "crazy", it is anything but impressive to a man you are attracted you. Women will often do this when they see a good looking, desirable woman, especially if they feel their man might be attracted to her. This just makes a man think you are trying to cover up your own insecurities, and looking for validation and attention. Not good. * Too much physical contact, especially in public. If you are constantly hanging on a man or touching him too much he'll start to see it as clingy behavior... but you'll never hear about this from him. It's far better to save your touches for short and infrequent moments that will surprise and enchant him. The next 3 are far deadlier, but less obvious... and it's important that you learn what they are and how to avoid giving them off. But before I show you how to do that, let's talk about mistake #2: » Mistake #2: Appealing To His "Sexual" Side Instead Of His Emotional Side Many women make the mistake of thinking that men are primarily driven by sex alone... and think if they can attract a man SEXUALLY they will be able to attract him EMOTIONALLY as well. Women too often give up sex to a man in the hopes that it will translate into a relationship and get them what they want. In reality, a man has the capacity to view a sexual connection and an emotional connection as two entirely different things, and it requires a special set of skills to mold these two things together in a man's mind... and keep them connected. Men are out for far more than just sex... and a woman who knows how to fulfill a man EMOTIONALLY and SEXUALLY will be the woman who captures a man's heart... and gets that same fulfillment for HERSELF. In a moment, I'll show you how you can learn to do just that... » Mistake #3: Not Knowing How To Size Up A Man's "Relationship Potential" A lot of women will decide whether or not they should put energy into building a relationship with a man based on ATTRACTION. Yes, attraction is important. But it can also be DANGEROUS. When we feel a strong sense of attraction for someone, it can cause us to override our logic and ignore our instincts... leading us to overlook potential partner's deadly faults that could spell trouble down the road. If you've ever found yourself stuck in a relationship that is dragging you down, this is probably why. It's important to be able to size a guy up and spot any "warning signs" of a future bad relationship FAST... so you don't waste any of your time or emotional energy on someone who isn't right for you... or who will leave you heartbroken. Fortunately this is a fairly easy thing to do, and I'd like to show you how... Here's How To Find, Attract, And KEEP The Man You've Always Wanted... Wouldn't it be nice to skip the dozens of dates with lame and shallow men most women have to go through... and fall right into the arms of the man you really want? Would you like to learn how to captivate a man with your sharp wits and your kind heart... and never have to worry about just being wanted for sex again? Would you like to have an almost "unfair" advantage over all other women when it comes to meeting and attracting the man you want... including those women who might be prettier and younger than you? Are you tired of dealing with men who never really commit? Do you want to break out of the destructive cycle of meeting men, dating them, getting into relationships, quitting things that you like to do... only to end up breaking up with the guy and feeling like you wasted your love and your life away on him? Do you ever feel like you just can't find the right man for you... and if you did... that he might not be attracted to YOU? Would you like to know how to change this? Or is there a man in your life right now with whom you would like to take things from "casual" to "committed", but you're not sure exactly how to do it in a way that you know will work... or even if he is interested in in YOU the same way? Or are you in a relationship right now that seems to be growing "stale"... because your man doesn't do nice things for you, call you, or make plans the way he used to... and you'd like a fast and easy way to get things back to the way they used to be? If you answered, "YES" to any of these questions, I have some exciting news for you... I've put together what I like to think of as a "man manual" that literally ANY woman can use to help her both CATCH and KEEP that great guy when he comes along. Your "Secret Weapon" For Success With Men My book is called "Catch Him & Keep Him". I believe that if you learn how to understand "male psychology" and you learn how to handle a few key specific situations, that you can CATCH the man of your dreams, and then KEEP him for the long-term. In my new book, I'm going to take you by the hand, and show you step-by-step how to catch that great guy, and then how to KEEP him around for the long-term... I've decided to publish my book only online in "electronic" format, so you can download it right now , and be reading it within just a few minutes... I'm not an accomplished author, so this book will have some flaws. If you read for literary quality, it might not be for you. But if you're looking for the real... the genuine... no B.S. ways to make a man crazy for you, get what you want out of your relationships - and at the same time - avoid any of traps and mistakes that could cost you a lifetime of lost loves, this could be the most important book you'll ever read. The Secrets Men WISH You Knew- But Don't Know How To Tell You... Have you ever read a romance novel about a strong-willed woman who met a tough, "dangerous" alpha-male man... and over the course of the story, she "tamed" him and won him over... and made him fall completely and helplessly in love with her... to the point where he wanted to be with her FOREVER? We've all heard this one before... but does it ever happen in real life? The answer is YES. Great guys get snagged all the time. Secretly ALL MEN want to find a woman that gives them that "forever" feeling... and when they do, they want to keep her all for themselves. So how does this happen? How does a woman give a man that feeling that lets him know that she's "the one"? Well... as you can imagine... most guys don't really think about this stuff. And even if they did... just as you don't want to have to tell a man how to turn you on, a man doesn't want to tell you how to make him fall in love with you. Like you, he just wants it to HAPPEN. So even though your man will never tell you or even hint at how you can completely capture his heart, you can bet he is secretly hoping you will do all the right things. And that's where I come in. When I set out to write this book, I made it my mission to find what REALLY works when it comes to attracting and keeping great men... and discover exactly how a woman could make love happen in a completely natural way. I interviewed hundreds of men and women... and I discovered some VERY interesting things... I started off by talking with women I knew who had "landed" great guys... desirable, successful men that any woman would consider a "catch". It goes without saying that many other women had tried (unsuccessfully) to tie these guys down. Not surprisingly, I started to notice some common things... I noticed that there was one distinct thing these women did at the very beginning to make a man see them as his "future" rather then just a "casual partner". Each one of them also had a unique, yet simple and accurate way of instantly "sizing a guy up"... so they NEVER wasted time on a guy who wasn't up to their standards (Several of these methods actually got the guy to spill his own "dirty secrets" without knowing it!). They also had a way of handling conflicts, important situations, and "the talk" that was VERY DIFFERENT from what most men are used to seeing (This method instantly puts a man at ease by creating a "you and I against the world" bond that he treasures deeply). Why Guys Fall For Some Women And Not Others... This book wouldn't be complete without the inside "dirt" from us MEN. I made it my mission to track down dozens and dozens of the "cream of the crop"... and I got them to reveal "hows" and "whys" they themselves had never considered... Not surprisingly, every guy I talked to had ways of "screening" women FAST... over the years they had learned to recognize certain signs that told them if a woman was insecure, a "drama queen", had "baggage", was needy or attention-starved, and even ways to instantly tell whether or not a woman knew what she was doing "between the sheets" before they ever got near the bedroom. They also explained what women had done to secure spots in their hearts as the "one and only" (These were guys with plenty of options... but these women did 3 special things that made them completely forget about any and all other women). And most importantly... I got them to reveal the things these special women had done to make those feelings last and last and last... perhaps the biggest challenge us men face in finding a woman to gave our hearts to. I've been very fortunate in life in that I've never had a hard time meeting women or getting dates... but finding a woman who can keep my interest and attention has always been a different story... Come to think of it, I can count the few who "tamed me" on one hand... with a finger or two to spare. (Every guy I interviewed actually said the same.) So of course when I put this book together I looked back at the special women who made me feel those incredible feelings... and figured out exactly what they did differently then the other women whom I've met and dated. I lay it all out for you here... and I hold nothing back. The bottom line is this: Some women know secrets that other women do not. Some seem to know them "instinctively", while others figure them out over time. I've compiled these secrets in my new eBook, and I'm really looking forward to sharing them with you. This is the only book of it's kind... and you won't find these secrets anywhere else. This is THE BOOK I wish a woman that I was interested in would have... and read often. Inside are the secrets every man WISHES a woman would know... and they will bring strength, affection, attention, and love to all who learn them. Here Are Some Of The Secrets You'll Learn Inside My Informative eBook * The inside scoop on what's REALLY going on inside a man's mind, including the things he doesn't want you to know (He'll think you're a psychic when you do exactly the right thing in every situation) * The big mistake women make when having "the talk" and asking a man about the relationship that is guaranteed to make things WORSE than they already are... and what to do about it. * A simple way to get your man to understand your feelings that makes him want to do whatever it takes to take things to the next level (You'll wish you knew about this with every man you were involved with in the past and you'll want to use it with every man you meet from now on) * A simple 3-step method to understanding how your man is feeling that makes him feel closer and closer to you with each step of the process, AND gives you the information you need to keep things moving forward * The BIG SECRET all happy couples share that unhappy couples never realize until it's already too late (You can use this at any stage in a relationship or even when you're just dating to keep things going on the right track) * How women who are "naturally" good with men handle important situations and conflicts (The answer may surprise you, but it's something you MUST know in order for YOUR relationship to ever have a chance of moving from casual to committed) * How to use powerful emotional "triggers" to practically FORCE a man to fall for you (He'll know you're "the one" for him from the first day you meet) - pg. 20 * A way to let a man know that you are "selective" and make him want to do twice as much for you to get your attention (This is the REAL secret to making a man LONG to be with you... and it doesn't involve any weird "manipulation" or bitchy "tricks") - pg. 20 * How to make a man see you as his future rather than just as a "casual" partner (Use this early on and he'll want to see YOU and only you ... keep it up and he'll love you forever ) - pg. 22 * A way to spot a man who is too immature to have a loving relationship, FAST... so you can be sure to NEVER give up your time or your heart to someone who isn't "available" or capable - pg. 25 * How your emotions can deceive you into thinking a man is right for you when your mind (and all of your friends) KNOW he's wrong (Use this simple test to know the TRUTH every time) - later chapter? * EXPOSED: How "players" use cheap and dirty tactics to get women to fall for them, only to leave them helpless and alone (Here's the secret to "turning the tables" that every guy PRAYS you'll never discover) - pgs. 26-30 * The 3 different types of "players", and how to identify each one FAST - pg. 28 * A simple 3-minute exercise you can use to charge yourself with HAPPINESS and EXCITEMENT any time you like! (Use this when you're feeling down or just having a rough day to quickly snap back to the "you" everyone knows and loves) - pg. 70 * The 3 things every woman MUST do before she can have a healthy, loving relationship with a man (Skip any one of these and you run the risk of ending up alone) - pg. 64 * The ways "quality" men screen potential mates (Here's how to make sure you end up on his "hot list" every time) - pg. 44 * 2 connection-killing mistakes that flip a man's negative emotional triggers and send hopes of a future spiraling down - pg. 48 * "Relationship Balance" - How to connect his emotions with yours and send chemistry levels into overdrive (You won't be able to keep your hands off of each other) - pg. 53 * A brand new 5-minute exercise you can use to clear your mind and uncap your powerful hidden communication skills (Use this to instinctively know the very best way to talk about a problem in your relationship) - pg. 54 * The REAL reason why men want sexual variety (And what you can do to make him want YOU and ONLY YOU) * How to tell if a guy is interested in "casual" or "committed"... and the signs that say you should go for more - pg. 58 * How to break the seemingly never-ending cycle of "fast-fizzling" relationships, FAST and FOREVER - pg. 67 * When Hot Relationships Turn Cold - Here's a proven formula to put the sizzling sparks back into your relationship and keep the fire burning FOREVER (This is the secret every guy prays his woman knows, but few ever actually discover) * The Secret Of "Intellectual Attraction" - A powerful way to keep a man interested and crazy for you for as long as you choose - pg. 105 * The Power Of "Emotional Fitness" - How to strengthen your emotions and self-confidence so you are ready (and irresistible ) when your soul mate comes around - pg. 61 * A simple way to make a man realize when he's being an idiot or a jerk without saying a word (He'll be quick to make it up to you when you do this) - pg. 69 * A way to handle an embarrassing situation that actually makes your date BETTER than it was before it happened! - pg. 69 * How to create an emotional connection a man can't ignore the very first time you're out together (This one simple secret will keep him coming back for more) - pg. 69 Special Sneak Peek... * A Way To Get A Man's Attention FAST If you REALLY want to impress a man who is flirting with you... instead of basking in his flirtatious attention, ask him - in an equally flirtatious way - this simple question: "So tell me... what kind of woman do you respect?" Adding a flirtatious element to a serious question is fun and inviting way of building SEXUAL TENSION that will instantly separate you from every other woman he's ever met. It lets him know that you're sassy, smart, and selective - an IRRESISTABLE combination. * The key to making a man forget any bad experiences he has had with women in the past that could stop him from having a relationship with YOU - pg. 73 * The 11 traits that tell him you're a "catch" (Show him 5 or 6 of these and he'll start thinking about the future... show him all 11 and he'll be convinced you are "the one") - pg. 73 * How to act around a man you like if you want him to ask you out - pg. 73 * What to say when a man tells you he's having a "guys night" (Trust me. this is a situation you can't afford to mess up) - pg. 73 * The way a man instantly knows how a woman feels about herself (Use this to let him know you are a strong, confident woman) - pg. 74 * The 5 things women ACCIDENTALLY do to eliminate their chances of a second date with a man (Any one of these could cause him to throw away your number, even if it seemed like things went well ) - pg. 74 * A "danger sign" that lets a man know INSTANTLY when a woman is "needy" (If you don't know what it is, chances are you are giving off this sign now, even if you don't consider yourself a "needy" person) - pg. 74 * A way to make any time you spend with a man the best he's ever had (Do this to make him quickly forget about any other women he is dating) - pg. 87 * How to make a guy feel like YOU are the one person who understands him better than anyone else in the world. even if you've just met (A sure way to trigger his "Keeper Alert" FAST) - pg. 88 * The one thing you MUST know before you approach a man you are interested in (This piece of information will make or break it for you... so pay close attention) - pg. 97 * What to do when he doesn't call you back (This one will surprise you, but it works like magic ) - pg. 80 * A quick way to let him know he's on your mind that says all the right things and gets him thinking about YOU - pg. 108 * Activities you can do with a man that create an instant bond - pg. 108 * How to impress a guy with your talents WITHOUT coming off as conceited or a "show off" (You'd be amazed if you know how many women make this deadly mistake) - pg. 109 * A way to compliment a man that shows just the right amount of interest - and actually makes him chase you MORE! - pg. 109 * A sneaky way to make him go out of his way to impress you and try to win you over (ALL men secretly love when you do this- but they'll never admit it) - pg. 109 * How to let a guy know you are an AMAZING lover before you even set foot in the bedroom (If you're ever wanted to drive a man into an uncontrollable frenzy of passion . THIS IS IT) - pg. 110 * An almost UNFAIR way to get a guy thinking about YOU 24/7 (My guy friends are going to KILL ME for giving this secret away... Use it sparingly - because doing it too much can literally make a guy crazy and clingy with you) - pg. 110 * The secrets women who are "naturally" good with men use to whip "unavailable" men into shape (It always surprised me that more women don't use this, because it's surprisingly simple) - pg. 111 * The 3 subjects you should AVOID LIKE THE PLAGUE when you are talking to a man you like - pg. 112 * The 3 deadly "enemies of attraction" that scare a man off FAST and FOREVER... no matter how much he was into you to begin with - pg. 112 * Why physically attractive women have a HARDER time finding a great man... and what to do about it - pg. 102 * The big mistake women make that instantly triggers a man's "Stay Single" response (If you don't know what it is, chances are you are making it now) - pg. 93 * There's one thing that hurts most women more than any other issue - and you can avoid it - cheating! Learn and follow the seven steps to "cheat-proof" your relationship. * The one question you must NEVER ask within the first 5 minutes of meeting an attractive man - pg. 114 * A "trick question" to ask a man that lets him know right away that he's talking to a unique and exciting woman (This is a truly awesome secret you'll use with every attractive man you meet. I can't wait to share it with you!) - pg. 115 * What you MUST do differently when dealing with REALLY ATTRACTIVE men - pg. 118 * The secret ways men TEST women. and an effortless way to pass these tests every time- even when you don't know you are being tested - pg. 118 * How to use your magical flirting skills to make a man actually ENJOY having "serious" conversations with you (Do this and you'll be able to make him feel closer to you than you will ever know) - pg. 121 * How to make a man more attracted to you by being SELFISH (I know this sounds crazy, but done right it works like magic and men love it. Here's how.) - pg. 107 * The right and wrong way to make physical contact with a man when you're in public (Do this wrong and you'll come off as needy... but do it right and he'll do WHATEVER IT TAKES to get you alone) - pg. 124 * What you should NEVER say about another woman, unless you want a man to think you are insecure - pg. 124 * The big mistake women make without even knowing it that tells a man you have BAGGAGE - pg. 125 * The 6 signs of NEEDINESS and INSECURITY desirable men use to disqualify potential dates (Sadly almost all women give off one or more of these signs ACCIDENTALLY, so it's important you learn what they are so you can avoid them) - pgs. 125 * A simple 4-step plan you can use to GUARANTEE you will meet a man who is exactly what you are looking for - pg. 128 * A surefire way to improve your dating skills FAST that is a ton of fun and requires ZERO effort (You'll be kicking yourself for not doing this sooner!) - pg. 130 * An 8-step way to figure out what kind of man is PERFECT for you (When you know who you are looking for you'll be TWICE as likely to FIND HIM) - pg. 132 * "Guy Talk" Deciphered - Here's how to know what he really means - EVERY TIME. Especially in those frustrating times when he hardly says anyting - pg. 136 * The exact amount of time you should wait to have sex with a man if you want it to turn into something more (Men will HATE ME for revealing this, but it's just too important ) - pg. 137 * The one rule you must set with a man IN THE VERY BEGINNING if you want to ever have a serious relationship with him - pg. 140 * The real truth about how men think about women and dating (some of this you won't want to believe, because it's so far from what women think is going on) and the exact things a woman needs to do if she wants it to turn her situation into something that could last * I've read all the books, heard the speakers and seminars and listened and learned about everything out there for women. It wasn't until I started discussing with women this ONE THING that everything fell together. On page 19 I'll share the most powerful thing a woman can do to be more successful at attracting and keeping men, and why almost no women do it * Were you in a relationship that has ended or is in shambles and you want to repair things? Most women do the exact opposite of what works in this situation. Here's the ONLY SURE WAY to get things back on track... * The single most important thing a single woman can learn - how to identify a good man. And avoid all the wrong ones! * Why your man won't open up to you (Here's a magical way to communicate that makes him want to pour his heart out) * How to pinpoint a man's reasons for not committing so you know exactly what to do about it * The only way to truly repair a relationship that LASTS... * And much, much, much more... Can You REALLY Learn This Stuff In A Book? When I first put "Catch Him And Keep Him" out there for women to read, I was honestly nervous. I knew the information was fantastic and I'd done my homework, but would women be able to actually use it to find and attract the man they always wanted? The responses I've gotten have been more than worth all the time and energy spent. Here's just a few of the great results women have had after reading and using this brand new information... "Hello Christian, I have read the book twice now! I have a few more wrinkles from not sleeping, but I also have my peace, power and integrity back. The book is truly empowering ... I thought that at this point relationships would be easy - you just gotta love someone with the same intensity, and you'll have a beautiful relationship a nd it will be reciprocated. Well not so, since the man I am attracted to is not on the same wavelength and this is where your book is so valuable... Carolyn T., Thousand Oaks, CA" "Christian, Hey, what you said in your book sounds like you're a fly on the wall when my boyfriend and I had a discussion about our relationship the other night we don't even kiss anymore, he's distant and it's just like you talked about- I really feel like he's cheating because of the reasons you talked about but I know I love him. I'm great at communicating and he's not but I know what I've got do about my situation now after reading what you said about a man's mind and how to talk to him. KC, Broken Hearted in Ohio" "Hi Christian, So far the things that you have written in your ebook especially about resistant and unavailable men have helped me tremendously with understanding my boyfriends non-verbal messages instead of taking it so personally like I have done in the past with other relationships. It can destroy a woman's self esteem and confidence. Thank you so much for de-mystifying your gender's behavior. You're a peach! J.R., Galveston, TX P.S. - I actually thought my relationship was over, but now I feel like there's a chance for it to work. Thank goodness because I never had more fun with anyone else! " "Christian, This was like a god send for me but I still wish I that I got this book a month. Then I could have saved myself from the stuff I just went through. I was just dealing with two of the things you talked about in your book on distant men with my boyfriend of four months. We live almost 500 miles apart. I was having the hardest time figuring out what to do and we were either fighting on the phone all the time or he wasn't calling me and didn't seem into us the way he used to be. I've tried your ideas and so far things have been a lot better w/ us... probably also cause I've calmed down a lot. Now I can let him know what I feel & think and it's so much better. Thanks Christian! I've told all my friends that they need to read Catch Him And Keep Him NOW! J.R., Galveston, TX " My goal in writing this eBook was to help make life better for you - whether you just want to find a good guy, develop a wonderful relationship, or find real lasting love. If you're looking to have a great man in your life, this book will show you how to find him... and show him that you are the woman he wants to be with FOREVER, and not just another "fling". If you're seeing a man now and you're unsure of where it's going, this book will show you exactly how to take things in the direction YOU want to go... naturally and comfortably - the way things are meant to be. Let's Wrap This Up The information in this eBook will save you years of time, missed love opportunities and wasted energy. Most women go through their entire lives never learning how to get what they truly want from their relationships. But it doesn't have to be this way. Will it work for everybody? Of course not. But let me ask you this: What if this knowledge helps you get just ONE more date with an interesting, attractive man? Just ONE. Or what if it helped you turn around a difficult, painful or "failing" situation with the guy you've fallen hard for? What would that be worth to you? Now ask yourself: What if there's even a chance that this book can actually teach you how to meet a wonderful man and make him want to be with you forever? What if you really can learn how to attract the kind of man that you've always wanted and finally experience that loving relationship you deserve? How much would that be worth to you? A thousand dollars? Ten thousand? More? For most people I know, it would be priceless. Just the POSSIBILITY of having this kind of special once-in-a-lifetime relationship would be worth the investment. I know that when that time comes for you, you'll look back on this moment and be glad you made this investment in yourself. This much is for sure: Sometime in your life you WILL cross the path of that 100% perfect man for you. Maybe you've met him already... and he's already in your life now... The question is, do you know exactly what to do and say to take things in the direction they are meant to go? Or are you going to let this opportunity slip by and never know what might have been? Do want to even consider the chance that you'll be frustrated and heartbroken again and again... and never get the help and answers you need. Or do you want to get this area of your life IN CONTROL and learn what works - so you can make the most of your time, energy, and your heart? I have one final thought to share with you. After studying behavior for many years, I know one thing: If you don't make the decision to get this part of your life handled right now, there's a very very small chance that you're going to do anything about it in the future... and a very good chance you'll be stuck in the same "dead end" relationship cycle forever...
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